One Year & Over Part 46
Living and Loving Life at Last
Join Date: Aug 2012
Location: gods own country
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Originally Posted by FormerBeerLover 
Better watch it, Zip...you just may be replaced for your next gig!
Living and Loving Life at Last
Join Date: Aug 2012
Location: gods own country
Posts: 12,171
Well the packing went without tears or tantrums - joking apart, hubby and I do great teamwork when we pull together, it's a strong part of our relationship that I never take for granted. I've a couple of days at work next week and then the spanis odyssey woohoo!
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Join Date: May 2012
Location: US East Coast
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Zip and Goat - thanks (I think) - I'm fully awake now 
. I looked for my cat after watching!
Toots, I've often thought that a relationship is strong when stressful times don't bring out the worst in people. That sounds banal but too often I've seen a couple take out stress on each other.
Have a super Sunday :-)
. I looked for my cat after watching!Toots, I've often thought that a relationship is strong when stressful times don't bring out the worst in people. That sounds banal but too often I've seen a couple take out stress on each other.
Have a super Sunday :-)
non-drinker
Join Date: Jul 2009
Location: Milwaukee, Wisconsin, USA
Posts: 13,848
A little rain here this morning may put a damper on my extended Sunday morning nature walk.
Got my federal taxes filed yesterday, will probably get my state return filed today. I never wait to do mine as I always get a few bucks back.
Have a Sensational Sunday, overs!
Got my federal taxes filed yesterday, will probably get my state return filed today. I never wait to do mine as I always get a few bucks back.
Have a Sensational Sunday, overs!
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Join Date: Jan 2013
Location: New England, USA
Posts: 3,958
Hi all,
A friend passed away after a long battle with organ failure resulting from alcoholism yesterday. He started drinking when he was a teenager and his girlfriend was in a fatal car accident.
I met him and his future wife when I met my future husband, 18 years ago. We were all in our 20's then. We'd get together every week; the guys played pool, the girls chatted, fun times. Eventually we all got married, bought homes close by each other, and had kids.
His married life fell apart because of his alcoholism. His boozing had reached a point where he drank all day and night, passed out, came to, drank more, rinse and repeat. His wife isolated from the other women in the group.
His issues became too much for me to handle, even when I was a drinker. There's only so many times friends can tell someone they've hit rock bottom. At the same time, with him as my litmus, I was able to tell myself I didn't have a drinking problem.
The last time we spent time together as couples was the summer my license was suspended as a result of a DUI, some 6 years ago. We rented a cottage on the water and I watched first hand has he drank all day and night.
His wife left him due to some hurtful things that happened to her and their 2 children when he was drunk. I tried to "be there" for her and her kids, but she was not a truthful person, too needy, and too much for me to manage. As a codependent person, I didn't know at the time how to help her and maintain boundaries to take care of myself.
One of our friends wrote a tribute to him that was about how in death he will reunite with his teenage love.
No mention of the pain and destruction that his 25-45 year old self caused to his exwife, and two children, or his mother and sister, who have spent the last 10-15 years wading through steaming piles of wreckage because he didn't get sober.
If there is one thing I'm learning, it's that I don't "have to" share my contrarian views with the group, just because I think I'm right. I pray I can find the self restraint to nod and smile when his friends wistfully remember him as a teenager with no responsibilities. I pray for the maturity to remember that it's not necessary to share my point of view. I pray I will reflect upon whether "is this helpful?" and "Is this kind?" before I speak. If I feel frustrated I will rejoice in gratitude for finding recovery. If I need to take a break, I will excuse myself to the ladies room. If it's still eating my craw I will share with my sponsor and here for feedback.
I am grateful beyond measure to have recovery in my life.
A friend passed away after a long battle with organ failure resulting from alcoholism yesterday. He started drinking when he was a teenager and his girlfriend was in a fatal car accident.
I met him and his future wife when I met my future husband, 18 years ago. We were all in our 20's then. We'd get together every week; the guys played pool, the girls chatted, fun times. Eventually we all got married, bought homes close by each other, and had kids.
His married life fell apart because of his alcoholism. His boozing had reached a point where he drank all day and night, passed out, came to, drank more, rinse and repeat. His wife isolated from the other women in the group.
His issues became too much for me to handle, even when I was a drinker. There's only so many times friends can tell someone they've hit rock bottom. At the same time, with him as my litmus, I was able to tell myself I didn't have a drinking problem.
The last time we spent time together as couples was the summer my license was suspended as a result of a DUI, some 6 years ago. We rented a cottage on the water and I watched first hand has he drank all day and night.
His wife left him due to some hurtful things that happened to her and their 2 children when he was drunk. I tried to "be there" for her and her kids, but she was not a truthful person, too needy, and too much for me to manage. As a codependent person, I didn't know at the time how to help her and maintain boundaries to take care of myself.
One of our friends wrote a tribute to him that was about how in death he will reunite with his teenage love.
No mention of the pain and destruction that his 25-45 year old self caused to his exwife, and two children, or his mother and sister, who have spent the last 10-15 years wading through steaming piles of wreckage because he didn't get sober.
If there is one thing I'm learning, it's that I don't "have to" share my contrarian views with the group, just because I think I'm right. I pray I can find the self restraint to nod and smile when his friends wistfully remember him as a teenager with no responsibilities. I pray for the maturity to remember that it's not necessary to share my point of view. I pray I will reflect upon whether "is this helpful?" and "Is this kind?" before I speak. If I feel frustrated I will rejoice in gratitude for finding recovery. If I need to take a break, I will excuse myself to the ladies room. If it's still eating my craw I will share with my sponsor and here for feedback.
I am grateful beyond measure to have recovery in my life.
non-drinker
Join Date: Jul 2009
Location: Milwaukee, Wisconsin, USA
Posts: 13,848
Glee, sorry to hear about your friend. I think any one of us here could've ended up in similar circumstances...I know I could've. Thank God we found our way out before it got to that point. Sending hugs your way today.
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Sober date 5/1/13
Join Date: Mar 2014
Location: Staffordshire UK
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Good morning Overs.
(((Glee))) - when you think of all the organs and systems that alcohol attacks, I wonder how many deaths are actually rooted in drinking alcohol?
Have the best day you can.
(((Glee))) - when you think of all the organs and systems that alcohol attacks, I wonder how many deaths are actually rooted in drinking alcohol?
Have the best day you can.
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Good morning, Overs!
We are in the midst of a "nor'easter " here - blizzard conditions expected until about noon. It's blowing so much that it's hard to tell how much snow has already fallen but I'd guess about a foot so far. It's a good day to snuggle up and relax.
Have a safe and mellow Monday.
We are in the midst of a "nor'easter " here - blizzard conditions expected until about noon. It's blowing so much that it's hard to tell how much snow has already fallen but I'd guess about a foot so far. It's a good day to snuggle up and relax.
Have a safe and mellow Monday.
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Originally Posted by Saskia
Good morning, Overs!
We are in the midst of a "nor'easter " here - blizzard conditions expected until about noon. It's blowing so much that it's hard to tell how much snow has already fallen but I'd guess about a foot so far. It's a good day to snuggle up and relax.
Have a safe and mellow Monday.
We are in the midst of a "nor'easter " here - blizzard conditions expected until about noon. It's blowing so much that it's hard to tell how much snow has already fallen but I'd guess about a foot so far. It's a good day to snuggle up and relax.
Have a safe and mellow Monday.
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