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Old 05-16-2013, 01:27 PM
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I trained my loved ones over MANY many years that I wasn't trustworthy.. it took a very long time to earn that back.
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Old 05-20-2013, 11:27 AM
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Why cant I get it?! WHY can't I take all of my energy and focus on myself? Im seriously so concerned about trying to save my marriage that the stress, aggrivation with myself and feeling of desperation is completley consuming me. I feel alone, and somehow think that if he would jump on board with me...it would make this struggle a bit easier.
I have a counseling appointment at my church today. I'm praying that gives me some form of relief. They also have a "celebrate recovery" group that meets every monday night and plan to look into that when I'm there.
Maybe if I thow my entire being into ME... the rest of my life will start to fall back into place. And I'll stop obsessing over things that I can not change.
I just feel alone, have noone to talk to and feel like noone around me understands. Thanks for letting me rant.
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Old 05-20-2013, 12:18 PM
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And I'll stop obsessing over things that I can not change..
If you can successfully do that I can guarantee it will solve many of your problems. Even thinking about things you cannot change ( much less obsessing about them ) is a colossal waste of your time, and those around you.
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Old 05-20-2013, 01:13 PM
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For me atleast...its easier said than done. I'm praying I can master this.
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Old 05-20-2013, 01:48 PM
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Five days clean from my own addiction, and watching my boy-friend struggle with the same addiction to pot I understand that pot is as much of a problem as any other drug.
People say it's "just pot" but it's not. At least not for some of us. I understand how hard it is to try and remain sober when someone else is using. It never helps. And all I really have to offer is empathy and support as five days clean doesn't make me able to offer a lot of advice except keep coming back. I almost didn't but am sure glad I did. Be proud of yourself. It's absolutely awesome and you can do it. False accusations hurt a lot. Unfortunately my hurt and anger has made me that person and my addiction has also made me the accused so I feel where you're coming from. the important thing really is that you were sober at the time. You'll find lots of support here. Thanx for the posts.
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Old 05-20-2013, 01:54 PM
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For me atleast...its easier said than done. I'm praying I can master this.
Yes, it is very hard. Especially since we are the ones that caused the mess in the first place. But remember - even though you cannot change the past, and you cannot change people's current thoughts...you CAN influence and change the future with your actions. And remaining sober and responsible is probably the number one thing that can help regain trust with others.
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Old 05-20-2013, 03:01 PM
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Thank you! I'm really needing encouragment today!!!!
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Old 05-20-2013, 03:20 PM
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I'm really sorry that you are feeling so stressed and so alone. But, you have many people here telling you that you are not alone and that we do care. Allow those good feelings into your mind.

Of course, you want to work on your marriage. I had to do that too. But, above all, you must care for yourself. That's one thing I learned on the way to my bottom. Caring more for others than yourself leads you to the bottom. You must care about yourself, especially now in early recovery.
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Old 05-20-2013, 05:39 PM
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Thank you anna. Youre very correct. I am most important right now. My coundeling session today made me feel hope. I guess I really did just need to get it all out. And I feel refreshed in a way
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Old 05-20-2013, 06:25 PM
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I am sorry you have to go through that. But on the other hand, there's something about others telling us what to do. My husband is supportive, and I need his help, but any time he tries to make a recommendation I flip out. I think the solution does have to come from me, but I just can't listen to it from him. Any of that going on?
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Old 05-20-2013, 06:41 PM
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No. He never tries to make recommendations. He will drain my bank account, take all my credit cards and car keys. But never recommendations.
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