24 Hour Recovery Connections Part 434
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I'm sorry Kenton, for the family drama. If you can sit in meditation today and hand all of these feelings over to your higher power, or guardian angel or even to the moon, I feel it will help you. Don't try to make sense of it in your head- that's your ego trying to trap you into misery. We cannot change others, only our reactions, right? Try to let a little of it go today, for your own sake. I heard the most awesome quote yesterday:
"Let go or be dragged...."
That is my focus for today! I know you can do it too.
xoxo
"Let go or be dragged...."
That is my focus for today! I know you can do it too.
xoxo
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Originally Posted by wiscsober 
late check-in but doing well...so thankful I was "well" when I got and been sick! 0642. Did you hear it's going to snow? Woke up thinking it was evening!
Stay warm and I hope you enjoy your Sunday
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Join Date: Jun 2018
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Good Sunday morning and looking for another 24. Snow also expected here in the DC area. Not much, but it takes little here to create chaos.
Ready to down some coffee then get today going. Big virtual hugs out to those in need.
Enjoy the wrap-up of the weekend.
Ready to down some coffee then get today going. Big virtual hugs out to those in need.
Enjoy the wrap-up of the weekend.
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nmd, I'm doing taxes too - ugh! Hopefully the last day before I send them off to the accountant, it seems each year the workbook gets longer and his job becomes more just copying the work I've already done.
Kenton - let me know what you think of the book, I hope you find it helpful! I know there were parts I read that really were spot on for me.
Kenton - let me know what you think of the book, I hope you find it helpful! I know there were parts I read that really were spot on for me.
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Originally Posted by Lascaux
Hello, Kenton! I'm sorry to see your mom messing with your head, but glad to see you here posting! I have similar situations with my mom and always tore myself up about it. Last year after some incidents I was so emotionally wrecked I started doing research (my coping mechanism, I wasn't on SR at the time because I was drinking). I found a great book: Daughter Detox: Recovering from An Unloving Mother and Reclaiming Your Life (I got it on Kindle and had fun bookmarking all the bits that were applicable).
It was a great help - my biggest takeaway was learning how we never get over wanting our parent's love and approval, no matter how old we are, and how we feel unworthy without it, even when we're looking for it from someone who is unable to give it or maybe just communicate it. Her behavior is no reflection on your worth.
Anyway, hope this helps, and congrats on your long term sobiety!
It was a great help - my biggest takeaway was learning how we never get over wanting our parent's love and approval, no matter how old we are, and how we feel unworthy without it, even when we're looking for it from someone who is unable to give it or maybe just communicate it. Her behavior is no reflection on your worth.
Anyway, hope this helps, and congrats on your long term sobiety!
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Originally Posted by Dee74
Hi Kenton
I'm often excluded from family things - it was a source of pain for me for a long time.
Now I just accept it for what it is.
My family is chocolate sauce and I'm pickles.
no simpático
but...I have a large hand picked chosen family who love me and invite me to stuff, ask my opinion, help me out when I need it and lend an ear...and vice versa
It's not the Waltons, but I'm blessed nonetheless, and I'm sure you're blessed too
D
I'm often excluded from family things - it was a source of pain for me for a long time.
Now I just accept it for what it is.
My family is chocolate sauce and I'm pickles.
no simpático
but...I have a large hand picked chosen family who love me and invite me to stuff, ask my opinion, help me out when I need it and lend an ear...and vice versa
It's not the Waltons, but I'm blessed nonetheless, and I'm sure you're blessed too
D
Big time.
kenton darling ~ you are the most amazing person, friend, daughter, mum, sober recovery companion, so many other things.....oh yes....kind of a sensational writer.....and jeez......you are such a lovely person....I honestly don't know how you put up with all of that rubbish from your mum without getting very very upset.
What she did to you, the way she treats you is not ok. You deserve the best mum in the world who truly appreciates you.....well, as Dee said, you have us. And I feel like your big sister and I totally adore you. You are one of the major heroes in my life.
Bless you honey....I hope something wonderful happens today.
♥♥
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“You can be as great as you want to be. If you believe in yourself and have the courage, the determination, the dedication, the competitive drive and if you are willing to sacrifice the little things in life and pay the price for the things that are worthwhile, it can be done.” – Vince Lombardi
6:00am in Alberta, 24 for me and everyone else who needs them please, and thanks...
Today is going to be a darn good day not to drink!
6:00am in Alberta, 24 for me and everyone else who needs them please, and thanks...
Today is going to be a darn good day not to drink!
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♥ This is a list of everyone who posted their commitment to stay sober in the last
24 hours: 9 am EST ~ 8.59 am EST.
It is awesome to have every single one of you here with us! ♥
1newcreation
abcowboy
ardy
Atlast9999
aussieblue
Awake61
Babs1234
Bailey3
badgerden
bandicoot2
BarbieKen
Canadian Koala
CeeFarro
Chaisson
ChloeRose63
Citrus
Coldfusion
Coco6054
CrossYourHeart
Daisybelle
Dee74
Delilah1
Endoftheday
erfra7
FormerBeerLover
gatorman
Gilmer ♥RIP♥
Goat
goodbyeevan
goose333
Guener
H379
Hats
Hevyn
ishallnotwant
Jack16
jimmyJlover
joandmelandhan
John65
julietUK
Kaneda8888
kenton
kevlarsjal2
KinseyMillhone
Kris47
Lascaux
least
LillianGish
lilymaz
listae
Lostmyoffswitch
lyddie
Mags1
mariposa
Minion09
Neoo
Nic233
nmd
OliveDog
Optimist4ever57
Paperbag
Petecrab
PhoenixJ
Purplrks3647
Quincy
quitter62
Rainman1
Rar
RedBerryJuniper
Saskia
SaturatedSeize
soberista
SoberLeigh
Soberwolf
stargazer016
streetpizza
Stubbs16
Sunflower79
Sunflowerlife
Sweetpeacan
tgirl
theVman31
Time2LLL60
tomls
trudgingagain
Tynesider22
vanaprastha
venuscat
Vinificent
WaterOx
whopper
wiscsober
Willow68
yukonm
Zanna
zeppodog
zoeydog
Onward together! ♥
♥ thank you dear abcowboy... that's the original quote, sorry about the 'man' bit.... ♥
24 hours: 9 am EST ~ 8.59 am EST.
It is awesome to have every single one of you here with us!
♥1newcreation
abcowboy
ardy
Atlast9999
aussieblue
Awake61
Babs1234
Bailey3
badgerden
bandicoot2
BarbieKen
Canadian Koala
CeeFarro
Chaisson
ChloeRose63
Citrus
Coldfusion
Coco6054
CrossYourHeart
Daisybelle
Dee74
Delilah1
Endoftheday
erfra7
FormerBeerLover
gatorman
Gilmer ♥RIP♥
Goat
goodbyeevan
goose333
Guener
H379
Hats
Hevyn
ishallnotwant
Jack16
jimmyJlover
joandmelandhan
John65
julietUK
Kaneda8888
kenton
kevlarsjal2
KinseyMillhone
Kris47
Lascaux
least
LillianGish
lilymaz
listae
Lostmyoffswitch
lyddie
Mags1
mariposa
Minion09
Neoo
Nic233
nmd
OliveDog
Optimist4ever57
Paperbag
Petecrab
PhoenixJ
Purplrks3647
Quincy
quitter62
Rainman1
Rar
RedBerryJuniper
Saskia
SaturatedSeize
soberista
SoberLeigh
Soberwolf
stargazer016
streetpizza
Stubbs16
Sunflower79
Sunflowerlife
Sweetpeacan
tgirl
theVman31
Time2LLL60
tomls
trudgingagain
Tynesider22
vanaprastha
venuscat
Vinificent
WaterOx
whopper
wiscsober
Willow68
yukonm
Zanna
zeppodog
zoeydog
Onward together! ♥
♥ thank you dear abcowboy... that's the original quote, sorry about the 'man' bit....
♥March 3, 2019
Petecrab ~ 1 week! ♥
Lascaux ~ yesterday, sorry ~ 2 weeks! ♥
Sunflowerlife ~ 1 year & 10 months! ♥
Petecrab ~ 1 week! ♥
Lascaux ~ yesterday, sorry ~ 2 weeks! ♥
Sunflowerlife ~ 1 year & 10 months! ♥
Duck Duck Goose!
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Originally Posted by kenton
Thank you so much Lascaux and Dee! I thought for a long time about whether or not to post my last post mainly because it seems such a petty thing to be upset about and also because I'm programmed to feel like everything is my fault. But now I feel so happy that I posted!! You're so right Dee - I am blessed. I'm sorry that you're also left out of family stuff but I'm so happy that you have found a way through the upset. Inspires me to do the same. And Lascraux - I've just ordered that book!! Sounds so good - can't wait to start reading it. I'm so sorry for your pain but so grateful to you for sharing. Makes me know I'm not alone in feeling this way. And congrats on day 15. Thank you so so much. Love this place and the people here so much xxxx
My monthly thread seems to have petered out (will still check in there), but am going to check in here as well. Planning a busy and sober Sunday!
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