Class of May 2020 Part 4
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It's so hard to 'sit' with bad feelings. It makes me think of drinking, too. But I don't, and hope you won't, either. Posting about it here was a great thing to do. What else can you do to help yourself feel better?
I really screwed my job up, too. Drinking and working are not really compatible for a lot of us, anyway. I'm also hoping to find a good job now, although I do, almost surely, have the option of going back to my former job beginning in July. I'm going to apply to be a contact tracer. Maybe a few other jobs, too. I've been procrastinating.
To get past the 'stinking drinking thinking', I usually have something good to eat, take a walk, pray, come here, read, have a nap, have a hot bath or something else that seems comforting. Then, when it's over, I have the wonderful reward of feeling so glad I made it through. It does get easier and easier, and less often, too.
Hugs to you, Listae!
And to all of you.
I really screwed my job up, too. Drinking and working are not really compatible for a lot of us, anyway. I'm also hoping to find a good job now, although I do, almost surely, have the option of going back to my former job beginning in July. I'm going to apply to be a contact tracer. Maybe a few other jobs, too. I've been procrastinating.
To get past the 'stinking drinking thinking', I usually have something good to eat, take a walk, pray, come here, read, have a nap, have a hot bath or something else that seems comforting. Then, when it's over, I have the wonderful reward of feeling so glad I made it through. It does get easier and easier, and less often, too.
Hugs to you, Listae!
And to all of you.
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Join Date: Nov 2012
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I am so sorry dear listae.....that is crazy hard to deal with....which I know a little from experience. I messed up my dream job and consequentially my career in publishing.
Not the same as working for 15 years towards your goal, I know that.
I can't believe what I did either. I was shattered and let it be a reason to longer care abut myself....I really don't want that for you.
It adds unbearable pain to an already painful situation.
Sending you so much love.
❤️
Not the same as working for 15 years towards your goal, I know that.
I can't believe what I did either. I was shattered and let it be a reason to longer care abut myself....I really don't want that for you.
It adds unbearable pain to an already painful situation.
Sending you so much love.
❤️
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Originally Posted by HopefulYear777 
Listae- I am so sorry. That is so rough. But I have to keep reminding myself of the same thing - Drinking won't make it better. It will make it worse. Your problems will be worse. tomorrow if you drink. So don't drink please! So sorry you are going through this.
WL- sounds like a stupid management company. I would stand in the rain. Loud sounds make me crazy.
Hope
WL- sounds like a stupid management company. I would stand in the rain. Loud sounds make me crazy.
Hope
So sorry that happened dear WL.
s ❤️
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Originally Posted by venuscat
I am so sorry dear listae.....that is crazy hard to deal with....which I know a little from experience. I messed up my dream job and consequentially my career in publishing.
Not the same as working for 15 years towards your goal, I know that.
I can't believe what I did either. I was shattered and let it be a reason to longer care abut myself....I really don't want that for you.
It adds unbearable pain to an already painful situation.
Sending you so much love. ❤️
Not the same as working for 15 years towards your goal, I know that.
I can't believe what I did either. I was shattered and let it be a reason to longer care abut myself....I really don't want that for you.
It adds unbearable pain to an already painful situation.
Sending you so much love.
❤️We are all worth our very best efforts at self-care.
Especially when we are not travelling well. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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Originally Posted by listae
Loss of Job/Career
I'm experiencing a lot of sadness/grief: I lost my job and the time has come for me to turn in the keys to my office; my ID, my computer, and everything else. It is a very sad situation that the negative voices in my head self-sabotaged. It's very hard to get a job in my field at all and you spend 15 years preparing for this and I totally ****** it up because I couldn't function because of alcohol. I did not realize that I would also be facing looking for employment when 38 million are out of work in the United States. I just did not know that this would be the case.
I'm lucky to have a temporary gig at a decent place for nine months but the fact that I lost a job and under-preformed is just killing me inside. My job was everything to me and I worked so hard.
I want to drink to avoid these uncomfortable, painful feelings but I'm devastated inside: just can't believe what I did.
I'm experiencing a lot of sadness/grief: I lost my job and the time has come for me to turn in the keys to my office; my ID, my computer, and everything else. It is a very sad situation that the negative voices in my head self-sabotaged. It's very hard to get a job in my field at all and you spend 15 years preparing for this and I totally ****** it up because I couldn't function because of alcohol. I did not realize that I would also be facing looking for employment when 38 million are out of work in the United States. I just did not know that this would be the case.
I'm lucky to have a temporary gig at a decent place for nine months but the fact that I lost a job and under-preformed is just killing me inside. My job was everything to me and I worked so hard.
I want to drink to avoid these uncomfortable, painful feelings but I'm devastated inside: just can't believe what I did.
I am so sorry about you having to leave your job. What sort of work do you do? (you don't have to answer if you would prefer not to). I know from my own experience, that losing a 'dream' job is really hard, particularly when you have been hard working and achieved a lot, but then alcohol undoes all of your achievements. You are obviously a dedicated and hard working person and will be a real catch for an employer once you have put drinking out of your life.
Please don't do what I did and hit the turps even harder. It didn't help me at all. Also remember the old saying, 'One door closes and another one opens'. It sounds like another door has already opened for you, and the diversity of experience you'll gain is a real positive for your career. Stick to your recovery plan and finish this next gig on a positive note - they will be your referees for future job opportunities.
Stay strong during the hand back of work stuff and farewells and leave them with a good impression of your professionalism and work ethic.
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Hi everyone,
Sorry to hear that Listae
Although I've not lost a job I have messed up badly in the past due to drinking and had to leave. Maybe this is the start of a bright new future for you but drinking won't help or change anything. It will just make you feel worse in the end.
KAren-just want to say how much I love your posts, thank you
I would also stand in the rain Noise scares me.
Had a lovely day at the beach. It was so hot! I got sunburn on my back which is crazy as I am a factor 50 obsessed every day but missed a bit today. Aloe vera it is tonight.
Good night all.x
Sorry to hear that Listae
Although I've not lost a job I have messed up badly in the past due to drinking and had to leave. Maybe this is the start of a bright new future for you but drinking won't help or change anything. It will just make you feel worse in the end.KAren-just want to say how much I love your posts, thank you
I would also stand in the rain Noise scares me.
Had a lovely day at the beach. It was so hot! I got sunburn on my back which is crazy as I am a factor 50 obsessed every day but missed a bit today. Aloe vera it is tonight.
Good night all.x
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Originally Posted by Coz
Hi Listae
I am so sorry about you having to leave your job. What sort of work do you do? (you don't have to answer if you would prefer not to). I know from my own experience, that losing a 'dream' job is really hard, particularly when you have been hard working and achieved a lot, but then alcohol undoes all of your achievements. You are obviously a dedicated and hard working person and will be a real catch for an employer once you have put drinking out of your life.
Please don't do what I did and hit the turps even harder. It didn't help me at all. Also remember the old saying, 'One door closes and another one opens'. It sounds like another door has already opened for you, and the diversity of experience you'll gain is a real positive for your career. Stick to your recovery plan and finish this next gig on a positive note - they will be your referees for future job opportunities.
Stay strong during the hand back of work stuff and farewells and leave them with a good impression of your professionalism and work ethic.
I am so sorry about you having to leave your job. What sort of work do you do? (you don't have to answer if you would prefer not to). I know from my own experience, that losing a 'dream' job is really hard, particularly when you have been hard working and achieved a lot, but then alcohol undoes all of your achievements. You are obviously a dedicated and hard working person and will be a real catch for an employer once you have put drinking out of your life.
Please don't do what I did and hit the turps even harder. It didn't help me at all. Also remember the old saying, 'One door closes and another one opens'. It sounds like another door has already opened for you, and the diversity of experience you'll gain is a real positive for your career. Stick to your recovery plan and finish this next gig on a positive note - they will be your referees for future job opportunities.
Stay strong during the hand back of work stuff and farewells and leave them with a good impression of your professionalism and work ethic.
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Hi Listae If I remember right this job loss was forecast a while back - as painful as it is, it was set in motion and I'd guess out of your control a long time ago.
Don't let your AV twist things round. Feeling sorry for yourself is not a luxury any of us can really afford tight now.
You need all your energy, skills and finances now.
Wishing you the best with everything - you too Karen
D
Don't let your AV twist things round. Feeling sorry for yourself is not a luxury any of us can really afford tight now.
You need all your energy, skills and finances now.
Wishing you the best with everything - you too Karen
D
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Hi Class of May 2020,
I got a nice invite to come join you. I am finishing up Day 5 and I am starting to feel better, I had a hard time concentrating for awhile so I waited awhile before joining you, couldn't remember what I was reading.
I am seeing how the first days and weeks are causing very similar symptoms with us. But I can see people changing as they get sober time in and feeling better.
Your last thread was fast moving, it is good to see such a big group of quitters taking it on.
didit
I got a nice invite to come join you. I am finishing up Day 5 and I am starting to feel better, I had a hard time concentrating for awhile so I waited awhile before joining you, couldn't remember what I was reading.
I am seeing how the first days and weeks are causing very similar symptoms with us. But I can see people changing as they get sober time in and feeling better.
Your last thread was fast moving, it is good to see such a big group of quitters taking it on.
didit
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Great that you have joined the May 2020 class didit!
So many congrats on 5 days sober. I think we all know that the first week is kinda tough (understatement).
And yes, there are a lot of us making changes in May 2020 - some imposed by COVID and some our own personal choice to make our lives better without all the negatives of addiction.
So many congrats on 5 days sober. I think we all know that the first week is kinda tough (understatement).
And yes, there are a lot of us making changes in May 2020 - some imposed by COVID and some our own personal choice to make our lives better without all the negatives of addiction.
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Thank you for your posts: again, they got me through the day without drinking. I started packing my boxes and I'm moving on. I cried and, boy, was the AV really strong: "get a drink, just one." It will make the pain go away. I have SOO much shame that I feel like I'm wearing the "A" from the Scarlet Letter.
But, I'm also grateful for classmates who take time out to help and say something encouraging: believe it or not, one post of yours does keep someone out there from picking up. So, I made it through because of YOU.
I lost my job but I'm not alone, thanks to you. And I'm not on Day 1 AGAIN: I'm finishing Day 3 and tomorrow will be Day 4.
But, I'm also grateful for classmates who take time out to help and say something encouraging: believe it or not, one post of yours does keep someone out there from picking up. So, I made it through because of YOU.
I lost my job but I'm not alone, thanks to you. And I'm not on Day 1 AGAIN: I'm finishing Day 3 and tomorrow will be Day 4.
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Tired here....ditit4me....I changed it by mistake.
This group is super-sensational.
Honoured to be reading your posts and to be a part of your lives.
Love and goodnight. s ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
This group is super-sensational.
Honoured to be reading your posts and to be a part of your lives.
Love and goodnight.
s ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
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