Originally Posted by Pinky1

Hi all.
Day 10 for me
I'm off work and home alone all day so hope I can stay strong. Got a few things to keep me busy.
24 hours please x

Originally Posted by PhoenixJ

PRAYERS AND SUPPORT TO ALL

There is an old fable..that when Genghis Khan was young and fighting with his 2 brothers, his mother got each of them to break an arrow to show how weak it was. The she got each of them to try and break a bundle of arrows- all tied together. They could not break them. She explained to her sons- united- as brothers they are strong and nothing could break them, but alone- they can fail.

As it is with the support we give, and get from others at this place.

Support to y'all.

Originally Posted by kenton

Hey YCDT2, sorry to hear about the argument with your mum. I know you've had lots of superb advice but I wanted to respond to you because I've just spent the last 3 hours learning about anger at my mindfulness course. Anger was always my number 1 trigger and so I was keen to learn as much about it as possible. I found this info quite interesting. ....

Anger has a purpose. It alerts us to the fact that something isn't right.... a boundary has been crossed. But anger doesn't appear in isolation - it's covering other 'softer' emotions such as fear, hurt, sadness, frustration, panic, humiliation, irritation etc. And these softer emotions have arisen because one of our needs isn't being met. We all have emotional needs. ... eg to be loved... respected... heard...valued...accepted...treated fairly etc.

When we react in anger to the person who is not meeting our emotional need, that person will become defensive. The irony of anger is that no matter how angry we become. .. we will never address the source of our anger and get our needs met. Instead, we will become more and more angry which can result in unhelpful behaviours and if the anger hangs around long enough it turns into resentment and bitterness .... more triggers.

To release the anger we need to notice when we're angry and then explore the anger before reacting. What's causing the anger? Are we frightened? Irritated? Disappointed? Do we have a need for respect? Do we need to feel heard? Accepted? Loved? Once we identify the true source of anger, it can become much easier to handle. We can explain how we're feeling in a non-confrontational way. The other person may not want to listen and that's OK. We got no control over other people. The crucial thing is that by identifying the real reason we're angry we can comfort ourselves and let the anger go. Thus breaking the anger/trigger/regret/shame/anger/trigger cycle.

I just learnt all this tonight so I need to go and put it all into practise. Good thing about this world is that we never need to wait very long until someone makes us angry! So I reckon I can start practising what I learnt very soon. And that's why I wanted to post this. People are always going to push our buttons and make us angry .... so if anger is a trigger, it's helpful to try to learn how to better manage that anger.

Hope everyone is OK. I'm up very late and need to go to bed but wanted to ask for my next 24 hours before I fall asleep. And Jo, let me know if you want me to meet you for a coffee when you're in London. I won't want to intrude on your family time but I can come and say hello and point out Big Ben and ..... yeah, that's probably my level of expertise. Love to everyone xxxx

Originally Posted by Kris47

(You are reading from the book Twenty Four Hours a Day)

A.A. Thought for the Day

Keeping sober is the most important thing in my life. The most important decision I ever made was my decision to give up drinking. I am convinced that my whole life depends on not taking that first drink. Nothing in the world is as important to me as my own sobriety. Everything I have, my whole life, depends on that one thing. Can I afford ever to forget this, even for one minute?

Meditation for the Day

I will discipline myself. I will do this disciplining now. I will turn out all useless thoughts. I know that the goodness of my life is a necessary foundation for its usefulness. I will welcome this training, for without it, God cannot give me His power. I believe that this power is a mighty power when it is used in the right way.

Prayer for the Day

I pray that I may face and accept whatever discipline is necessary. I pray that I may be fit to receive God's power in my life.

(From Twenty-Four Hours a Day © 1975 by Hazelden Foundation. PO Box 176, Center City, MN 55012)

Originally Posted by venuscat

Originally Posted by erfra7

Hi anyone talk to snufkin worry about her..

Being sleeping lots ,I really don’t know what to do when I don’t work ,don’t like housecleaning anymore before it was my excuse for drinking.......
Last Sunday I was irritable, discontent,an a s s h o l e. This roller coaster eh!!!

24 more for me the crazy guy ..

Originally Posted by Plenny

I'm here on day 6, feeling like it's soooooo much longer. Probably because once the first horrible few days are over I feel so much different as if I've had a long time to heal. But, it's early days for sure.

I know there's folks out there feeling frustrated and angry and I want to contribute something that I have learned -- and often forget -- about guilt and disappointment. These feelings come from expectation and from the conditioning we receive about perfection. Within the context of trying to get better and skirting the edge sometimes of our sanity we are all succeeding. In the real universe there are no lines, no boundaries, so to deviate at times is completely, literally, natural. We as humans often punish ourselves for our nature. The feelings of guilt really make the work we are doing harder, and then there is just more work to do, undoing guilt. Please let's forgive ourselves, make an inner dialogue with ourselves of love and forgiveness. Instead of perpetuating all the negative talk and judgement, which only steers our brains and beings in those negative spirals. Let's not subscribe to them and let's counteract with messages of acceptance and the bravery to use these deviations as important learning experiences....

A friend of mine posted his 5 year chip today. He said, "5 years. The most psychedelic experience of my life." That's the kind of journey I want to forge

Originally Posted by Yixi

Morning good folks Hope you all have a peaceful, sober next 12+ days, (not planning on falling off the wagon just off on jollies tomorrow so won't be posting for a few days after today), stay strong & stay wonderful 24 for me please - love and hugs to all at SR x x

Originally Posted by Gabe1980

24 for me please.

I've come down with some horrible bug and may not be around much but still sober!

Love you all xxx

Originally Posted by venuscat

(((lyddie))) ♥♥♥

With you all day love.

Originally Posted by Willow68

9pm here, just going to bed on 31 days! Longest in years! Yippee 😊😊😊 night night everyone