Class of May 2020 part 15
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Join Date: Apr 2020
Location: Saskatchewan.
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Haha Dee. Yes, you and Willow, the same.
(of course it’s 1:30 a.m where you now, you might be sleeping)
Big day… if I get there, I’ll sit with a counsellor.
It is imperative that I see my Doc today (after 4 p.m.).
Canadian election day today, so I’ll have to find time to vote.
I’m in a tough spot emotionally. Wife is sticking to her guns that she is leaving. (shopping for a home also) I may have, through drunkenness, brought down the final curtain on what we had. Makes me terribly sad.
Throughout our 20+ years people often commented about the ‘glow’ we had for each other.
One day at a time.
(of course it’s 1:30 a.m where you now, you might be sleeping)
Big day… if I get there, I’ll sit with a counsellor.
It is imperative that I see my Doc today (after 4 p.m.).
Canadian election day today, so I’ll have to find time to vote.
I’m in a tough spot emotionally. Wife is sticking to her guns that she is leaving. (shopping for a home also) I may have, through drunkenness, brought down the final curtain on what we had. Makes me terribly sad.
Throughout our 20+ years people often commented about the ‘glow’ we had for each other.
One day at a time.
s xxx
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Location: Toronto
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Sorry to hear about the marital strife TC. I was on the path to marriage before my drinking derailed everything. My fiance had finally had enough after 6 years of progressively worse drinking. My ex often was suspicious I was cheating on her. I suppose I was in way, although I was not cheating with other women but rather a bottle of vodka. Not quite the same as a 20 year marriage but certainly relatable.
My father is out of intensive care now and improving. No prognosis yet but he has made it through the worst of it. I'm more concerned with the lasting effects the infection will have on his general health.
A completely unnecessary federal election today in Canada. Called by Trudeau 2 years early but it may backfire on him. It's neck and neck now. I'm not even going to bother voting.
My father is out of intensive care now and improving. No prognosis yet but he has made it through the worst of it. I'm more concerned with the lasting effects the infection will have on his general health.
A completely unnecessary federal election today in Canada. Called by Trudeau 2 years early but it may backfire on him. It's neck and neck now. I'm not even going to bother voting.
I hope that you might have a chance of saving your marriage sober Free.
Join Date: Apr 2020
Location: Saskatchewan.
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Sitting in Doc office. ‘Borrowed’ some wifi from the theatre next door.
Meds from my specialist clinic must be working, I’d be loosing my shtuff right now otherwise, all things considered.
I’m feeling fairly calm, really.
Have a nice, sober thing folks.
will check-in later.
Meds from my specialist clinic must be working, I’d be loosing my shtuff right now otherwise, all things considered.
I’m feeling fairly calm, really.
Have a nice, sober thing folks.
will check-in later.
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Location: Georgia, USA
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My heart goes out to you, TC. It must be awfully hard to lose someone you love. The story isn't over yet, though. I agree whole heartedly with Dee, too. It has to be all for you. When we get well, miracles can happen.
I'm so glad your Dad is getting better, WL.
I didn't hear from my friend and hopefully soon to be boss today. Kind of sad over that, though I know it must have been a big day for him coming back from leave. I'm still pursuing another job as a volunteer coordinator for a hospice company. I can see how that would suit me really well, too.
It's good to have options.
The harvest moon is tonight but it's too rainy here to see it. It's lovely, cool, and wet here.
Happy Day to all, and sweet dreams, too.
I'm so glad your Dad is getting better, WL.
I didn't hear from my friend and hopefully soon to be boss today. Kind of sad over that, though I know it must have been a big day for him coming back from leave. I'm still pursuing another job as a volunteer coordinator for a hospice company. I can see how that would suit me really well, too.
It's good to have options.
The harvest moon is tonight but it's too rainy here to see it. It's lovely, cool, and wet here.
Happy Day to all, and sweet dreams, too.
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Such a nice post Karen.
The weather sounds really nice.
Yeah, things are a bit raw, but also confusing. Maybe I attach hope to moments of us just being amicable. (Wife and I)
We had a supper in a restaurant together tonight. We might remain friends. Who knows how it all turns out?
Higher power has a plan for each of us, I would think.
Yes, D and venus, I have to stay focused on my sobriety. Without it, there is nothing else.
I collude with Karen:
sweet dreams.
The weather sounds really nice.
Yeah, things are a bit raw, but also confusing. Maybe I attach hope to moments of us just being amicable. (Wife and I)
We had a supper in a restaurant together tonight. We might remain friends. Who knows how it all turns out?
Higher power has a plan for each of us, I would think.
Yes, D and venus, I have to stay focused on my sobriety. Without it, there is nothing else.
I collude with Karen:
sweet dreams.
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Certainly relatable WL, I relapsed about 7 years ago, so, she’s been dealing with a progressing illness since. Very similar, I think.
I’ll ‘mind my own business’ and focus on my recovery: the results are not in my hands.
Your Dad must be a strong man. Glad that things are coming around for him.
G’night folks.
I’ll ‘mind my own business’ and focus on my recovery: the results are not in my hands.
Your Dad must be a strong man. Glad that things are coming around for him.
G’night folks.
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Have a good day all.
Met my obligations to work. If the Doc forwards the form adequately I will begin to use my sick days as leave. I have many.
I’ll register with ‘mental health and addictions’ today (entity) . I inform my HR specialist of recent doctor visit, should be good.The appointment part of things will, then, be in their hands.
It’ll be up to me to attend whatever I can and remain willing.
My wife had an unhealthy rant this morning. I’m no longer drinking the kool-aid so to speak.
As much as people comment about us being good together, there is an equal measure of unhealthy there as well, I think.
I’ll focus on my side of the street.
Be well.
Met my obligations to work. If the Doc forwards the form adequately I will begin to use my sick days as leave. I have many.
I’ll register with ‘mental health and addictions’ today (entity) . I inform my HR specialist of recent doctor visit, should be good.The appointment part of things will, then, be in their hands.
It’ll be up to me to attend whatever I can and remain willing.
My wife had an unhealthy rant this morning. I’m no longer drinking the kool-aid so to speak.
As much as people comment about us being good together, there is an equal measure of unhealthy there as well, I think.
I’ll focus on my side of the street.
Be well.
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My dad is improving but I found out some more details. He is suffering from delirium. He's confused and not completely self-aware of his situation. It's common for ICU patients with Sepsis and not permanent. Also, I found out dad was also dealing with alcohol withdrawal. I actually brought up alcohol withdrawal with my sister before i knew it was occurring based on what I've was hearing about his daily alcohol intake.
I think it's safe to say my dad is now an alcoholic. That makes me the child of alcoholic parents although my mother's drinking was a problem for half her life. Dad's drinking progressed quickly after mom's death and the pandemic certainly exacerbated it. I was the lucky one to inherit the alcoholism genes haha. Brother and sister are social drinkers of the 2 drink maximum kind.
I think it's safe to say my dad is now an alcoholic. That makes me the child of alcoholic parents although my mother's drinking was a problem for half her life. Dad's drinking progressed quickly after mom's death and the pandemic certainly exacerbated it. I was the lucky one to inherit the alcoholism genes haha. Brother and sister are social drinkers of the 2 drink maximum kind.
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Any
face to face (F2F) AA meetings in the city yet WL.? I imagine not.
Might be nice to experience a meeting with Pops.
Maybe online?
I’ve know a couple of people who have been with a parent. Good experience, they said.
face to face (F2F) AA meetings in the city yet WL.? I imagine not.
Might be nice to experience a meeting with Pops.
Maybe online?
I’ve know a couple of people who have been with a parent. Good experience, they said.
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I am worried about you again TC.
I get that something not good happened this morning.
WL ~ sounds like your dad is in good hands. This might be a turning point for him.
Sending prayers.
❤️
I get that something not good happened this morning.
WL ~ sounds like your dad is in good hands. This might be a turning point for him.
Sending prayers.
❤️
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It does sound like your dad is in good hands, WL. I'm sure it's hard not being there, but I'm glad your sister is communicating.
Great news about your time off, TC. I hope your wife apologizes. Good for you not drinking the kool-aid!
How are you, Willow?
Venus, I think you would like the Volunteer Coordinator job. It's good working with people who are wanting to give of themselves.
I'm waiting for him to call, now. Any minute now.... I'll let you all know! I got an interview with the hospice company for the volunteer coordinator job tomorrow afternoon if I don't get this one. I prefer the activities job, just because of less stress. And less driving.
Great news about your time off, TC. I hope your wife apologizes. Good for you not drinking the kool-aid!
How are you, Willow?
Venus, I think you would like the Volunteer Coordinator job. It's good working with people who are wanting to give of themselves.
I'm waiting for him to call, now. Any minute now.... I'll let you all know! I got an interview with the hospice company for the volunteer coordinator job tomorrow afternoon if I don't get this one. I prefer the activities job, just because of less stress. And less driving.
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