Class of December 2019 part 3
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Red I know you're hurting but booze is to grief like petrol to a match.
you know Nicole would be the first to tell you not to drink over your loss.
That AV is so lowdown so selfish it will use a tragedy like this to drag you back in. Don't let it.
You can honour Nicole's life and all the other lives we've lost to this damned
addiction by staying and living sober.
D
you know Nicole would be the first to tell you not to drink over your loss.
That AV is so lowdown so selfish it will use a tragedy like this to drag you back in. Don't let it.
You can honour Nicole's life and all the other lives we've lost to this damned
addiction by staying and living sober.
D
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Made it through day 13, even despite my mother triggering me massively. She’s an alcoholic in denial about her issue. I can’t change that scenario, so I’m trying to channel serenity on that one. Made it another day-hip hip hooray!
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Checking in tonight. My eyes are swollen and puffy from crying, but at least the people I am with are kind. We have dogs visiting with their humans for the holidays, so it is a nice distraction.
Red, I relapsed after my Aunt died earlier this year. I understand. Please make the leap of faith that your life will be better if you are not drinking. Because I was drinking, I don’t think I actually processed the grief from her passing. It made mourning (which you only can do sober) so much more painful. I am a person who gets overwhelmed by feelings easily. It’s uncomfortable. I think everyone here is similar. I hope you take care of yourself.
Red, I relapsed after my Aunt died earlier this year. I understand. Please make the leap of faith that your life will be better if you are not drinking. Because I was drinking, I don’t think I actually processed the grief from her passing. It made mourning (which you only can do sober) so much more painful. I am a person who gets overwhelmed by feelings easily. It’s uncomfortable. I think everyone here is similar. I hope you take care of yourself.
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Merry Christmas everyone! It sounds like there have been some tough events with some members of the group. I’m sorry Red and Pouncer for your loss. Praying for peace and comfort in grief.
Just checking in. Today is 3 weeks for me. Tough season to roll along in with all the festivities, but almost through the New Year. - Kelly
Just checking in. Today is 3 weeks for me. Tough season to roll along in with all the festivities, but almost through the New Year. - Kelly
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So well done Hopingwishing. And you made it through Day 11 Mary. Yay! Need Rest too. Good on you all. Way to go. We CAN do this.
Thank you Zura for wishing me well. ❤️
True what Dee and Pouncer say Red. If you are anything like me it NEVER works. Back on the bus and full steam ahead. ❤️ We are all in this together, and stick together because we all 'get it'. Support is so important. We are friends/allies from many Lands with same horrible 'disease'. Let's give it the heave ho and LIVE.
Happy to report that I did not drink at the picnic. We had a scrummo lunch , and the day was beautiful. Can't tell you how grateful I feel now at home knowing I am sober. The feeling is wonderful. I do know I have to be vigilant, and took your advice Venus and told AV to rack off. Felt a bit silly, but it worked.
Hope I haven't forgotten anyone. But know this....I am on your side, and we will win. Win our good lives back.
Thanks for everything Dee and Venus.
Thank you Zura for wishing me well. ❤️
True what Dee and Pouncer say Red. If you are anything like me it NEVER works. Back on the bus and full steam ahead. ❤️ We are all in this together, and stick together because we all 'get it'. Support is so important. We are friends/allies from many Lands with same horrible 'disease'. Let's give it the heave ho and LIVE.
Happy to report that I did not drink at the picnic. We had a scrummo lunch , and the day was beautiful. Can't tell you how grateful I feel now at home knowing I am sober. The feeling is wonderful. I do know I have to be vigilant, and took your advice Venus and told AV to rack off. Felt a bit silly, but it worked.
Hope I haven't forgotten anyone. But know this....I am on your side, and we will win. Win our good lives back.
Thanks for everything Dee and Venus.
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Dearest Red.
Like Pouncer I drank to quell loss. Massive loss which broke my heart. Years and years of drinking, which did not quell the pain only buried it, unprocessed. This led to only further pain and confusion as my drinking progressed. I lost sight of everything. I stopped thinking. I stopped feeling.
I no longer want this Red. I want to experience and deal with life on 'life's terms', the way it should be.
Some famous writer, Kafka think, said something to the affect, that to deny ourselves the experience of the more 'negative' emotions is the greatest disservice to ourselves of them all. It is to our peril if we do. We need to feel the emotions of pain, loss and grief if we ever expect to be whole.
This is what I want now Red. I want to feel.
Like Pouncer I drank to quell loss. Massive loss which broke my heart. Years and years of drinking, which did not quell the pain only buried it, unprocessed. This led to only further pain and confusion as my drinking progressed. I lost sight of everything. I stopped thinking. I stopped feeling.
I no longer want this Red. I want to experience and deal with life on 'life's terms', the way it should be.
Some famous writer, Kafka think, said something to the affect, that to deny ourselves the experience of the more 'negative' emotions is the greatest disservice to ourselves of them all. It is to our peril if we do. We need to feel the emotions of pain, loss and grief if we ever expect to be whole.
This is what I want now Red. I want to feel.
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