Class of February 2018 Support Thread Pt 2
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Welcome to the newbies. Yay for getting through ur trip sober ProfD!!
Drinking is definitely gross. All the empty Calories. Feelin like crap the next day. Possibly the next few days if ur a binger like me.
Day 20. woo hoo 3 weeks tomorrow
Drinking is definitely gross. All the empty Calories. Feelin like crap the next day. Possibly the next few days if ur a binger like me.
Day 20. woo hoo 3 weeks tomorrow
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Originally Posted by ProfessorD 
Cleaning your house of the booze is absolutely something to be proud of! Yay you. Those fancy bottles will be much more meaningful and valuable as gifts. For you, they will be self-destructive.
I think you need to get on the same page with your husband ASAP, but only when it comes to you and your drinking. If he's a normie like my husband he needs to know that you aren't, that you never can be, and that there is no such thing as taking sobriety too far. Being sober is extreme because it is redressing an extreme and life-threatening problem. Only he can know if he's an alcoholic, but he has to support you 100 percent in YOUR journey. Otherwise it will just be too tempting to lapse, don't you think?
Edit: I think I confused your brother and your husband here, but you get my point
I think you need to get on the same page with your husband ASAP, but only when it comes to you and your drinking. If he's a normie like my husband he needs to know that you aren't, that you never can be, and that there is no such thing as taking sobriety too far. Being sober is extreme because it is redressing an extreme and life-threatening problem. Only he can know if he's an alcoholic, but he has to support you 100 percent in YOUR journey. Otherwise it will just be too tempting to lapse, don't you think?
Edit: I think I confused your brother and your husband here, but you get my point
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Day 1
Yesterday was so bad that I woke up this morning with horror at the utter disaster that was last night.
I had 50 days in Dec and Jan. I tried to quit in this thread earlier in the month and failed. I have to quit now.
The time is 20:37 in the UK so I know I've made it through the hardest day of all.
Regards,
JT
Yesterday was so bad that I woke up this morning with horror at the utter disaster that was last night.
I had 50 days in Dec and Jan. I tried to quit in this thread earlier in the month and failed. I have to quit now.
The time is 20:37 in the UK so I know I've made it through the hardest day of all.
Regards,
JT
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Originally Posted by JustTony
Day 1
Yesterday was so bad that I woke up this morning with horror at the utter disaster that was last night.
I had 50 days in Dec and Jan. I tried to quit in this thread earlier in the month and failed. I have to quit now.
The time is 20:37 in the UK so I know I've made it through the hardest day of all.
Regards,
JT
Yesterday was so bad that I woke up this morning with horror at the utter disaster that was last night.
I had 50 days in Dec and Jan. I tried to quit in this thread earlier in the month and failed. I have to quit now.
The time is 20:37 in the UK so I know I've made it through the hardest day of all.
Regards,
JT
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Originally Posted by Quitnow4
Hi Class, I’m here and doing well. Around day 25 or so? Pretty cool ��!
Welcome to the new mates! I hope you find us as nice of a group as I think we are.
Pleaselisten, sure we can all relate to the auto pilot purchases after we have committed to not drink. I had one of those in Jan. after 2 days off wine and that was the last step back for me. Do whatever you need to. You can do this!!
I’ve been reading books on the truth about alcohol vs. the lies we believe as a culture, which has helped to change my whole mindset about it. Our problem as newly sober people, is we believe we’re sacrificing something...we’re depriving ourself and there the struggle continues. I have been retraining my thoughts to understand alcohol is a poison to our bodies. It does nothing good for us....nothing. I have not missed my nightly wine at all in fact, I have been a bit giddy about my new life w/o it. I’m me %100 with no mind altering drugs in my system. It is a beautiful thing!!
In my last attempts before, I always thought I was depriving myself of this pleasure which I deserved. The me time at the end of the day. I used to be jealous of the “normal” drinkers.” Why don’t they get hooked? I believe so many drinkers are hooked. Didn’t many of us start off as normal drinkers...Couple glasses here and there leading to our bottle or bottles per night? They may appear normal now but that was me a few years back, and here I am on SR.
It really is a big ol’ lie that we’re better with alcohol in our system. Like ProfD said, “I don’t drink, because drinking is gross.” Hey, ProfD! I hope you’re doing well in your travels!!
Thx for letting me ramble. So grateful for the sober life. I hope you all have a great day!
Welcome to the new mates! I hope you find us as nice of a group as I think we are.
Pleaselisten, sure we can all relate to the auto pilot purchases after we have committed to not drink. I had one of those in Jan. after 2 days off wine and that was the last step back for me. Do whatever you need to. You can do this!!
I’ve been reading books on the truth about alcohol vs. the lies we believe as a culture, which has helped to change my whole mindset about it. Our problem as newly sober people, is we believe we’re sacrificing something...we’re depriving ourself and there the struggle continues. I have been retraining my thoughts to understand alcohol is a poison to our bodies. It does nothing good for us....nothing. I have not missed my nightly wine at all in fact, I have been a bit giddy about my new life w/o it. I’m me %100 with no mind altering drugs in my system. It is a beautiful thing!!
In my last attempts before, I always thought I was depriving myself of this pleasure which I deserved. The me time at the end of the day. I used to be jealous of the “normal” drinkers.” Why don’t they get hooked? I believe so many drinkers are hooked. Didn’t many of us start off as normal drinkers...Couple glasses here and there leading to our bottle or bottles per night? They may appear normal now but that was me a few years back, and here I am on SR.
It really is a big ol’ lie that we’re better with alcohol in our system. Like ProfD said, “I don’t drink, because drinking is gross.” Hey, ProfD! I hope you’re doing well in your travels!!
Thx for letting me ramble. So grateful for the sober life. I hope you all have a great day!
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Originally Posted by JustTony
Day 1
Yesterday was so bad that I woke up this morning with horror at the utter disaster that was last night.
I had 50 days in Dec and Jan. I tried to quit in this thread earlier in the month and failed. I have to quit now.
The time is 20:37 in the UK so I know I've made it through the hardest day of all.
Regards,
JT
Yesterday was so bad that I woke up this morning with horror at the utter disaster that was last night.
I had 50 days in Dec and Jan. I tried to quit in this thread earlier in the month and failed. I have to quit now.
The time is 20:37 in the UK so I know I've made it through the hardest day of all.
Regards,
JT
I was on day 21 yesterday and ended up drinking. For me, I am just going to stop counting days because I have had so many Day 1's that it is just disheartening for me. I feel like a failure each and every time and somehow that makes me want to drink even more.
At this moment, I choose not to drink. I have to drive kids around and I have my son's conference at school and I want to go to that sober (and let me tell you - there are a number of them that I did not go sober!).
Just choose to be sober today.
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Originally Posted by ChickChick
Hi. I'd like to join you all. Day 9 here. Good to see some familiar faces.
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welcome RP4595 chickchick and JT
Congrats Quitnow on day 25, wildflower 21, and CAGY 20
hi sunshine 72 - I had to see it as a lifestyle change too - after a while I really got into it.
wayforward - hope all went well
Hi lessgravity and Darkling Song
alcohols not great in the way we drink it goodbyeevan
welcome back SpirallingUpward! feeling bad sounds like a trigger for you. I hope you can work out a strategy to beat that next time
welcome home ProfessorD sounds like a good trip
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Congrats Quitnow on day 25, wildflower 21, and CAGY 20
hi sunshine 72 - I had to see it as a lifestyle change too - after a while I really got into it.
wayforward - hope all went well
Hi lessgravity and Darkling Song alcohols not great in the way we drink it goodbyeevan
welcome back SpirallingUpward! feeling bad sounds like a trigger for you. I hope you can work out a strategy to beat that next time
welcome home ProfessorD sounds like a good trip
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Originally Posted by PleaseListen
Wish it was day 3 but I am back to day 1...had a bottle of wine last night for no reason...just said to myself, I need wine and without thought or hesitation bought and drank it like it was totally normal. I even thought to myself at the end of the night how good I did cause it was only one bottle.
I need to stop in those moments and shut them down! I need to learn a new behavior to do in those autopilot moments to stop myself! This is crazy!!!
I need to stop in those moments and shut them down! I need to learn a new behavior to do in those autopilot moments to stop myself! This is crazy!!!
We really do want to help you fight this
Originally Posted by 02022018
I wish I could say I am 20 days today but I cannot. I couldn't take the physical pain of my fibro and back any longer. I have not slept more than a couple of hours in the last 4 nights because of the pain. I drank last night.
I had some physical relief and was able to sleep last night.
I will not beat myself up. I had 19 out of 20 days sober and will not discount that. Back to the doctor again today and will move forward in my sobriety because I do know I am better without than I am with.
I had some physical relief and was able to sleep last night.
I will not beat myself up. I had 19 out of 20 days sober and will not discount that. Back to the doctor again today and will move forward in my sobriety because I do know I am better without than I am with.
I have chronic pain too. If I've learned anything it's that alcohol simply does not help.
It promises relief but any respite never lasted any time worth a damn.
In fact I think drinking the way I used to made my pain worse.
I know fibro can be difficult to treat but do keep working with your Dr - thats the way forward, I think?
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Currently obsessed with reading "the good house". Guess I'll break here in a bit and try this new AA group I haven't been to yet. I fought a panic attack the first half of the one I went to on Tuesday. I hate having to read outloud! I get this weird stage fright. Also caffeine may have contributed some. At this point I'm going to listen and maybe find some sober friends eventually. Since all my friends are from my old job at a bar, i have to find new ones. Which really sucks. I try to "play the tape to the end" when I start to get wistful about all those crazy nights there.
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I met a friend last weekend and told him in advance I wasn’t drinking. I felt confident about it since i had 39 sober days. When the bartender came over something overtook me and we ordered two beers. It was so sudden and of course it didn’t stop at one. So I’m joining the Feb. class on day five. I obviously shouldn’t have put myself in that situation and need to keep my guard up. Have a good night everybody
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JustTony, if you're an addict you can't help it, simple as that. All you can be responsible for is deciding not to take the first drink. I hope you don't waste any time and energy beating yourself up. You're a good person, and you're just struggling right now.
What's that metaphor you always use, Dee? About it taking a few launches to achieve orbit?
What's that metaphor you always use, Dee? About it taking a few launches to achieve orbit?
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