Do I belong here?
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Do I belong here?
I quit drinking for eight months. That was three years ago, and now feel like I should probably give it another go. My life hasn't spiraled out of control and some people have told me that I haven't lost enough yet to fully be committed to stopping. I have come to realize that my drinking is quite selfish though, and fear losing my health, wife, and job if my patterns of drinking continue. When and where I'm going to drink generally consumes much of my day and have become masterful at hiding my drinking from loved ones. I know drinking is ultimately my choice, yet continue to make excuses or rationalize my behaviors (I had a bad day = drink, my wife had a bad day = drink, I had a good day and should celebrate with a drink, and so on). I'm pretty sure that I began drinking to deal with underlying anxiety, but now feel that it is only contributing to this problem. I don't want to make this too lengthy, but would appreciate any feedback or encouragement from those with similar experience. Thanks.
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Hi and Welcome,
I think many of us began drinking to deal with anxiety or depression. I know I did. And, I had no idea how big of a mistake that would be. It makes things so much worse. Take a look around and read and learn.
I think many of us began drinking to deal with anxiety or depression. I know I did. And, I had no idea how big of a mistake that would be. It makes things so much worse. Take a look around and read and learn.
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Anxiety and Drinking
It seems to me, Phan, that you could benefit by attending DRA meetings...Dual Recovery Anonymous, where the members do cross-talk, and discuss their mental problem (anxiety/depression/bi-polar), etc., AS WELL AS the substance abuse problem (alcohol, or other drugs).
We have a great meeting in the Toronto area, in Canada, on Thursdays from 7 to 8 pm....the group is great.
Kelly
We have a great meeting in the Toronto area, in Canada, on Thursdays from 7 to 8 pm....the group is great.
Kelly
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Welcome to SR Phan! I'm glad you found us and joined the family.
I also self medicated my anxiety and depression with alcohol, but it didn't take long for that to backfire and make the anxiety and depression much worse. I think you are smart to want to quit drinking before something really bad happens. Alcoholism is progressive and will only get worse if you continue to drink.
I don't know what your drinking habits/patterns are, but if withdrawal is a problem please get medical attention right away.
Again, welcome!
I also self medicated my anxiety and depression with alcohol, but it didn't take long for that to backfire and make the anxiety and depression much worse. I think you are smart to want to quit drinking before something really bad happens. Alcoholism is progressive and will only get worse if you continue to drink.
I don't know what your drinking habits/patterns are, but if withdrawal is a problem please get medical attention right away.
Again, welcome!
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Welcome, Phan! You sound very much like me. I had social anxiety issues and drinking really seemed to help with that. 25 years later it had almost destroyed me. I used it for every occasion, to numb myself & to cope with life. Trouble is, I didn't grow or learn to deal with anything - I remained stopped in time emotionally. I'm only now realizing what other always knew - there are no short cuts around life's challenges. We must go through them, not around them. Alcohol only seems to make the journey easier. In the end, it made me more shy - even reclusive.
Congratulations on seeing what needs to be done to keep yourself from losing everything. I don't believe in the theory that you have to reach your bottom before seeking recovery.
Congratulations on seeing what needs to be done to keep yourself from losing everything. I don't believe in the theory that you have to reach your bottom before seeking recovery.
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Mark,
Good point about questioning how low I want to go. I have made a conscious decision to stop drinking and am actually on day three which has already proven to be painful. Even when I was sober for eight months, I was consumed by constant thoughts about drinking. Do these thoughts ever fade?
Good point about questioning how low I want to go. I have made a conscious decision to stop drinking and am actually on day three which has already proven to be painful. Even when I was sober for eight months, I was consumed by constant thoughts about drinking. Do these thoughts ever fade?
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Welcome Phan, glad you found us 
And yet many recovering addicts/alkies go through some of this at some time.
Always Grateful I did not pick up today even though I am no longer beset by physical cravings and mental obsession. I never forget what it was like.
Kevin
Originally Posted by Cubile75 
Yes the thoughts fade... If you find a program of recovery that allows you to recover, not just abstain.
White knuckling it is not recovery.
Mark
White knuckling it is not recovery.
Mark
Always Grateful I did not pick up today even though I am no longer beset by physical cravings and mental obsession. I never forget what it was like.
Kevin
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