Can't do it
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Can't do it
Back here again as trying to stop drinking
Not a good start! Read some of the recommendations thanks guys made sense. Still feel even at this stage alcohol is part of me, my identity. For those of you now "cured" that must sound pathetic and stupid.
I started drinking at 14 feel when my identity was forming,so drink was and is an integral part of me.
I can I imagine being an old drunk now, like I have accepted that.
Well not that old as have major health issues , non drink related , that likely will shorten my life.
Everything seems better with a drink, sorry, sorry but people are funnier, the sky looks blue-er, music sounds awesome
Really trying to get more will power but struggling sorry
Not a good start! Read some of the recommendations thanks guys made sense. Still feel even at this stage alcohol is part of me, my identity. For those of you now "cured" that must sound pathetic and stupid.
I started drinking at 14 feel when my identity was forming,so drink was and is an integral part of me.
I can I imagine being an old drunk now, like I have accepted that.
Well not that old as have major health issues , non drink related , that likely will shorten my life.
Everything seems better with a drink, sorry, sorry but people are funnier, the sky looks blue-er, music sounds awesome
Really trying to get more will power but struggling sorry
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How do you know if you haven't been completely sober since 14?
I've done all different kinds of drugs etc since 13 or so also. Been slowly getting them out of my life. Alcohol's the last to go.
Ive found that not drinking. Even for 29 days, the sky is bluer, the air sweeter and the mornings are just wonderful.
How about this. Just stop for 30 days. That's it. Just 30 days. Then go back. Just a short break for you. How about it?
I've done all different kinds of drugs etc since 13 or so also. Been slowly getting them out of my life. Alcohol's the last to go.
Ive found that not drinking. Even for 29 days, the sky is bluer, the air sweeter and the mornings are just wonderful.
How about this. Just stop for 30 days. That's it. Just 30 days. Then go back. Just a short break for you. How about it?
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Started drinking at 21. My drinking problem start 2008. Got really back in 2009. Start trying to stop. I go a binge drinking for days. I don't what this for my life. I'm in hell because of it. Trying to sober up. Not easy but I need to stop sometime.
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We CAN do it!!
I know it! It does seem hopeless... I know! But as I think about this more, I really look forward to life sober. I don't want to be drunk forever. Why would anyone want that? Yes, things seem better... briefly... and then they're hopelessly worse!! I've put my quit date at the 1st of the year, and yet, I cant help wanting to quit sooner! Seems silly, I know it! but it's this part of me/ US that I dont want to let go of! I will be sober January 1st!! Hopefully you will be then too! or before then if possible! 
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I have had periods of sobriety, no alcohol at all for 3 months at a time. But it's so hard and I did not find anything when iwas sober !!
I am sad to admit everything is better with alcohol , should I say that out loud?
Yeh I know that makes me some kind of dumb f*ckwitt
I am sad to admit everything is better with alcohol , should I say that out loud?
Yeh I know that makes me some kind of dumb f*ckwitt
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It makes you the same as the rest of us Daphne.
Drinking was my life - it was bound up in my identity too - but it was killing me. I would not have lived to be an 'old drunk' - many of us don't.
Drinking never gets better as the years go on. It gets worse and worse and you risk more and more of the things you love - family, career, reputation....
It was hard to quit - maybe the hardest thing I've had to do - but it was worth it.
stopping drinking is only the first part. We also have to learn to live sober and be happier about it.
Find support - not only to help you with not drinking but to help you deal with the stresses and up and and downs of life.
If I can do it, you can too Daphne.
Trust me the sky really is bluer on this side
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Drinking was my life - it was bound up in my identity too - but it was killing me. I would not have lived to be an 'old drunk' - many of us don't.
Drinking never gets better as the years go on. It gets worse and worse and you risk more and more of the things you love - family, career, reputation....
It was hard to quit - maybe the hardest thing I've had to do - but it was worth it.
stopping drinking is only the first part. We also have to learn to live sober and be happier about it.
Find support - not only to help you with not drinking but to help you deal with the stresses and up and and downs of life.
If I can do it, you can too Daphne.
Trust me the sky really is bluer on this side
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I'm sorry that you feel that way, Daphne.
It's really hard to stop drinking and you need a lot of motivation to do it.
I wonder if alcohol causes problems in your life? It sure did for me.
It's really hard to stop drinking and you need a lot of motivation to do it.
I wonder if alcohol causes problems in your life? It sure did for me.
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Originally Posted by Dee74 
It makes you the same as the rest of us Daphne.
Drinking was my life - it was bound up in my identity too - but it was killing me. I would not have lived to be an 'old drunk' - many of us don't
Drinking never gets better as the years go on. It gets worse and worse and you risk more and more of the things you love - family, career, reputation....
It was hard to quit - maybe the hardest thing I've had to do - but it was worth it.
Trust me the sky really is bluer on this side
D
Drinking was my life - it was bound up in my identity too - but it was killing me. I would not have lived to be an 'old drunk' - many of us don't
Drinking never gets better as the years go on. It gets worse and worse and you risk more and more of the things you love - family, career, reputation....
It was hard to quit - maybe the hardest thing I've had to do - but it was worth it.
Trust me the sky really is bluer on this side
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If you don't mind me asking how old were u when u stopped?
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Originally Posted by Anna
I'm sorry that you feel that way, Daphne.
It's really hard to stop drinking and you need a lot of motivation to do it.
I wonder if alcohol causes problems in your life? It sure did for me.
It's really hard to stop drinking and you need a lot of motivation to do it.
I wonder if alcohol causes problems in your life? It sure did for me.
Good job
Good family
Fab kids
Do lots of things other than drink
Just know drink makes things seem better, stress relief, like myself more etc etc
Know I have big prob by fact I drink so much in a week
What kinda probs did your drinking cause?
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Thanks dee such a kind guy? Gal?
If you don't mind me asking how old were u when u stopped?
If you don't mind me asking how old were u when u stopped?
I was nearly 40, but I'd drunk for 20 years...started as a binger - got progressive worse.
The last 5 years were daily, all day everyday.
No major problems no
It's never too late, Daphne, regardless of age
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I lost interest in pretty much everything else. I was depressed all the time and didn't sleep much at all.
My health, both physical and mental, suffered.
I wasn't a good mother, wife, friend.
I didn't like myself at all.
My health, both physical and mental, suffered.
I wasn't a good mother, wife, friend.
I didn't like myself at all.
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Hi Daphne,
Thinking that you can't do this and stay sober is just a thought, that's all, just a thought.
Thoughts aren't facts, as they say in A.A..
I couldn't stop drinking till I went to A.A. and received some help. I couldn't stop drinking alone, but I could within a fellowship that provided me the support and information I needed.
You can do this; seriously.
Thinking that you can't do this and stay sober is just a thought, that's all, just a thought.
Thoughts aren't facts, as they say in A.A..
I couldn't stop drinking till I went to A.A. and received some help. I couldn't stop drinking alone, but I could within a fellowship that provided me the support and information I needed.
You can do this; seriously.
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Daphne-
Sounds like you are not ready to get sober, or are in denial. or both. I was in that exact spot for many, many years. We can't motivate you to stop drinking, that is your decision and must come from within.
Sounds like you are not ready to get sober, or are in denial. or both. I was in that exact spot for many, many years. We can't motivate you to stop drinking, that is your decision and must come from within.
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Originally Posted by Dee74
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I was nearly 40, but I'd drunk for 20 years...started as a binger - got progressive worse.
The last 5 years were daily, all day everyday.
You can expect them if you keep drinking Daphne. It's inevitable for all of us.
It's never too late, Daphne, regardless of age
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I was nearly 40, but I'd drunk for 20 years...started as a binger - got progressive worse.
The last 5 years were daily, all day everyday.
You can expect them if you keep drinking Daphne. It's inevitable for all of us.
It's never too late, Daphne, regardless of age
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Think I am around same age as you
My health is already compromised despite the drink
What was the defining moment for you?
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Originally Posted by Bimm
Daphne-
Sounds like you are not ready to get sober, or are in denial. or both. I was in that exact spot for many, many years. We can't motivate you to stop drinking, that is your decision and must come from within.
Sounds like you are not ready to get sober, or are in denial. or both. I was in that exact spot for many, many years. We can't motivate you to stop drinking, that is your decision and must come from within.
Most of the time
Know I am killing myself wi drink and refusal of medication for other health probes
Why ?who knows
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Yeh dee I know I know
Think I am around same age as you
My health is already compromised despite the drink
What was the defining moment for you?
Think I am around same age as you
My health is already compromised despite the drink
What was the defining moment for you?
You don't want to end up there Daphne.
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Originally Posted by Dee74
actually the defining moment for me was nearly dying.
You don't want to end up there Daphne.
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You don't want to end up there Daphne.
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James blunt song kinda sums it up .....
Trouble is her only friend and he's back again.
Makes her body older than it really is.
She says it's high time she went away,
No one's got much to say in this town.
Trouble is the only way is down.
Down, down.
As strong as you were, tender you go.
I'm watching you breathing for the last time.
A song for your heart, but when it is quiet,
I know what it means and I'll carry you home.
I'll carry you home.
If she had wings she would fly away,
And another day God will give her some.
Trouble is the only way is down.
Down, down.
Trouble is her only friend and he's back again.
Makes her body older than it really is.
She says it's high time she went away,
No one's got much to say in this town.
Trouble is the only way is down.
Down, down.
As strong as you were, tender you go.
I'm watching you breathing for the last time.
A song for your heart, but when it is quiet,
I know what it means and I'll carry you home.
I'll carry you home.
If she had wings she would fly away,
And another day God will give her some.
Trouble is the only way is down.
Down, down.
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I'm pretty sure had I kept drinking I would not be here now - I drank hard, I was reckless, I took no care of myself and like you, I have other health problems, and everything combined would have finished me off by now.
A truly sobering thought.
I'm glad things worked out as they did Daphne - I've done more in the last 5 years that I did in the previous 20. And I love my live and who I am now.
I never felt that way before as an adult ever.
so...I really love talking about myself Daphne (not)
....
if it helps, you can read a fuller version of my story in the Stories of Recovery forum
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...-part-one.html
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...-part-2-a.html
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A truly sobering thought.
I'm glad things worked out as they did Daphne - I've done more in the last 5 years that I did in the previous 20. And I love my live and who I am now.
I never felt that way before as an adult ever.
so...I really love talking about myself Daphne (not)
....if it helps, you can read a fuller version of my story in the Stories of Recovery forum
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...-part-one.html
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...-part-2-a.html
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