24 Hour Recovery Connections Part 487
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5:00am in Alberta, I'll have 24 more please, and thanks...
Today is going to be a darn good day not to drink!
5:00am in Alberta, I'll have 24 more please, and thanks...
Today is going to be a darn good day not to drink!
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Join Date: Nov 2012
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Originally Posted by mystified 
Day 1 again guys.
I can do this. I know I can.
But. Urgh....
24 please.
I can do this. I know I can.
But. Urgh....
24 please.
With you honey, all the way.
s xx ❤️
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Originally Posted by NoGoingBack
Forgot to check in last night but still very much here. 0700 uk time on my day 10, double digits again 😊
off to work in a minute but I’d like another 24 please, with just a little serenity if there’s any spare for me 😊
off to work in a minute but I’d like another 24 please, with just a little serenity if there’s any spare for me 😊
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Join Date: Nov 2012
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Originally Posted by kenton
You CAN do this Mystified. You most definitely can. Stick close to us and post here if it gets difficult. We all understand how difficult this can be. Yesterday, I had a 'f*** this, I want to get drunk' moment. Thing is, it was just a moment. Often we think these urges to drink are going to last forever and it just seems too difficult to fight them for that long so we give in because we think that's the easier option. But it isn't. If we can just fight the urge, moment by moment, we discover it goes away. It always goes away. And each time we fight it, we get stronger and the next urge gets weaker. That's just the way it goes.
Yesterday, I got a horrible email from the headmaster at my daughter's school. She's been so excited about going back to school next week. This is her last half term before she leaves primary school and goes to secondary school. She's desperate to spend some time with friends before they all go their separate ways. Desperate to return and say goodbye to primary school. The headmaster has stuck her in a 'bubble' with none of her friends, even worse he's stuck her in a bubble with two girls that have bullied her over the years. There's space in a different bubble with her friends but he refuses to move her. Worse than that, he was really rude to me for asking him to move her. Made me angry because I've never asked him for anything before and there was no need for him to be so rude. I'm trying my best to manage my daughter's devastation and to make matters worse, I had both my sisters on the phone yesterday telling me to 'get over it'. I was told that 'everyone's in the same boat' I'm not special and I need to 'grow up'. Believe me when I say I'm under no delusions. I know I'm not special. I've never been treated as special. Far from it. But I love my daughter more than I can say and she hasn't stopped crying for 2 days and I think I'm allowed to fight her corner, validate her feelings and feel upset on her behalf. I accept that there's no more I can do …. I've tried my best and as I'm not going to allow her to return to school to be bullied, it means her time at primary school has come to an end. I've accepted that and I'm helping my daughter to come to terms with that. But surely we're allowed to be upset about it? After reading the headmaster's reply and then being told to 'grow up' by my sisters yesterday who had clearly been bad mouthing me behind my back, I thought, 'f*** it. I want to get drunk'. But what would that have achieved? How would that help my daughter? Would me being hungover today help my sisters see things from my point of view? So, I fought the urge and stayed sober. I still feel sad for my daughter today but I know the sadness, like the urge to drink will pass. Because feelings, good or bad, always pass. That's just the way it goes.
I get it, Mystified. I really do. You mentioned your mum's grave the other day and that really struck a chord with me. I spend hours at my dad's grave. I'm always standing at his grave, asking him to send me strength to get through the challenges life sends my way. That's what helps us though life, Mystified..... strength and hope and the support of people who are no longer here and those that still are. Not drinking. Drinking never helps. Feel free to message me whenever you want, Mystified. I'm always happy to try to help. Stay strong and remember.... YOU CAN DO THIS!! I believe in you. 24 more for me please xxx
Yesterday, I got a horrible email from the headmaster at my daughter's school. She's been so excited about going back to school next week. This is her last half term before she leaves primary school and goes to secondary school. She's desperate to spend some time with friends before they all go their separate ways. Desperate to return and say goodbye to primary school. The headmaster has stuck her in a 'bubble' with none of her friends, even worse he's stuck her in a bubble with two girls that have bullied her over the years. There's space in a different bubble with her friends but he refuses to move her. Worse than that, he was really rude to me for asking him to move her. Made me angry because I've never asked him for anything before and there was no need for him to be so rude. I'm trying my best to manage my daughter's devastation and to make matters worse, I had both my sisters on the phone yesterday telling me to 'get over it'. I was told that 'everyone's in the same boat' I'm not special and I need to 'grow up'. Believe me when I say I'm under no delusions. I know I'm not special. I've never been treated as special. Far from it. But I love my daughter more than I can say and she hasn't stopped crying for 2 days and I think I'm allowed to fight her corner, validate her feelings and feel upset on her behalf. I accept that there's no more I can do …. I've tried my best and as I'm not going to allow her to return to school to be bullied, it means her time at primary school has come to an end. I've accepted that and I'm helping my daughter to come to terms with that. But surely we're allowed to be upset about it? After reading the headmaster's reply and then being told to 'grow up' by my sisters yesterday who had clearly been bad mouthing me behind my back, I thought, 'f*** it. I want to get drunk'. But what would that have achieved? How would that help my daughter? Would me being hungover today help my sisters see things from my point of view? So, I fought the urge and stayed sober. I still feel sad for my daughter today but I know the sadness, like the urge to drink will pass. Because feelings, good or bad, always pass. That's just the way it goes.
I get it, Mystified. I really do. You mentioned your mum's grave the other day and that really struck a chord with me. I spend hours at my dad's grave. I'm always standing at his grave, asking him to send me strength to get through the challenges life sends my way. That's what helps us though life, Mystified..... strength and hope and the support of people who are no longer here and those that still are. Not drinking. Drinking never helps. Feel free to message me whenever you want, Mystified. I'm always happy to try to help. Stay strong and remember.... YOU CAN DO THIS!! I believe in you. 24 more for me please xxx
I think your sisters, well, it doesn't matter what I think....you know I also have only one sister who doesn't hate me now and even she is completely uncaring and pretty much indifferent to me. We are never going to get support and acceptance from our sisters. But you will get it from us always.
Always.
I am shocked the headmaster sent a rude email. Really I am. Whether or not he is prepared to move her into the bubble she should have been in or not, why does he think he has the right to behave in this way? He doesn't. But that's on him....and it sounds to me like he took his stuff out on you, because he could. By email of all things.....he is a coward and a bully. I think.
Having to deal with such a terrible day is just so so hard.
And you are right.....drinking would not help.
It will never help any of us.
So glad you told those thoughts to hop on a train to nowhere.
Love you to the moon and back darling kent.
s xx ❤️
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This is a list of everyone who posted their commitment to stay sober in the last 24 hours: 9 am EDT ~ 8.59 am EDT....(ish 
).
It is awesome to have every single one of you here with us!
1newcreation
abcowboy
ardy
Awake61
Babs1234
Bailey3
badgerden
bandicoot2
BarbieKen
BarrelCactus
BeckoningCat
BringingBackB
Bubovski
Canadian Koala
CeeFarro
Chaisson
ChloeRose63
Citrus
Coldfusion
CrossYourHeart
DaneK
Daisybelle
Dee74
Delilah1
Endoftheday
erfra7
Erratic
fishkiller
FormerBeerLover
freedomfries
Gabe1980
gatorman
Gilmer (RIP)
Goat
goose333
Hevyn
IcedVoVo
jimmyJlover
joandmelandhan
John65
julietUK
Kaneda8888
kenton
kevlarsjal2
Kris47
least
LillianGish
listae
Lostmyoffswitch
lyddie
Mags1
mystified
Neoo
Nic233
nmd
Noam19
NoGoingBack
Optimist4ever57
PhoenixJ
Pinky1
PurpleKnight
Purplrks3647
Quincy
quitter62
Rainman1
Ravel
Red78
Reid82
Saskia
SeaSlug
SnoozyQ
Sober53
soberista
SoberLeigh
Sobertoday54
Soberwolf
stargazer016
Stubbs16
Sunflowerlife
tgirl
theVman31
TiredCarpenter
tomls
Treesofgreen
TrueNewGirl
Upstairs
venuscat
Vinificent
WeaverBird
whopper
wiscsober
Willow68
yukonm
Zanna
zeppodog
Onward together!
Thank you dear abcowboy.
).It is awesome to have every single one of you here with us!
1newcreation
abcowboy
ardy
Awake61
Babs1234
Bailey3
badgerden
bandicoot2
BarbieKen
BarrelCactus
BeckoningCat
BringingBackB
Bubovski
Canadian Koala
CeeFarro
Chaisson
ChloeRose63
Citrus
Coldfusion
CrossYourHeart
DaneK
Daisybelle
Dee74
Delilah1
Endoftheday
erfra7
Erratic
fishkiller
FormerBeerLover
freedomfries
Gabe1980
gatorman
Gilmer (RIP)
Goat
goose333
Hevyn
IcedVoVo
jimmyJlover
joandmelandhan
John65
julietUK
Kaneda8888
kenton
kevlarsjal2
Kris47
least
LillianGish
listae
Lostmyoffswitch
lyddie
Mags1
mystified
Neoo
Nic233
nmd
Noam19
NoGoingBack
Optimist4ever57
PhoenixJ
Pinky1
PurpleKnight
Purplrks3647
Quincy
quitter62
Rainman1
Ravel
Red78
Reid82
Saskia
SeaSlug
SnoozyQ
Sober53
soberista
SoberLeigh
Sobertoday54
Soberwolf
stargazer016
Stubbs16
Sunflowerlife
tgirl
theVman31
TiredCarpenter
tomls
Treesofgreen
TrueNewGirl
Upstairs
venuscat
Vinificent
WeaverBird
whopper
wiscsober
Willow68
yukonm
Zanna
zeppodog
Onward together!
Thank you dear abcowboy.
May 30, 2020
Lostmyoffswitch ~ 4 years & 8 months!
Lostmyoffswitch ~ 4 years & 8 months!
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I am going to start doing online AA meetings today.....I have no idea why I have been looking for counselling online (which I found to be completely awful) when the best help I can get is from others in recovery. Like all of us, I am trying to deal with the fear and stress of our current life situation and I need more help and support right now. I am not going to do zoom meetings....I cannot do the video thing. Maybe once I get started I will change my mind.....anyway.....dearest yuknom and all of you already doing online meetings, can you please guide me here?
I don't know what meeting/s to choose. And maybe I can even be in meetings with some of you who I already know. ❤️
PS....I am a newby at this.....I think maybe there are Skype meetings? Or maybe Zoom meetings where you can just do audio? xx
I don't know what meeting/s to choose. And maybe I can even be in meetings with some of you who I already know.
❤️PS....I am a newby at this.....I think maybe there are Skype meetings? Or maybe Zoom meetings where you can just do audio? xx
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That's a great idea, Venus. I also was really disappointed with counseling. I'm curious to see what others say about the online AA. I think it would be so helpful. I hope it goes well.
I'll take another 24 hours of sobriety today!
I'll take another 24 hours of sobriety today!
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