Today, instead of drinking, I turned and faced my fear of ______?
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Today instead of drinking I faced the facts that I won't get much for my house and probably won't find a way to get the 20% down payment required in time to buy the condo I want.
I really wanted to drink because I didn't want to face disappointment and didn't want to be denied my need for immediate gratification.
But I realized that was real alcoholic thinking and after a few hours I have calmed myself down and am back to being an adullt now. Lol.
I really wanted to drink because I didn't want to face disappointment and didn't want to be denied my need for immediate gratification.
But I realized that was real alcoholic thinking and after a few hours I have calmed myself down and am back to being an adullt now. Lol.
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Fill in your answer. Today, instead of drinking, I turned and faced my fear of _________?
For me, today, instead of drinking, I turned and faced: my fear of thunder and lightening. I have had several bad experiences in thunderstorms in the past, and I definitely would be drinking (in the past) to cope. But not this time. Besides, if something dangerous does happen, I need to be sober! Not drunk!
For me, today, instead of drinking, I turned and faced: my fear of thunder and lightening. I have had several bad experiences in thunderstorms in the past, and I definitely would be drinking (in the past) to cope. But not this time. Besides, if something dangerous does happen, I need to be sober! Not drunk!
Today instead of drinking , I turned and faced my fear of leaving my current job and branching out into the unknown. I applied for several new positions and we shall see what happens. I feel I have advanced as far as I can where I am working currently.
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Today instead of drinking I turned and faced my fear of an uncertain future in all respects; where I will live, work, and whether I will be alone.
Sometimes the fear threatens to implode to terror but I talk myself down from those spots so that I see drinking is not the only way out of shorterm discomfort.
Sometimes the fear threatens to implode to terror but I talk myself down from those spots so that I see drinking is not the only way out of shorterm discomfort.
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Wow EternalQ, you are amazing! You are taking the bull by the horns! I can feel your determination right through the computer! You are truly an inspiration!
Today instead of drinking I faced my fears of not being able to "do it all", having a full-time job, raising 3 teenagers, having a marriage, keeping a clean house (yeah right), volunteering at church, taking college classes, enduring financial stress, and trying to look so graceful while doing it all! My fear is just not being able to keep up with everything; it's overwhelming.
Today instead of drinking I faced my fears of not being able to "do it all", having a full-time job, raising 3 teenagers, having a marriage, keeping a clean house (yeah right), volunteering at church, taking college classes, enduring financial stress, and trying to look so graceful while doing it all! My fear is just not being able to keep up with everything; it's overwhelming.
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Today instead of drinking I turned and faced my fear of being strong and my fears of being vulnerable.
I realized I assume I can't handle things before I even try.
Then I used to drink just to make sure I couldn't handle things. Just to prove it.
I'm afraid standing strong against my stress will leave me all alone and vulnerable, in pain..
I'm afraid the feelings will hurt and no one will know or be there.
But the truth is, when I drank was when it hurt and no one was there. No one knew because I kept it a secret, so no one could be there for me.
I realized I assume I can't handle things before I even try.
Then I used to drink just to make sure I couldn't handle things. Just to prove it.
I'm afraid standing strong against my stress will leave me all alone and vulnerable, in pain..
I'm afraid the feelings will hurt and no one will know or be there.
But the truth is, when I drank was when it hurt and no one was there. No one knew because I kept it a secret, so no one could be there for me.
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Today instead of drinking I turned and faced my fear of sameness and fear of being emotionally dead. Is everyday going to follow a similar paws-setting? Why do I have my head full of evil thoughts but no real emotion? The answer is no. This is temporary recovery and since it has been better before, I drop my fears and know it will get better.
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SoberJane, you took the words right out of my mouth. I'm with you on that one.
Today, instead of drinking, I turned and faced my fear of confrontation. I stood up against something that wasn't right instead of backing away because I didn't want a fight.
Today, instead of drinking, I turned and faced my fear of confrontation. I stood up against something that wasn't right instead of backing away because I didn't want a fight.
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Today instead of drinking I turned and faced my fear of having people over my house without shame.
Wednesday night, Thursday night, and two different visitors today on Saturday.
They asked to see it and I hear myself saying yes (and can't believe I'm not aying NO and hiding and drinking instead!)
Wednesday night, Thursday night, and two different visitors today on Saturday.
They asked to see it and I hear myself saying yes (and can't believe I'm not aying NO and hiding and drinking instead!)
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