Loneliness is too much
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Join Date: Sep 2010
Location: Norfolk, VA
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Despair, loneliness, misery. The breeding grounds for addiction. You need to get out of yourself, focus on a value outside of your self pitying. Here's my suggestion:
Contact the local humane society and offer to walk some dogs, pet or groom them. Or if you prefer cats, they need human companionship too. You will be amazed at the joy these sheltered animals get out of the most minimal attention.
Stay strong.
Contact the local humane society and offer to walk some dogs, pet or groom them. Or if you prefer cats, they need human companionship too. You will be amazed at the joy these sheltered animals get out of the most minimal attention.
Stay strong.
I looked like that holdin beer
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Join Date: Jun 2012
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Just hard when my friends drink and my boy is gone for a bit, but I know drinking will not make a good day. LOl, I will prob spend my b-day at AA . I should not complain about that, right.
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Join Date: Feb 2010
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Happy Birthday (tomorrow) !!
I always liked my birthdays as they seem like a great place to "draw a line in the sand". Sort of a clean slate.
May seem hard to realize right now but you really can make your 27th year the very best of all of them.
Got to run now (literally...run). Glad you are feeling a little better.
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I always liked my birthdays as they seem like a great place to "draw a line in the sand". Sort of a clean slate.
May seem hard to realize right now but you really can make your 27th year the very best of all of them.
Got to run now (literally...run). Glad you are feeling a little better.
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Join Date: May 2011
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I had my fist sober b day(40) at AA last year soon to be number two this sept.
I ended up having so much fun the whole night, couple people took me out and we played some put- put . Never would I have thought I would have sober bithdays. I was one of those that said well the whole month of sept is party time for my b day. Like whatever I did the same thing the other 11 months. LOL. Self run riot.
And now I wouldnt want anyting less for myself.
So glad you came on and posted . Look at the love you got. I know all my old drinking "friends" sure wouldnt be on this like those that live the recovery road.
I ended up having so much fun the whole night, couple people took me out and we played some put- put . Never would I have thought I would have sober bithdays. I was one of those that said well the whole month of sept is party time for my b day. Like whatever I did the same thing the other 11 months. LOL. Self run riot.
And now I wouldnt want anyting less for myself.
So glad you came on and posted . Look at the love you got. I know all my old drinking "friends" sure wouldnt be on this like those that live the recovery road.
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Originally Posted by MetalChick 
I am celebrating my 27th b-day tomorrow -- lol getting old.
You are still young, with many wonderful, wonderful years ahead of you. Sober years!
Have a blessed birthday.
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Join Date: Apr 2011
Location: Washington
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MetalChick, hi You're not being a baby, 27 is not old, you will get through this sober. Sometimes alone time feels good & sometimes it just sucks. Like it does now for you 
For me sometimes I like to really grasp my personal time & do something good for me. A whole house cleaning, then a clearing (I like to use sage). Open the windows, let all the negative leave. Or a special project so when you walk in the door you are delighted with your accomplishment. It is so good to wake up sober, even if you're lonely for your man, in a good positive sober light. You've done so well Hope you have a great Friday!
You're not being a baby, 27 is not old, you will get through this sober. Sometimes alone time feels good & sometimes it just sucks. Like it does now for you 
For me sometimes I like to really grasp my personal time & do something good for me. A whole house cleaning, then a clearing (I like to use sage). Open the windows, let all the negative leave. Or a special project so when you walk in the door you are delighted with your accomplishment. It is so good to wake up sober, even if you're lonely for your man, in a good positive sober light. You've done so well Hope you have a great Friday!
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Join Date: Dec 2011
Location: Canada. About as far south as you can get
Posts: 4,768
This is an excellent opportunity to pray and read the Big Book.
The Big Book has soothing power... whenever I felt like you are feeling right now I would make a tea and sit down with the BB. I'd be sleeping like a baby in no time.
All the best.
Bob R
The Big Book has soothing power... whenever I felt like you are feeling right now I would make a tea and sit down with the BB. I'd be sleeping like a baby in no time.
All the best.
Bob R
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Join Date: Aug 2011
Location: Oregon
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Hang in there MC, sometimes we just have to take it hour by hour, even minute by minute. You've done so well by realizing the drink won't help, and reaching out. 10 weeks is a long time! But something tells me you've got the gumption. Maybe a little present for yourself at the end of each week? Maybe some regular commitments (coffee, lunch, walk, etc) to help add some order back into your life? Def lots of meetings, posting, and reaching out!
We're all here for you!!
We're all here for you!!
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Join Date: May 2012
Location: London, England
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Hi Metalchick. You can do this. You can stay sober. You're better than to pick up again, and you deserve better too.
I know what you mean about loneliness. My fiance went back to London on Monday after visiting for a fortnight. (He wanted to get away from the olympics).
Now is the time for us to put the work in and make an effort. Hang in there, and be good to yourself.
Love and hugs to you.
I know what you mean about loneliness. My fiance went back to London on Monday after visiting for a fortnight. (He wanted to get away from the olympics).
Now is the time for us to put the work in and make an effort. Hang in there, and be good to yourself.
Love and hugs to you.
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Join Date: Dec 2011
Location: Canada. About as far south as you can get
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Originally Posted by sugarbear1
yeah, get to a meeting and tell people you need to hang out with someone. You can get through this!!
hugs & love,
hugs & love,
All the best.
Bob R
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Join Date: Jul 2012
Location: Boston, MA
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It's a lot more challenging staying sober on your own I think. This is my first time being single and getting sober. Makes it harder but also makes it easier to invest a lot of time in the progam, which is what I'm doing.
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