Today, instead of drinking, I turned and faced my fear of ______?
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Today instead of drinking I continued to work throughout the day despite extreme anxiety, cryed my eyes out because i needed too, and tried my best to accomplish what needed to be done.But fear has been kicking my ass lately, and i still have so many past issues that are keeping me emotional held hostage its a never ending exhausting uphill battle.
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Today instead of drinking I turned and faced my fear of divying up my Moms jewelry between me and my sisters. I faced my fear of more grief and fear of conflict with my sisters.
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Today instead of drinking I turned and faced my fear of being a responsible adult.....
Meaning keeping my promises even when I don't feel like it, arriving on time, doing the right thing even when not doing it is more convenient, telling the truth to myself and others, being patient when I felt like yelling, getting up when I wanted to sleep in, washing my hair when I didnt feel like it, not spending money i did not have, listening even when i was too tired, and on and on....
Meaning keeping my promises even when I don't feel like it, arriving on time, doing the right thing even when not doing it is more convenient, telling the truth to myself and others, being patient when I felt like yelling, getting up when I wanted to sleep in, washing my hair when I didnt feel like it, not spending money i did not have, listening even when i was too tired, and on and on....
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Today instead of drinking I turned and faced my fear of being alone for the holiday, wrapping, having lights on tree, no one else to see or share it with, and still not drinking as a way to soothe myself.
Drinking for me is code for telling myself I can't handle something.
Drinking for me is code for telling myself I can't handle something.
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Today- instead of drinking I turned and faced my fear of grieving my Mother and admitting to myself my feeling anger at my Father and feeling jealous of a sister. These are very uncomfortable feelings to admit to but they are what they are and I spent all day denying them and that route only made me more depressed. Sometimes it is time to face the ugly.
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Today instead of drinking I turned and faced my fear of letting go of my SO who I have been torturing with emotional neediness for weeks. Which is not like me. He is not actually going anywhere but emotionally I needed to let go and finally recognized it because I have been in the grip of some kind of early recovery fear. (false evidence appearing real)
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Turned and faced my fear of my grief and the unknown. I saw a picture and thought "Oh I will have to show that to Mom, she'll love that." And then I remembered she is dead.
I need to face my fear of living my life without her, without a husband, without a child at home. Without a touchstone. And without a drink.
I need to face my fear of living my life without her, without a husband, without a child at home. Without a touchstone. And without a drink.
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Turned and faced my fear of meeting with my Doctor and being honest about my health concerns. And listening to him being honest about my history of not following through on labs and tests.
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Originally Posted by EternalQ 
Turned and faced my fear of meeting with my Doctor and being honest about my health concerns. And listening to him being honest about my history of not following through on labs and tests.
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Today instead of drinking, and, instead of canceling, I met my family for a large restaurant banquet dinner and was the only adult not drinking alcohol in a table of twelve. I ordered sparkling water. It was uncomfortable. But I fought through it and refused to sink back or take refuge in self pity. I can do this. I must.
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Today instead of drinking, I turned and faced my fear of confronting my boss.
Also today instead of drinking I am facing the uncertainty, anxiety and fear as my loved one has emergency surgery.
So much better to face things and be strengthened by them then to drink and teach myself that I am not strong enough to deal with things.
Also today instead of drinking I am facing the uncertainty, anxiety and fear as my loved one has emergency surgery.
So much better to face things and be strengthened by them then to drink and teach myself that I am not strong enough to deal with things.
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