A Newcomers Weekender Thread Nov 27
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Originally Posted by Weasel1966 
BIM???
When I first signed up, there were a lot of AA people here and the "BB" (Big Book) thing threw me. I hadn't wanted to use a name that could be shortened to BB because I had an abusive boyfriend with those initials, but I said, "Bim, that boyfriend was 30 years ago. You can let it go now."
and I did.
But that's why I didn't capitalize "Bimini."
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Originally Posted by BixBees505
Yeah...BB may not be taken, but bb is definitely taken! I can see that!
How's about Bix for me??
How's about Bix for me??
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Best wishes to you MidnightBlue - I have occasional feelings of inadequacy at work but remind yourself Midnight that if you are working hard and doing your best then you have no need to feel bad about yourself
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Originally Posted by BixBees505
I feel that way about SR, too, Midnight. But these folks are also teaching showing me how to actively comfort myself. I'm coming to see this as a basic life skill that I am pretty deficient in. I still feel a little silly, treating myself as if I were a child and needed a treat or a special recognition...but, it really isn't silly, for either a child or an adult to need validation and comfort. To see the need in ourselves and give these things is actually a sign of respect.
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Originally Posted by saoutchik
i have occasional feelings of inadequacy at work but remind yourself midnight that if you are working hard and doing your best then you have no need to feel bad about yourself
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I need today / tomorrow to be the start of a new life for me, I can go weeks without a drink and then when I drink I can't stop and everything goes out the window, today is my third day of drinking from morning till night, I'm 28, male from London England and I can't see how this will ever end, I drink to forget the things I've done and the people I've upset but then when I drink I do it all over again. I need serious help, sorry to burden anyone who is reading this with my downfall but I just need help, thank you
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Welcome, Joe! We've been right there with you, my friend.
That is addiction. Coming to the acceptance that I cannot drink like a normal person was the beginning of recovery for me. How about you? Are you done experimenting? I found it always ended the same way. I maybe could drink moderately sometimes, but it always led back to over-doing it and having massive regrets.
I hope you will stick around here and put down the drink for good.
That is addiction. Coming to the acceptance that I cannot drink like a normal person was the beginning of recovery for me. How about you? Are you done experimenting? I found it always ended the same way. I maybe could drink moderately sometimes, but it always led back to over-doing it and having massive regrets.
I hope you will stick around here and put down the drink for good.
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Originally Posted by joe1987
I need today / tomorrow to be the start of a new life for me, I can go weeks without a drink and then when I drink I can't stop and everything goes out the window, today is my third day of drinking from morning till night, I'm 28, male from London England and I can't see how this will ever end, I drink to forget the things I've done and the people I've upset but then when I drink I do it all over again. I need serious help, sorry to burden anyone who is reading this with my downfall but I just need help, thank you
Welcome to SR. Welcome to the weekender thread.
Stop drinking now.
Hang here and sober up. Keep talking. There are many here who can show you that its possible.
Ken
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Welcome Joe!
It's good that you can go weeks without drinking, sounds like your sobriety plan just needs a few tweaks. You are not burdening anyone Joe - we have all been feeling like you are now on this thread
It's good that you can go weeks without drinking, sounds like your sobriety plan just needs a few tweaks. You are not burdening anyone Joe - we have all been feeling like you are now on this thread
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Joe1987... No one here takes a newcomer story as a burden.
These pages are full of sober success stories, starting from a wide variety of turnaround points. The current threads are full of people doing it now, today, who can and will support and encourage you.
At 28 you have a full life ahead...but full of what? Up to you. Decide now to stop, and don't rethink it.
These pages are full of sober success stories, starting from a wide variety of turnaround points. The current threads are full of people doing it now, today, who can and will support and encourage you.
At 28 you have a full life ahead...but full of what? Up to you. Decide now to stop, and don't rethink it.
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Joe, I think when you're done, you're done.
For me I was tired of it. An hour of buzz for 23 hours of either attempting and failing to maintain that buzz, or passing out or being sick is no way to live.
It ends when you say it ends. You don't need a white light or a horrendous jail/hospital experience. You don't need to lose a job or have an accident. You don't need to lose a relationship or all your money.
"Rock bottom" is the place you stop digging.
For me I was tired of it. An hour of buzz for 23 hours of either attempting and failing to maintain that buzz, or passing out or being sick is no way to live.
It ends when you say it ends. You don't need a white light or a horrendous jail/hospital experience. You don't need to lose a job or have an accident. You don't need to lose a relationship or all your money.
"Rock bottom" is the place you stop digging.
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Originally Posted by joe1987
Thank you ken, I have poured away the last of my drink now
But the problem / issue is not any less.
For me alcoholism is not how often but how it ends. Gallon or a shot if we don't like what happens next then for us, we, me, there is a problem.
Stick around. Learn and read. Say whats on your mind. No one downs drink after drink unless there is something on your mind.
Then make a plan. How will the next time you want to drink be managed? Managed. An impulsive act like drinking needs some forethought.
Again welcome!!
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Thank you for your comments and support, I feel half suicidal and half optimistic, I know I'm not a bad person, my biggest fear is not being liked or offending someone but I happily put myself through hell time and time again
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