Pekelover2

Sounds like a plan, Steely!

Pekelover2

I had a nice time with my friend today. We sat and talked for three plus hours. It was great.
Now I’m home. I need to get into my PJS. That mentality means that I’m home, lol.
Going to feed the dogs and start cleaning some of the kitchen.

Tomorrow we’re riding at 8:30am. I’m so excited. Scared but excited. Feel like my ride Thursday night was a fluke (because it went pretty smoothly).

I need to focus on my dogs more. I’m not “there” for them because I’m so depressed/distracted. Once the sober me is here for a few weeks, things will get better.

Dee74

Just a few things that need to be done this week.
I think I'm on top of things now
Don't apologise for sharing here!


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MagnumCat

Thank you all for your words of encouragement.

My mom and I are okay again. As with most things, it wasn't near as bad as I thought it would be. We both skirted around the subject for a while, but then she brought it up. I assured her that I am not drinking any more and that I am committed to my sobriety and this group for support. She's happy with that, but it will take time for her to really trust that I am actually going to follow through this time. I am an only child and we have a close relationship. She's a senior, lives by herself and really counts on me being there for her so I'm not going to let her down.

DeplorableDog

Well, that was unexpected. I got into an argument about alcohol tonight. I was over at my friend Bob's house helping him work on his car when one of his other friends showed up. His other friend was young, knew nothing about cars but just wanted to talk. I was fine with that until he started bragging about how much vodka he could drink. I ignored him but he kept going on and on. Finally I said, "Bob, I remember when I was young and thought how much I could drink was something to brag about." Bob just replied "Yes, me too." But then his friend tried to backpedal. He said, "O I've actually quit drinking because it's just too expensive. " That's when I called him a liar. I said, "You are lying, no one has ever quit drinking and then brags about how much they can drink." He tried again to insist he had quit and Bob and I continued to call him on it. He decided it was time for him to leave. I don't regret calling him a liar. I just regret never recommending SR.

Brandy123

Huh? Just Quit;

Venus, I would take you more seriosly if you stopped calling people "Dear" - in my culture - very disrespectful. .

Brandy123

Venus - PLEASE stop calling People "Dear",, etc. Just say what you want to say without the flowery language. In my Culture = Just No

I think people have big hearts,

DeplorableDog

Venuscat, You can call me "Dear" all you want to. I don't get offended by much and I certainly wont be offended by you calling me "Dear."

Brandy123

Don't shut up. I like your posts.

Thinking about getting a bike or an electric bike.

Any recs??

Brandy123

You do not understand other Peoples Cultures. It can be offensive.

Steely

I don't think you'll have much problem with that Brandy. Calling you 'dear', that is.

So long as no one directs it at you, all should be well.

Dear Venus ..... ❤️

Brandy123

I tried to make a point, it seems like a club.

New people who bring their new ideas and cultures seem to get shot down Oh well. Bye again. I try to check back for sobriety but I don't see the point

In my culture, you better know someone before you call them "Dear, Sweetie, -Honey". It is disrespecful. People have to be aware of these things and watch their language when posting

And I am not saying anyone doesn't mean well, but I do think people have to be careful when using certain terms.

Steely

Sobriety is the entire point Brandy.

Actually, I thought you'd been drinking. And if you have, this is the place to talk about it.

I'd like you to introduce your culture Brandy. You've never said.

Brandy123

Steely, I haven't drank in years. My GOD.

i AM FURIOUS,. I said something you didn't like and now you think I am drinking. Do you KNOW how hard it was to stop drinking? I have been sober for a long time. This is blowing my mind THIS was awful what you implied.

I said something you didn't like and now I must have said it because I am drinking.

My GOD. I am off.

Steely

I didn't realise that Brandy. Sorry. Great.

What support are you seeking then Brandy?

Pekelover2

This sounds positive Magnum. I’m glad to read this! Sending you a hug.

Pekelover2

Dee, I’m glad that you’re on top of your to-do list.

DeplorableDog

The only thing offensive in my culture is the north end of a south bound mule trying to tell me when I should be offended.

Pekelover2

DD- I wonder if this young guy backpedaled because he realized that he was in the company of two sober men. Maybe he fibbed about quitting drinking in order to fit in? Not saying that’s right or okay. Something I’m learning is to put myself in other ppl’s shoes. Just thinking out loud here. It seems like it was definitely a 180 degree turn…🤷‍♀️

DeplorableDog

Well, he wasn't exactly in the company of two sober men, Bob had a can of Budweiser around somewhere. However Bob knows I am quit and I don't consider him an alcoholic because he drinks in moderation and doesn't hammer himself. Now, if the whiskey comes out at Bob's house I am out of there and he knows that. The young guy was trying to fit in. He tried to talk like he knows everything about cars as well. I happen to know that is not true. I let that go by with no remarks on my part. But the bragging about how much he could drink and then claiming he doesn't drink just flipped a switch in me for some reason. Probably because I am 6 months into my quit and the last thing I want to do is tell anybody how much I drank.