Class of March 2016 Part 26
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Originally Posted by Applekat 
Checking in. Thinking about finding something on Netflix. Also a big bowl of ice cream hopefully.
Thinking of everyone, sorry not responding individually. You're all on my mind.
Thinking of everyone, sorry not responding individually. You're all on my mind.
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Originally Posted by LillianGish
Sam 
A long time ago, my husband and I went through marriage counseling because we had come to that proverbial fork in the road where we were seriously thinking about divorce. One family social worker met with us and told us that the first step was to write down every complaint we had against each other.....every resentment...write down anything we didn't like about our spouse.
I tried to write, but just couldn't do it. Every time I started to criticize him, I just kept thinking - "this isn't me." It made me cry every time I started to write. Turned out he couldn't do it either. We didn't want to hurt each other. We were just lost and not sure how to move forward.
So, I dunno - Maybe writing it down is causing too much pain and ask if there's another direction she/he can suggest?
Your story - is yours. You get to decide who you tell and don't tell. I bet when the time seems right, you'll know who you can trust with it.
Time for some tea??
A long time ago, my husband and I went through marriage counseling because we had come to that proverbial fork in the road where we were seriously thinking about divorce. One family social worker met with us and told us that the first step was to write down every complaint we had against each other.....every resentment...write down anything we didn't like about our spouse.
I tried to write, but just couldn't do it. Every time I started to criticize him, I just kept thinking - "this isn't me." It made me cry every time I started to write. Turned out he couldn't do it either. We didn't want to hurt each other. We were just lost and not sure how to move forward.
So, I dunno - Maybe writing it down is causing too much pain and ask if there's another direction she/he can suggest?
Your story - is yours. You get to decide who you tell and don't tell. I bet when the time seems right, you'll know who you can trust with it.
Time for some tea??
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Originally Posted by KiKi0615
What can I say? You guys are amazing! Thank you so much for your help and posts today! I made it through the day sober. It took me the first half of the day to get rid of that panicky feeling. THEN my AV started trying to convince me to drink!!! But I ignored it,
I ended up staying busy in the house, exercising, taking a walk with my husband, listening to some relaxing music and being nice to myself. Not a great day or a productive one but I stayed sober so that's a win!
Thank you again guys! I'm off to bed! I'm praying for no nightmares! Love u all!
I ended up staying busy in the house, exercising, taking a walk with my husband, listening to some relaxing music and being nice to myself. Not a great day or a productive one but I stayed sober so that's a win!
Thank you again guys! I'm off to bed! I'm praying for no nightmares! Love u all!
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Originally Posted by Ladybug2
Hi all, I have been lurking (I am not drinking) but have not been posting for a reason. Kiki, I am so sorry for your triggers etc, but I have to disagree ....not everyone's alcoholism is fueled by abuse, etc. I was raised in a wonderful loving family and now have a husband, 2 beautiful girls .... basically the American Dream and I still am battling this eff'in disease. I really feel for what you went through ...can't even imagine my friend hugs.
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Originally Posted by CaseyW
Work is over. Good, solid night. I'm pooped. But I'm sober. Thanks to everyone here for helping me make it one more day. Time for one hour of video games and then bed. Sweet dreams all! Keep an eye on us, Bat-immri!
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Good morning all. Day 9. I am checking in with a sleeping baby laying across me in my bed. I will soak that up and enjoy the positive part that she is in fact sleeping.
I'm glad some spirits are lifted - you are all showing so much strength powering through tough feelings - and some great words of advice being given out!
Sam - doesn't "frozen yogurt" = healthier?! Haha. That flavor sounds amazing. I had some lemon raspberry swirl ice cream in bed. Yum.
I'm glad some spirits are lifted - you are all showing so much strength powering through tough feelings - and some great words of advice being given out!
Sam - doesn't "frozen yogurt" = healthier?! Haha. That flavor sounds amazing. I had some lemon raspberry swirl ice cream in bed. Yum.
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Kiki - well done girl. Sober day far outweighs a productive day. I hope you had a good nights sleep and a fabulous Monday!
Time for swim lessons again for my two bigger kiddo's, and soccer game tonight. I actually need to be productive in between. We shall see how the kids like that haha.
Time for swim lessons again for my two bigger kiddo's, and soccer game tonight. I actually need to be productive in between. We shall see how the kids like that haha.
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Originally Posted by Ladybug2
Hi all, I have been lurking (I am not drinking) but have not been posting for a reason. Kiki, I am so sorry for your triggers etc, but I have to disagree ....not everyone's alcoholism is fueled by abuse, etc. I was raised in a wonderful loving family and now have a husband, 2 beautiful girls .... basically the American Dream and I still am battling this eff'in disease. I really feel for what you went through ...can't even imagine my friend hugs.
Yes, you're right about trauma. That's why I said "most" people with addictions have trauma in their past. (Maybe I should have said "many") I know several people who had a wonderful childhood too and are still alcoholics/addicts.
A dear friend of mine had amazing parents & a loving home, was college educated, a great career, beautiful.... and sadly she passed away a few years ago of alcoholism at a very young age. She just couldn't stop. She would have a few weeks or months of sobriety (even had 7 months once) and she would think she could drink again. Each time she relapsed it got harder and harder to stop until one day it became impossible. Her disease had progressed too far. She died. :-( Left 4 young children and a husband behind. I miss her so much. :-(
Anyway...I'm so glad you had wonderful loving parents. You are very lucky. I hope your little lady buglets are doing well. :-)
Here is a link to info about why trauma causes addiction in many people if you're interested.
http://www.recovery.org/pro/articles...perfect-sense/
Love u! Xo
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Originally Posted by Applekat
Kiki - well done girl. Sober day far outweighs a productive day. I hope you had a good nights sleep and a fabulous Monday! Time for swim lessons again for my two bigger kiddo's, and soccer game tonight. I actually need to be productive in between. We shall see how the kids like that haha.
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Originally Posted by KiKi0615
Hi Ladybug! Great to hear from you and I'm so glad you're still sober. :-)
Yes, you're right about trauma. That's why I said "most" people with addictions have trauma in their past. (Maybe I should have said "many") I know several people who had a wonderful childhood too and are still alcoholics/addicts.
A dear friend of mine had amazing parents & a loving home, was college educated, a great career, beautiful.... and sadly she passed away a few years ago of alcoholism at a very young age. She just couldn't stop. She would have a few weeks or months of sobriety (even had 7 months once) and she would think she could drink again. Each time she relapsed it got harder and harder to stop until one day it became impossible. Her disease had progressed too far. She died. :-( Left 4 young children and a husband behind. I miss her so much. :-(
Anyway...I'm so glad you had wonderful loving parents. You are very lucky. I hope your little lady buglets are doing well. :-)
Here is a link to info about why trauma causes addiction in many people if you're interested.
Trauma and Addiction: 7 Reasons Your Habit Makes Perfect Sense
Love u! Xo
Yes, you're right about trauma. That's why I said "most" people with addictions have trauma in their past. (Maybe I should have said "many") I know several people who had a wonderful childhood too and are still alcoholics/addicts.
A dear friend of mine had amazing parents & a loving home, was college educated, a great career, beautiful.... and sadly she passed away a few years ago of alcoholism at a very young age. She just couldn't stop. She would have a few weeks or months of sobriety (even had 7 months once) and she would think she could drink again. Each time she relapsed it got harder and harder to stop until one day it became impossible. Her disease had progressed too far. She died. :-( Left 4 young children and a husband behind. I miss her so much. :-(
Anyway...I'm so glad you had wonderful loving parents. You are very lucky. I hope your little lady buglets are doing well. :-)
Here is a link to info about why trauma causes addiction in many people if you're interested.
Trauma and Addiction: 7 Reasons Your Habit Makes Perfect Sense
Love u! Xo
Hope you have a great day!! Much love xxx
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Originally Posted by Ladybug2
Hi Kiki, I hope I didn't come across as sounding insensitive .... I'm just having such a hard time figuring out why I turn to alcohol. I can't imagine what you, and many others, have gone through and can certainly understand how alcohol could become a problem. I have nothing to escape and still am an alcoholic ... that's how scary this disease is. Hope you have a great day!! Much love xxx
Alcoholism is a brain disease. It has many causes but the end result is the same. We are not bad people trying to be good. We are sick people trying to get well.
Just know this: you are LOVED! Xo
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