Class of July 2013 Part 30
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Counseling is not something that can be forced. There is a chance that, when he sees you with sustained sobriety once again, he will be willing to do therapy.
In the meantime, though, you may want to consider it for yourself to help you through this difficult.
(((Snooz)))
I am sending you love.
In the meantime, though, you may want to consider it for yourself to help you through this difficult.
(((Snooz)))
I am sending you love.
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Wendy, if you can, try and not blame yourself solely.
Beating yourself up does you no good.
A relationship is always a two way thing.
I remember Shaun being glued to his xbox and that was, IIRC, before you relapsed.
I'm not blaming him solely either, but this is more complex than 'I'm to blame'
D
Beating yourself up does you no good.
A relationship is always a two way thing.
I remember Shaun being glued to his xbox and that was, IIRC, before you relapsed.
I'm not blaming him solely either, but this is more complex than 'I'm to blame'
D
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I appreciate that you may not feel like talking right now Snoozy love.
Just tried you again now. I am home all night if you feel like a chat.
Love to all of the Julyers. ♥
Just tried you again now. I am home all night if you feel like a chat.
Love to all of the Julyers. ♥
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5000% what D said Snooz I'm really sorry this is happening x
Were here right with you Snooz if you ever want to chat talk vent whatever I'm there x
I've not had a great night myself I've been woken up a couple times because of someone outside & then Glen started making noise so I'm a bit cranky but I have a cup of tea & I'm letting it go
Good morning
Were here right with you Snooz if you ever want to chat talk vent whatever I'm there x
I've not had a great night myself I've been woken up a couple times because of someone outside & then Glen started making noise so I'm a bit cranky but I have a cup of tea & I'm letting it go
Good morning
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Originally Posted by Dee74 
Wendy, if you can, try and not blame yourself solely.
Beating yourself up does you no good.
A relationship is always a two way thing.
I remember Shaun being glued to his xbox and that was, IIRC, before you relapsed.
I'm not blaming him solely either, but this is more complex than 'I'm to blame'
D
Beating yourself up does you no good.
A relationship is always a two way thing.
I remember Shaun being glued to his xbox and that was, IIRC, before you relapsed.
I'm not blaming him solely either, but this is more complex than 'I'm to blame'
D
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I'm going to be a pain in your butt now Wendy love....
You are not answering calls, so I hope that means you are just busy.
But I am concerned about you...you need to be talking to people.
Us, your family, friends, a counsellor....you can't just brave this out love.
OK. Rant over. I love you Snoozums. ♥
You are not answering calls, so I hope that means you are just busy.
But I am concerned about you...you need to be talking to people.
Us, your family, friends, a counsellor....you can't just brave this out love.
OK. Rant over. I love you Snoozums. ♥
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Snooz. Lovie.
I agree with Dee, you can't carry all this blame yourself. It's not healthy and it may not feel like it now, but sustained feelings of guilt and blame could lead you to drink. Counselling, grieve what's happened, find your worth and live your life to the full. It sounds simplistic and there's lots of work to do, but you DO deserve a good life.
If living together is sensible in the short term, then so be it, but it may let him fly under the radar still with his laziness and chores. Set a goal to be out in xx months, so it gives you something to aim for.
So true LB. Then the true freedom of feeling your worth, speaking how you feel without feeling shame, knowing that you are a great human being who can face their greatest fear and move through it...you deserve to wake up happy every day.
I'm inspired by your small steps toward this, and I know you can do it, LB.
I agree with Dee, you can't carry all this blame yourself. It's not healthy and it may not feel like it now, but sustained feelings of guilt and blame could lead you to drink. Counselling, grieve what's happened, find your worth and live your life to the full. It sounds simplistic and there's lots of work to do, but you DO deserve a good life.
If living together is sensible in the short term, then so be it, but it may let him fly under the radar still with his laziness and chores. Set a goal to be out in xx months, so it gives you something to aim for.
Originally Posted by Ladybug2
Thanks Venus, Leigh, Crois & wehav 
Waking up feeling great, with no regret or shame never gets old, does it?
Waking up feeling great, with no regret or shame never gets old, does it?I'm inspired by your small steps toward this, and I know you can do it, LB.
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