One Year & Over Part 57
One Year & Over Part 57
Thanks for the fresh thread for the New Year, Dee!
With both the New Year and my biological B-day tomorrow (hint, hint), I always get a little reflective this time of year. I'm so grateful that I found recovery before it was too late. The last few years of my drinking were some very dark days. There were numerous times when I didn't care if I lived or died. Getting sober literally saved my life. So glad that I found SR and all of you wonderful overs.
I hope that 2018 brings ALL of you peace, joy and happiness beyond your wildest dreams!
With both the New Year and my biological B-day tomorrow (hint, hint), I always get a little reflective this time of year. I'm so grateful that I found recovery before it was too late. The last few years of my drinking were some very dark days. There were numerous times when I didn't care if I lived or died. Getting sober literally saved my life. So glad that I found SR and all of you wonderful overs.
I hope that 2018 brings ALL of you peace, joy and happiness beyond your wildest dreams!
Thanks, Dee!
Happy New Year, Overs
Happy birthday, FBL!
I skipped the party last night. I love my quiet evenings. I wasn’t worried about being tempted but don’t enjoy being around people who drink too much. My sober evolution continues.
Happy New Year, Overs
Happy birthday, FBL!
I skipped the party last night. I love my quiet evenings. I wasn’t worried about being tempted but don’t enjoy being around people who drink too much. My sober evolution continues.
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I slept through the countdown! I guess I’m an old fuddy duddy! I tried to stay up, but failed (and ended up sleeping 12 hours).
Itch, my cabinet is a metaphor for the new year: out with the stale and in with the fresh! I found a ton of old stuff, particularly spices.
Have a great day, everyone!
Itch, my cabinet is a metaphor for the new year: out with the stale and in with the fresh! I found a ton of old stuff, particularly spices.
Have a great day, everyone!
Happy New Year Overs,
I got dressed to go to a party, lay down on my bed and put a movie on , fell asleep, and decided at 10:30 pm that I didn't need to go out. It's kind of annoying how couples are able to stay in and be cosy on New Years and no one cares, but single people feel pressure to go out and party and if you want to stay home people treat you like there's something wrong with you. I rebelled. I don't like parties at the best of times, but one where I'm alone, sober, surrounded by people drinking their faces off because it's new years eve, ugh. Just no. I feel I'm at the point now where I just don't need to celebrate new years like that.....I sound old and grumpy. I'm just tired of being single I think.
FBL, happy early birthday, and right back atcha!!!
Happy New Year everyone.
I got dressed to go to a party, lay down on my bed and put a movie on , fell asleep, and decided at 10:30 pm that I didn't need to go out. It's kind of annoying how couples are able to stay in and be cosy on New Years and no one cares, but single people feel pressure to go out and party and if you want to stay home people treat you like there's something wrong with you. I rebelled. I don't like parties at the best of times, but one where I'm alone, sober, surrounded by people drinking their faces off because it's new years eve, ugh. Just no. I feel I'm at the point now where I just don't need to celebrate new years like that.....I sound old and grumpy. I'm just tired of being single I think.
FBL, happy early birthday, and right back atcha!!!
Happy New Year everyone.
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Happy New Year, Overries!
It's their problem, InPar, not yours. I am single. I feel totally fine with staying at home and celebrating New Year the way I prefer it - without drama, noise, and "supposed to be" frenzy.
Yes, I am single. And I like being at the gym at 5 pm. on New Year's Eve. And then fall asleep at 12.20. a.m. And wake up to a quiet morning .
And I am going to do it this way until I meet a person who shares my values and supports my lifestyle.
Come on, girl. You are too good to be worried about what people think.
Happy New Year!
Yes, I am single. And I like being at the gym at 5 pm. on New Year's Eve. And then fall asleep at 12.20. a.m. And wake up to a quiet morning .
And I am going to do it this way until I meet a person who shares my values and supports my lifestyle.
Come on, girl. You are too good to be worried about what people think.
Happy New Year!
Dee,
Have a happy and prosperous New Year my friend.
FBL,
Aww shucks, you're just saying that because it is true. Glad you are on our team too.
RZ!
Happy New Year to you 2!
Star,
Hope yours is all you hope 2.
Dragon,
Backatcha!
FG,
Good metaphors are the spice of prose. Happy New Spices!
IP,
When we cocoon in, the only ones who care are us, and we feel good about it. There are drunk couples who say that is boring, and sober ones who still have difficulty enjoying their own skin.
What others think is unimportant dear. If you want a sober date for every night of your life then go find your life buddy. As a counselor at a large local college in their counseling center, I dealt with loneliness issues 80% of the time. Most of the time when I laid out what they looked for in a guy (kind, funny, loyal, gentle, strong) Who attracted them (dangerous, silent,unpredictable, moody etc.) were not what made for the profile they actually wanted in a long term good guy profile. relationship.https://www.connectingsingles.com/ar...e-bad-guys.htm
MB!
Happy Happy backatcha too! I wrote the above, then read yours. Well said!
It is a new year for each of us. All of us gave ourselves a do over. How rare is that? Let's all use it as we know we can.
Have a happy and prosperous New Year my friend.
FBL,
Aww shucks, you're just saying that because it is true. Glad you are on our team too.
RZ!
Happy New Year to you 2!
Star,
Hope yours is all you hope 2.
Dragon,
Backatcha!
FG,
Good metaphors are the spice of prose. Happy New Spices!
IP,
When we cocoon in, the only ones who care are us, and we feel good about it. There are drunk couples who say that is boring, and sober ones who still have difficulty enjoying their own skin.
What others think is unimportant dear. If you want a sober date for every night of your life then go find your life buddy. As a counselor at a large local college in their counseling center, I dealt with loneliness issues 80% of the time. Most of the time when I laid out what they looked for in a guy (kind, funny, loyal, gentle, strong) Who attracted them (dangerous, silent,unpredictable, moody etc.) were not what made for the profile they actually wanted in a long term good guy profile. relationship.https://www.connectingsingles.com/ar...e-bad-guys.htm
MB!
Happy Happy backatcha too! I wrote the above, then read yours. Well said!
It is a new year for each of us. All of us gave ourselves a do over. How rare is that? Let's all use it as we know we can.
Happy New Year, Overries!
It's their problem, InPar, not yours. I am single. I feel totally fine with staying at home and celebrating New Year the way I prefer it - without drama, noise, and "supposed to be" frenzy.
Yes, I am single. And I like being at the gym at 5 pm. on New Year's Eve. And then fall asleep at 12.20. a.m. And wake up to a quiet morning .
And I am going to do it this way until I meet a person who shares my values and supports my lifestyle.
Come on, girl. You are too good to be worried about what people think.
Happy New Year!
It's their problem, InPar, not yours. I am single. I feel totally fine with staying at home and celebrating New Year the way I prefer it - without drama, noise, and "supposed to be" frenzy.
Yes, I am single. And I like being at the gym at 5 pm. on New Year's Eve. And then fall asleep at 12.20. a.m. And wake up to a quiet morning .
And I am going to do it this way until I meet a person who shares my values and supports my lifestyle.
Come on, girl. You are too good to be worried about what people think.
Happy New Year!
Watching you soar is some kind of wonderful.
Love you to pieces. ♥
Happy New Year again all.
Looking for something to look forward to? Here are 18 things we can look fporward to this year!
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Aw MB, you are a part of each of us here. Thnx!
CK,
Is today your 365th consecutive day of sobriety? I think it is . . . .
Tomorrow you start on year two! I am on year 8 and it seems like yesterday I was not able to get 24 hours! It goes fast because each day is filled with doing, feeling and receiving! Tomorrow you start practicing the secret overs Handshake.
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CK,
Is today your 365th consecutive day of sobriety? I think it is . . . .
Tomorrow you start on year two! I am on year 8 and it seems like yesterday I was not able to get 24 hours! It goes fast because each day is filled with doing, feeling and receiving! Tomorrow you start practicing the secret overs Handshake.
Read the terms of use carefully: (If you think that's tough, I wrote it!)
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Have an Internet connection and are not receiving this website as a voice in your head, or as a sudden understanding of the ululations of ocean waves as binary code, that you decipher in your head, as I type dictation from the voices in mine.
Verify that your computer is actually plugged into an electrical outlet while you read these diatribes. (Lean over and check now) If your computer is not plugged in and you are still reading this, immediately sprinkle vegetable oil on your computer case and chant three times in a Vincent Price voice “Demon I exorcise thee!” Make a circle of salt around your chair but do not encompass the computer to continue. Run the program EXOR.SYS in DOS mode as a precaution. If the monitor begins to spin around . . . run!
Are an adult over age 18 and can accept responsibility for your own actions. If you think that is tough, just think that Dee has to accept attribution for this whole website!
Understand all content is for informational purposes only, what you do with any information on this site is your responsibility.
Agree that the content does not necessarily reflect the opinions of Major League Baseball, the NFL, major religious leaders, economists, ancient philosophers, other Overs, or even myself.
Agree your politics are best described in this David Epstein quote: “I'm left on the right issues and right on what's left. Now that's an issue I left right in front of you to debate.”
DISCLAIMER: All clauses of this disclaimer apply to the disclaimer itself, except for this first sentence. All other disclaimers that may be found on this site, or sites linked to herein, are obviously subsets of this disclaimer and/or invalid, illegal, or fattening.
This disclaimer is provided for informational, misinformational, and metainformational purposes only and should not be construed as a solicitation or offer for anything whatsoever.
This disclaimer may contain forward-looking statements, and probably will contain backward-looking statements, too.
All metainformation, HTML tags, photographs, artwork, text, opinions, ideas, facts or factoids contained in this site are either my own, and therefore are Copyright ©1997-2017 Itchy, all rights reserved, three rights is left, or duly licensed from and/or attributed to the writers, owners or copyright holders, or in good faith presumed to be in the public domain, or quotable under some sort of "fair use" clause.
Text, tags, metatags, scripts, trackbacks or links on this site may have been totally or partially generated by distributed software and/or information gathering and diffusion mechanisms of uncertain location, provenance, or intentions. All products, brands and company names mentioned will probably be trademarks or trade names of the respective companies, and you should mentally insert the appropriate ™, ©, ® or whatever, wherever appropriate.
Any links to external sites and any comments about the contents thereof should not be construed as endorsement, tolerance, approval or disapproval of such contents, even if such comments overtly purport to do so. 90% of all cited statistics may have been made up on the spot.
Before entering this site be sure to make at least two back-up copies of your mind and other important data on other media to protect against data loss. Brains sold separately. Sense of humor must be provided by third parties. Caveat Browser.
Use, duplication, disclosure, or ritual exorcism of this information by the Government (any Government) is subject to the restrictions of physical laws. There is no conscious attempt made, nor desire extant, to libel or otherwise cause malicious damage, loss, public contempt, defamation, slander, blasphemy, treason, sedition, or ridicule to persons of any gender, or even none, cabals, corporations, governments, institutions, or assemblies of inanimate objects, alien lifeforms, microorganisms, clergy, vegetables, animals, or any collections thereof.
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Any actions you take based on whatever you saw, or think you saw on this site, are entirely your own responsibility, so there! This site is directed at reasonably mature people of any age and if you're not among them, life will be tough.
Since all of the Internet's web pages are interlinked you will sooner than later come to what you may consider an ugly, silly, stupid, obscene or otherwise offensive site. Don't say I didn't warn you!
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How many coffee did you drink to write that brick?
My gawd! You don't sweat, you percolate!!!
I don't have the strenght to go through this tonight after 3 servings at the table (*burps!*)
Anyway, you don't remember but I've reached my One year on December 2nd.
You already obliged me to learn this "secret salute" to be a member and I'm getting pretty good!
Happy New year Itchy...try to rest a bit now!
I'm dreaming of my bed myself...night nighty!
My gawd! You don't sweat, you percolate!!!
I don't have the strenght to go through this tonight after 3 servings at the table (*burps!*)
Anyway, you don't remember but I've reached my One year on December 2nd.
You already obliged me to learn this "secret salute" to be a member and I'm getting pretty good!
Happy New year Itchy...try to rest a bit now!
I'm dreaming of my bed myself...night nighty!
I claim illness and old timers!! Accck! Hey good one! You've got the secret greeting down Pat. (Pat, you're OK with that right?)
And yes I really wrote that for my website 18 Years ago, it is all mine. ( I don't do plagiarism, but I do like other "isms" including but not limited to: hedonism, consumerism, bourgeoism, commercialism, materialism; capitalism, liberalism, cognitivism, relativism, universalism, humanism, individualism)
I was drinking at the time!
No DHMO at all save in my liquor!
(Yeah . . That's the ticket)
G'nite CK
And yes I really wrote that for my website 18 Years ago, it is all mine. ( I don't do plagiarism, but I do like other "isms" including but not limited to: hedonism, consumerism, bourgeoism, commercialism, materialism; capitalism, liberalism, cognitivism, relativism, universalism, humanism, individualism)
I was drinking at the time!
No DHMO at all save in my liquor!
(Yeah . . That's the ticket)
G'nite CK
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