Class of July 2016 Support Thread Part 4
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Glad you made it through Optimist. Anxiety is such a killer! Forester, that's great news!
I'm very extremely annoyed at spouse who got layed off two weeks ago and did not tell me. Had 2 weeks notice. Yesterday he was sitting around in morning and said he took the day off. Finally last night he told me.
I'm very pissed off. He will sit around playing video games like a teenager doing nothing. . Only good thing is my drinking time was when I Ditched early and drank a bottle or so before he got home. Soooo, no temptation during that time now.
I am one that needs alone time, and had a couple hours in the morning and afternoon, not now! Sorry for the vent!
I'm very extremely annoyed at spouse who got layed off two weeks ago and did not tell me. Had 2 weeks notice. Yesterday he was sitting around in morning and said he took the day off. Finally last night he told me.
I'm very pissed off. He will sit around playing video games like a teenager doing nothing. . Only good thing is my drinking time was when I Ditched early and drank a bottle or so before he got home. Soooo, no temptation during that time now.
I am one that needs alone time, and had a couple hours in the morning and afternoon, not now! Sorry for the vent!
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50 Days. CHECK. damn. I don't know how I'm doing this.
Sunflower - I'm really sorry about your difficult situation. This sounds really hard to deal with. Seems to me that you're with an alcoholic. I agree with Dee and others, I'd like to see you with a lot of support. I know you have the therapist, that's excellent. Did you attempt AA? Because I'm feeling that might help. Women helping women in a group. I have confidence that those ladies have seen what exactly you're going through, many times. Just a suggestion. I'll have you in my thoughts and prayers (at least my version of prayers). Sending Love Sunfl.
I find I'm not counting my blessings. I want more and more. However, I have busted my tail to accomplish this. I have no wife, GF, no one, to interfere with this, which is good. I shut down my friendships. They know what I'm doing and are in support of me, but I can't hang out with them (my decision). I don't think my family has any clue what 50 days means. Totally clueless. My brother asked me to stop at the booze store for Jim Beam and Tanguerary on my way to my nephew's party. This was sent by text which I didn't bother returning. He asked about it when I got there and I said, 'I never agreed to that. I haven't been in a liquor store in 47 days, in case you haven't noticed.' He was infuriated. Total IDIOT. Could I have done that and not drank? Probably. This is a matter a principle. It's his and my sister's rule that I can't drink if I want to maintain family help. If he doesn't like it... I think you know what I'm going to say. Plus ZERO credit from anyone on that. I'm never doing enough. Just the not drinking is a massive thing. Never mind all of the other stuff I'm doing.
I'm also very frustrated that my dad has come around and he wants to help me out with getting out of here, but it's complex with my brother and sister involved.
I have my therapist tomorrow. The apartment is 90% cleared out. I have a huge loft and I'd filled it with collections for 18 years. It's all gone. Even things like clothes, I got rid of about 5, 35 gallon totes of clothes. I also cleaned like heck. Scrubbing.
Ok. Till tomorrow.
Sunflower - I'm really sorry about your difficult situation. This sounds really hard to deal with. Seems to me that you're with an alcoholic. I agree with Dee and others, I'd like to see you with a lot of support. I know you have the therapist, that's excellent. Did you attempt AA? Because I'm feeling that might help. Women helping women in a group. I have confidence that those ladies have seen what exactly you're going through, many times. Just a suggestion. I'll have you in my thoughts and prayers (at least my version of prayers). Sending Love Sunfl.
I find I'm not counting my blessings. I want more and more. However, I have busted my tail to accomplish this. I have no wife, GF, no one, to interfere with this, which is good. I shut down my friendships. They know what I'm doing and are in support of me, but I can't hang out with them (my decision). I don't think my family has any clue what 50 days means. Totally clueless. My brother asked me to stop at the booze store for Jim Beam and Tanguerary on my way to my nephew's party. This was sent by text which I didn't bother returning. He asked about it when I got there and I said, 'I never agreed to that. I haven't been in a liquor store in 47 days, in case you haven't noticed.' He was infuriated. Total IDIOT. Could I have done that and not drank? Probably. This is a matter a principle. It's his and my sister's rule that I can't drink if I want to maintain family help. If he doesn't like it... I think you know what I'm going to say. Plus ZERO credit from anyone on that. I'm never doing enough. Just the not drinking is a massive thing. Never mind all of the other stuff I'm doing.
I'm also very frustrated that my dad has come around and he wants to help me out with getting out of here, but it's complex with my brother and sister involved.
I have my therapist tomorrow. The apartment is 90% cleared out. I have a huge loft and I'd filled it with collections for 18 years. It's all gone. Even things like clothes, I got rid of about 5, 35 gallon totes of clothes. I also cleaned like heck. Scrubbing.
Ok. Till tomorrow.
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Things better at the moment. Had to go in to the office last 2 days, usually work from home. Usually going in to the office is an ordeal for me as my anxiety goes in to overload. But due to the fact I wasn't paranoid I stank of last night's alcohol and the fact I wasn't hungover found it so much easier to deal with. Husband hasn't drank for last 2 days, that's also made life easier.
Off out for a run, then an 8 hour shift at home this time. Hope everyone having better days
Off out for a run, then an 8 hour shift at home this time. Hope everyone having better days
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Originally Posted by PennyLane76 
Glad you made it through Optimist. Anxiety is such a killer! Forester, that's great news! I'm very extremely annoyed at spouse who got layed off two weeks ago and did not tell me. Had 2 weeks notice. Yesterday he was sitting around in morning and said he took the day off. Finally last night he told me. I'm very pissed off. He will sit around playing video games like a teenager doing nothing. . Only good thing is my drinking time was when I Ditched early and drank a bottle or so before he got home. Soooo, no temptation during that time now. I am one that needs alone time, and had a couple hours in the morning and afternoon, not now! Sorry for the vent!
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Originally Posted by Viperidae
50 Days. CHECK. damn. I don't know how I'm doing this. Sunflower - I'm really sorry about your difficult situation. This sounds really hard to deal with. Seems to me that you're with an alcoholic. I agree with Dee and others, I'd like to see you with a lot of support. I know you have the therapist, that's excellent. Did you attempt AA? Because I'm feeling that might help. Women helping women in a group. I have confidence that those ladies have seen what exactly you're going through, many times. Just a suggestion. I'll have you in my thoughts and prayers (at least my version of prayers). Sending Love Sunfl. I find I'm not counting my blessings. I want more and more. However, I have busted my tail to accomplish this. I have no wife, GF, no one, to interfere with this, which is good. I shut down my friendships. They know what I'm doing and are in support of me, but I can't hang out with them (my decision). I don't think my family has any clue what 50 days means. Totally clueless. My brother asked me to stop at the booze store for Jim Beam and Tanguerary on my way to my nephew's party. This was sent by text which I didn't bother returning. He asked about it when I got there and I said, 'I never agreed to that. I haven't been in a liquor store in 47 days, in case you haven't noticed.' He was infuriated. Total IDIOT. Could I have done that and not drank? Probably. This is a matter a principle. It's his and my sister's rule that I can't drink if I want to maintain family help. If he doesn't like it... I think you know what I'm going to say. Plus ZERO credit from anyone on that. I'm never doing enough. Just the not drinking is a massive thing. Never mind all of the other stuff I'm doing. I'm also very frustrated that my dad has come around and he wants to help me out with getting out of here, but it's complex with my brother and sister involved. I have my therapist tomorrow. The apartment is 90% cleared out. I have a huge loft and I'd filled it with collections for 18 years. It's all gone. Even things like clothes, I got rid of about 5, 35 gallon totes of clothes. I also cleaned like heck. Scrubbing. Ok. Till tomorrow.
Your brother is clueless indeed but I am so glad you let him have it! Some people really make me wonder. It's like they don't take even a second to try to understand what someone else is going through.
Good for you for getting the apartment cleared out and purged- must feel so good to be starting fresh! Good luck in therapy and with the move. When do you officially move out?
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I have to rush off to work, I overslept a bit. I hope everyone has a great day. So sorry your husband was laid off and didn't tell you Penny!
I loved how you handled that Viperidea. Made me laugh and proud of you!
Oswin, I know what you mean about going in sober and not hungover. It really is a confidence booster!
Today is two weeks for me! Again. But I'm working it this time!
Happy day to all!
I loved how you handled that Viperidea. Made me laugh and proud of you!
Oswin, I know what you mean about going in sober and not hungover. It really is a confidence booster!
Today is two weeks for me! Again. But I'm working it this time!
Happy day to all!
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Originally Posted by JL2014
I hope the meetings good Karen. I'm winding down, kids bathed laundry load done ( wash/dry) not folding CRAP on a workday. Read pgs out of a book for a nightly reading of recovery stuff.
I hope we all get some good rest. Gnite
Ps - blew any healthy eating out of the water this evening. Ho hum . Not caring. Sober is enough today.
I hope we all get some good rest. Gnite
Ps - blew any healthy eating out of the water this evening. Ho hum . Not caring. Sober is enough today.
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Originally Posted by Sunflowerlife
Glad you made it Optimist. Sorry about the bad memories triggering your anxiety. Hope the meeting was a good one and that you can wake up refreshed tomorrow.
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Originally Posted by PennyLane76
Glad you made it through Optimist. Anxiety is such a killer! Forester, that's great news!
I'm very extremely annoyed at spouse who got layed off two weeks ago and did not tell me. Had 2 weeks notice. Yesterday he was sitting around in morning and said he took the day off. Finally last night he told me.
I'm very pissed off. He will sit around playing video games like a teenager doing nothing. . Only good thing is my drinking time was when I Ditched early and drank a bottle or so before he got home. Soooo, no temptation during that time now.
I am one that needs alone time, and had a couple hours in the morning and afternoon, not now! Sorry for the vent!
I'm very extremely annoyed at spouse who got layed off two weeks ago and did not tell me. Had 2 weeks notice. Yesterday he was sitting around in morning and said he took the day off. Finally last night he told me.
I'm very pissed off. He will sit around playing video games like a teenager doing nothing. . Only good thing is my drinking time was when I Ditched early and drank a bottle or so before he got home. Soooo, no temptation during that time now.
I am one that needs alone time, and had a couple hours in the morning and afternoon, not now! Sorry for the vent!
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