24Hour Recovery Connection Part 344
No quitting on yer quit eh!
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“To sober up seems to many like making life “so serious,” as if seriousness precluded joy, warmth, spontaneity and fun. But there can be a delusional, blind quality to non-sober festivities. To have our eyes open soberly with all our senses and memory intact allows some of the most rewarding, soul-nourishing, and long-lasting pleasures possible.”
- Alexandra Katehakis
5:45am in Alberta, today is going to be a darn good day not to drink!
24 more please, and thanks....
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Originally Posted by kenton 
No shame in relapsing TinkerB... everyone falls, what's awesome is what happens after you stand back up. I think you're brave, strong and fabulous. Keep going, you're doing great.
So I have a bit of a dilemma.... yesterday my brother phoned me and said one of my sisters has been saying some pretty awful stuff about me behind my back. It's been going on for about 2 weeks apparently. None of what she's been saying is true. I spoke to a mutual friend last night and my sister has spread lies about me to her too.
I got pretty upset about it last night and this morning my overriding feeling is one of confusion. I don't understand why she's saying this stuff about me. I understand that when I was drinking I was no doubt a major pain in the neck but I've been sober for 15 months now.... I know I haven't done anything wrong. In fact, I've been worried about this sister because I know she suffers from mood swings so I've been phoning her regularly to check up on her and I've spent a lot of time listening to her problems etc.
So, my dilemma is. ... what do I do now? How do sober people react to stuff like this? Do I turn the other cheek, let her carry on spreading lies in the hope she'll get bored soon and no one will believe her? Or do I confront her and try to keep my temper in check?
I've always had a turbulent relationship with this sister, something I've often blamed myself for. She has this weird sense of entitlement and thinks she should always have more than me. In the past she's stolen boyfriends and money from me. The thing is, I always had a problem with alcohol so every time she did something awful to me, I'd get drunk, react ridiculously and strengthen my position as the family lunatic. My reaction would always outshine whatever she did to provoke me in the first place.
I'm not that person anymore... something that most people are starting to see. I'm aware that happy people don't spread lies about another human so I know my sister is unhappy and hurting but am I supposed to just take this? Is it time to call time on our relationship? I know drunk people sever family ties, do sober people do it too?
Last night I was so upset by what she's been saying about me, I couldn't read my book of inspirational quotes. Already her behaviour has started to throw me off course. My sobriety has to remain my priority and I don't want to risk that. Not for anything or anyone. I know I need to remember my signature...'new day, new attitude'... I'm just not sure what that attitude is.
Sorry for writing a novel. I'm pretty churned up ... I don't know who in the real world she has spoken to about me and who believes her lies. Once again, I'm turning to you.... my awesome cyber family.
Congratulations to everyone celebrating a milestone today. 24 more for me please xxxx
So I have a bit of a dilemma.... yesterday my brother phoned me and said one of my sisters has been saying some pretty awful stuff about me behind my back. It's been going on for about 2 weeks apparently. None of what she's been saying is true. I spoke to a mutual friend last night and my sister has spread lies about me to her too.
I got pretty upset about it last night and this morning my overriding feeling is one of confusion. I don't understand why she's saying this stuff about me. I understand that when I was drinking I was no doubt a major pain in the neck but I've been sober for 15 months now.... I know I haven't done anything wrong. In fact, I've been worried about this sister because I know she suffers from mood swings so I've been phoning her regularly to check up on her and I've spent a lot of time listening to her problems etc.
So, my dilemma is. ... what do I do now? How do sober people react to stuff like this? Do I turn the other cheek, let her carry on spreading lies in the hope she'll get bored soon and no one will believe her? Or do I confront her and try to keep my temper in check?
I've always had a turbulent relationship with this sister, something I've often blamed myself for. She has this weird sense of entitlement and thinks she should always have more than me. In the past she's stolen boyfriends and money from me. The thing is, I always had a problem with alcohol so every time she did something awful to me, I'd get drunk, react ridiculously and strengthen my position as the family lunatic. My reaction would always outshine whatever she did to provoke me in the first place.
I'm not that person anymore... something that most people are starting to see. I'm aware that happy people don't spread lies about another human so I know my sister is unhappy and hurting but am I supposed to just take this? Is it time to call time on our relationship? I know drunk people sever family ties, do sober people do it too?
Last night I was so upset by what she's been saying about me, I couldn't read my book of inspirational quotes. Already her behaviour has started to throw me off course. My sobriety has to remain my priority and I don't want to risk that. Not for anything or anyone. I know I need to remember my signature...'new day, new attitude'... I'm just not sure what that attitude is.
Sorry for writing a novel. I'm pretty churned up ... I don't know who in the real world she has spoken to about me and who believes her lies. Once again, I'm turning to you.... my awesome cyber family.
Congratulations to everyone celebrating a milestone today. 24 more for me please xxxx
I have just been through this with my sister and my ex-best friend.
Yes, my darling, it is time to call time.....not you, me or any one of us deserves or needs this kind of disrespect, meanness and ill-will from anyone, let alone our family.
I am not walking around telling people what a cow my sister is....OK, I am now.
But seriously, grow up Ali and stop being so awful to me...behind my back....This was affecting my sobriety as well: my little sister was my very best friend. That she hates me so much now is very painful. I have (mostly, still trying) let go honey....I prayed for her and wished her well. And I will keep praying.
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Originally Posted by BarbieKen
Hi,
Tink and Suze, thank our HP's for this special place that we can be our true selves. Sweet Dreams.
Another person I miss is Strat (Strategy). I hope one day she'll come back.
While here, I'll check in for my next 24 too!
Bobbi
Tink and Suze, thank our HP's for this special place that we can be our true selves. Sweet Dreams.
Another person I miss is Strat (Strategy). I hope one day she'll come back.
While here, I'll check in for my next 24 too!
Bobbi
I monitored strat for a long time....I believe she was hosting/moderating one of the chat meetings, and I thought well, that's what she wants, no one has to post if they don't want to of course......and I noticed she posted in Newcomers a bit and Fluffies and then popped in here to say hi, and then it looks like that was it.
I think of her often. I have a rat that is half pet now because I refuse to let him be killed by my landlord. He is damn cute and I think of strat every time I see him.
I hope and pray that she is well and happy.
I hope she knows how much we miss her.
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Originally Posted by tomls
I know that I am very proud to be a friend of yours "little miss runner"! 24 more clean and sober hours please. Thank you all for being here! Congratulations to anyone hitting a milestone today and have a great day!
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Originally Posted by PalmerSage
I'd love to commit to 24 hours! 7:52 a.m. here in the USA.
Welcome to our wonderful thread!!!
Sending huge hugs your way.
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Just listened to a play on BBC Radio 4 called The Red.
Rufus Jones and David Calder star in Marcus Brigstocke's first drama for radio.
Benedict has been sober for 25 years. On the day of his father's funeral, he learns he has left him an unsettling final request. Benedict's father loved wine. He collected it and found sharing it with his friends and family an act of love and joy. But his son is an alcoholic. We witness how this has affected both their lives and their relationship in this drama based on Marcus Brigstocke's own experience of recovery.
The play was recorded on location in a 400 year old wine cellar.
Rufus Jones is best known as a comedy actor with starring roles in television comedies including W1A, Hunderby and Camping.
David Calder has had many leading parts on stage including the National Theatre and RSC, and television.
Rufus Jones and David Calder star in Marcus Brigstocke's first drama for radio.
Benedict has been sober for 25 years. On the day of his father's funeral, he learns he has left him an unsettling final request. Benedict's father loved wine. He collected it and found sharing it with his friends and family an act of love and joy. But his son is an alcoholic. We witness how this has affected both their lives and their relationship in this drama based on Marcus Brigstocke's own experience of recovery.
The play was recorded on location in a 400 year old wine cellar.
Rufus Jones is best known as a comedy actor with starring roles in television comedies including W1A, Hunderby and Camping.
David Calder has had many leading parts on stage including the National Theatre and RSC, and television.
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I tried every way I know of listening to that play soberista, but I can't seem to access it. 
It sounds amazing.
Hi Neoo love.
Woot...found it....here is the link for all of us:
The Red
It sounds amazing. Hi Neoo love.
Woot...found it....here is the link for all of us:
The Red
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