Class of February 2023 Part 1
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Join Date: Dec 2020
Posts: 2,631
Thanks guys for the kind words.
Stressed this morning. Mr RAL now saying he doesn't want to come away tomorrow. He always does this so I don't know why I'm surprised. He looks forward to the hols and loves the sun yet the day or 2 before departure seems to get an immense nervousness about travelling and decides not to come with us. Of course no one particularly likes the travelling bit (ok well I do really, love the airport like a child at Christmas!!) but it's just a means to an end. Oh well what will be will be. JR RAL and I will still go and have a lovely time. Sober time.
Hope everyone has a good day x
Stressed this morning. Mr RAL now saying he doesn't want to come away tomorrow. He always does this so I don't know why I'm surprised. He looks forward to the hols and loves the sun yet the day or 2 before departure seems to get an immense nervousness about travelling and decides not to come with us. Of course no one particularly likes the travelling bit (ok well I do really, love the airport like a child at Christmas!!) but it's just a means to an end. Oh well what will be will be. JR RAL and I will still go and have a lovely time. Sober time.
Hope everyone has a good day x
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Join Date: Oct 2015
Location: west falls, ny
Posts: 603
Hi RAL,
. I have my trip in a couple weeks and I tend to get edgy until under way.
Will my flight get delayed??
Will I make it to the ship on time??
I worked as a planner in industry for 40 years,
And I do enjoy the whole preplanning aspect of things.
But then I start worrying about things going wrong.
Not sure if that is Mr RALs concern.
I hope that you enjoy your trip come what may.
I know a lot of folks enjoy their sweets, chocolate, etc after quiting.
My real carb craving is bread.
How I love bread products with real butter!
I'm out of bread here, not even a bagel in sight.
. I'll be ok though, I still have ' taters to fry up.
I'll go shopping tomorrow when everyone is back at work after the US holiday.
Have a good sober day folks!
. I have my trip in a couple weeks and I tend to get edgy until under way.
Will my flight get delayed??
Will I make it to the ship on time??
I worked as a planner in industry for 40 years,
And I do enjoy the whole preplanning aspect of things.
But then I start worrying about things going wrong.
Not sure if that is Mr RALs concern.
I hope that you enjoy your trip come what may.
I know a lot of folks enjoy their sweets, chocolate, etc after quiting.
My real carb craving is bread.
How I love bread products with real butter!
I'm out of bread here, not even a bagel in sight.
. I'll be ok though, I still have ' taters to fry up.
I'll go shopping tomorrow when everyone is back at work after the US holiday.
Have a good sober day folks!
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Join Date: Apr 2020
Location: Mid-Atlantic states
Posts: 1,009
Fried taters sound amazing, Zenith! My grandmother made the best. I have never been able to quite get it right. She made amazing flat cornbread as well. Soooo good with fresh butter! You are making me hungry!
Yield beautiful changes
Join Date: Feb 2008
Location: A home filled with love
Posts: 1,705
Hi, RAL! I, too, love the airport! I love people-watching, eating holiday-sanctioned junk, and sitting quietly with my novel in a crowded room (one of my childhood daydreams was to be able to read at parties, so this is satisfying on a level that’s hard to describe)!
It would hurt my feelings if my partner changed his mind about going with me on vacation. I have to remind myself that it’s probably not about me, at all. My ex (who suffered terribly from alcoholism) had trouble following through with such plans, and I, mistakenly, took it personally. I still have some worthiness struggles when I think about the topic. Still, as I’m sure you know, you are not in charge of anyone else’s mind, feelings, or decisions. His challenges are his own, and they do not reflect your value.
I’m glad to hear that you will still take the trip with your son. It sounds like a lovely time, and you deserve some loveliness!
It would hurt my feelings if my partner changed his mind about going with me on vacation. I have to remind myself that it’s probably not about me, at all. My ex (who suffered terribly from alcoholism) had trouble following through with such plans, and I, mistakenly, took it personally. I still have some worthiness struggles when I think about the topic. Still, as I’m sure you know, you are not in charge of anyone else’s mind, feelings, or decisions. His challenges are his own, and they do not reflect your value.
I’m glad to hear that you will still take the trip with your son. It sounds like a lovely time, and you deserve some loveliness!
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Join Date: Oct 2015
Location: west falls, ny
Posts: 603
Oglsby,
. I'm pretty old school and probably make them like your grandmother.
I use a cast iron frying pan,
Get the oil hot.
Then throw the cubed potatoes in.
After they're browned, I throw in the onions.
(If you throw the onions in at first with the potatoes, all gets soggy)
My loaded home fries also get jalapenos, beaten egg, and shredded cheddar cheese.
Then top with gravy.
A meal in a bowl!
I bake cornbread in my cast iron pan in the oven too.
Never, use soap in your cast iron.
It wrecks the seasoning.
Just scrub in hot water,
After it dries, coat it with olive oil to keep from rusting.
Fun fact: over a hundred years ago folks had more iron in their diets from cooking in cast iron.
. I'm pretty old school and probably make them like your grandmother.
I use a cast iron frying pan,
Get the oil hot.
Then throw the cubed potatoes in.
After they're browned, I throw in the onions.
(If you throw the onions in at first with the potatoes, all gets soggy)
My loaded home fries also get jalapenos, beaten egg, and shredded cheddar cheese.
Then top with gravy.
A meal in a bowl!
I bake cornbread in my cast iron pan in the oven too.
Never, use soap in your cast iron.
It wrecks the seasoning.
Just scrub in hot water,
After it dries, coat it with olive oil to keep from rusting.
Fun fact: over a hundred years ago folks had more iron in their diets from cooking in cast iron.
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Join Date: Nov 2012
Location: German Village, Columbus with my love ♥
Posts: 88,611
Originally Posted by RAL 
Thanks guys for the kind words.
Stressed this morning. Mr RAL now saying he doesn't want to come away tomorrow. He always does this so I don't know why I'm surprised. He looks forward to the hols and loves the sun yet the day or 2 before departure seems to get an immense nervousness about travelling and decides not to come with us. Of course no one particularly likes the travelling bit (ok well I do really, love the airport like a child at Christmas!!) but it's just a means to an end. Oh well what will be will be. JR RAL and I will still go and have a lovely time. Sober time.
Hope everyone has a good day x
Stressed this morning. Mr RAL now saying he doesn't want to come away tomorrow. He always does this so I don't know why I'm surprised. He looks forward to the hols and loves the sun yet the day or 2 before departure seems to get an immense nervousness about travelling and decides not to come with us. Of course no one particularly likes the travelling bit (ok well I do really, love the airport like a child at Christmas!!) but it's just a means to an end. Oh well what will be will be. JR RAL and I will still go and have a lovely time. Sober time.
Hope everyone has a good day x
sI really hope you and RAL Jr have a wonderful time! It sounds fabulous.
s ❤️
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Join Date: Sep 2013
Location: San Diego, Cali
Posts: 2,661
Good morning! 
Day 15 ((I think) and doing pretty well. Went on a biz trip and avoided a minefield of decisions that could have sent me down the road to drinking again.
I kept thinking of my promise to my daughters, and something Dee said a long time ago….get to a place where you realize that alcohol isn’t something you should miss (and I paraphrase). I don’t miss being drunk and sick, worrying my children and putting out the welcome mat for cancer to return. What kind of idiot would miss all that?!
Zenith those potatoes sound delicious! Cooking is very healing.
RAL I used to be married to someone with similar anxiety about travel. I hope you have a great time with your son though! And I get the disappointment. Both feelings are ok.
All the best to everyone who is doing so great at putting together sober days.
Day 15 ((I think) and doing pretty well. Went on a biz trip and avoided a minefield of decisions that could have sent me down the road to drinking again.
I kept thinking of my promise to my daughters, and something Dee said a long time ago….get to a place where you realize that alcohol isn’t something you should miss (and I paraphrase). I don’t miss being drunk and sick, worrying my children and putting out the welcome mat for cancer to return. What kind of idiot would miss all that?!
Zenith those potatoes sound delicious! Cooking is very healing.
RAL I used to be married to someone with similar anxiety about travel. I hope you have a great time with your son though! And I get the disappointment. Both feelings are ok.
All the best to everyone who is doing so great at putting together sober days.
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Join Date: Oct 2020
Location: Near the mountains
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Potatoes and onions is one of my favorite dishes in the world. Brings back so many good childhood memories.
Hope you enjoy the trip RAL. I'm hoping to bring my family to Europe in about 3 years and want to start in Spain.
Hope you enjoy the trip RAL. I'm hoping to bring my family to Europe in about 3 years and want to start in Spain.
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Join Date: Sep 2011
Posts: 3,115
Hey all!
RAL--I know it hurts, I was that person about trying to wriggle out of trips at the last minute, I have horrible travel anxiety.
I didn't ever not go though(only last year but it didn't affect anyone else but me and that was a bit extreme); I always managed to convince myself to go. The things that helped me was allowing a lot of time for unforeseen issues to arise and planning everything out(as much as possible of course.)
I don't know if this would help your hub, as he may have a completely different issue than mine.
And of course, once I arrived I was fine--I never regretted going.
My ex husband was completely the opposite of me so traveling with him almost drove me nuts. But, it did make me deal with my fears so it was a good learning experience.
RAL--I know it hurts, I was that person about trying to wriggle out of trips at the last minute, I have horrible travel anxiety.
I didn't ever not go though(only last year but it didn't affect anyone else but me and that was a bit extreme); I always managed to convince myself to go. The things that helped me was allowing a lot of time for unforeseen issues to arise and planning everything out(as much as possible of course.)
I don't know if this would help your hub, as he may have a completely different issue than mine.
And of course, once I arrived I was fine--I never regretted going.
My ex husband was completely the opposite of me so traveling with him almost drove me nuts. But, it did make me deal with my fears so it was a good learning experience.
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Join Date: Mar 2019
Posts: 302
Hello SR! I had a great weekend with family and get to enjoy another day off today. I decided to chop 11 inches off my hair and embrace a new me.
It’s been 76 days and I feel great. I don’t miss alcohol one bit. It’s still challenging to understand that I can’t moderate but overall I’m free. Cutting my hair was symbolic of this in a sense, as I’ve always hid behind my long hair. I no can longer hide behind alcohol and alcohol can no longer hide my true self.
I hope everyone has a fantastic day!
It’s been 76 days and I feel great. I don’t miss alcohol one bit. It’s still challenging to understand that I can’t moderate but overall I’m free. Cutting my hair was symbolic of this in a sense, as I’ve always hid behind my long hair. I no can longer hide behind alcohol and alcohol can no longer hide my true self.
I hope everyone has a fantastic day!
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Join Date: Jun 2015
Posts: 202
Day 8 . Getting better but the fog is still around . Feeling very tired & groggy. This time , its taking longer than previous attempts . Must be due to the ever increasing quantities of alcohol consumption through many relapses . This is another great lesson . It gets harder & harder after each relapse and new attempt for recovery .
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