Class of September 2015 Part 5
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Join Date: Sep 2013
Location: New England
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What's up jd?! Good to see ya.
Doing well over here. Four months this week. We do have the same sober date I believe. Congrats! How are you feeling?
I think you and I are the only ones left btw.
Doing well over here. Four months this week. We do have the same sober date I believe. Congrats! How are you feeling?
I think you and I are the only ones left btw.
You're not shackled to not drinking, you're free from drinking
Join Date: Oct 2015
Location: MN
Posts: 1,406
I'm feeling great about being sober. I'm still battling depression though, which sucks. I'm working on that and we'll see where it goes. It takes time. But can only be done while sober.
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Join Date: Feb 2015
Location: Texas
Posts: 138
I haven't been on in awhile. I'm still sober. Less of a struggle and more a determination. I've been in several situations where alcohol was present, and been fine. No desire to partake, no emotional response..i.e., resentment, jealousy.... I'm happy. Mild winter right now is allowing me to spend time in my gardens. Spending more time with my grands. Curled up and conversing with Mr3. Recently turned 53. First birthday in over 4 years I was sober for, loads of fun. Stay safe all.
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Join Date: Nov 2015
Location: Canada
Posts: 50
I'm a newbie to SR, and have just finally figured out what these "classes" are all about. My last binge (a very moderate one, at that) was September 4th (2015), so that makes me eligible for this class, correct?
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Join Date: Feb 2015
Location: Texas
Posts: 138
128 days sober. Clear headed and troubled. Most of the carnage of my 5 year bender is in the process of rebuilding. One relationship tho is heartbreakingly difficult. He's 16, a REALLY good kid. He won't sit down and converse with me, if I ask for help with farm chores, he quickly and quietly helps and then goes home. Invited him to dinner, was gently declined. His behavior and attitude are above reproach. Maybe that's the problem, he needs to speak his hurt to me. I don't know. I had a long talk with his mom (our youngest daughter. She related some of his side to me. I lied to him. More than once he explained his fear and dislike of my drinking. I kept drinking, making excuses. You know, doing what we do. So his hurt is very real. Afraid to trust me.
So, I went online and ordered at home alcohol test kit. I'm going to sit down with him and let him know I am willing to prove my sobriety in hopes of rebuilding a relationship I hold dear to my heart. Any thoughts, advise? I've been reading the family threads. Trying to glean some insight As to how to approach this. How are my fellow travelers rebuilding?
So, I went online and ordered at home alcohol test kit. I'm going to sit down with him and let him know I am willing to prove my sobriety in hopes of rebuilding a relationship I hold dear to my heart. Any thoughts, advise? I've been reading the family threads. Trying to glean some insight As to how to approach this. How are my fellow travelers rebuilding?
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Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Australia
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Congrats on your sober time 3wolves
I'm not a parent but I remember being very difficult at 16 myself...I was nearing adulthood in many ways but still a child in many others.
I think the only way to regain trust is time, the right actions on your part (being adult and parent-like) and to recognise and accept that the process of him regaining trust in you is on his timetable.
I think talking to him adult to adult is probably a good idea - but I think he needs to speak more than you do.
For us, actions speak louder than words ever will.
D
I'm not a parent but I remember being very difficult at 16 myself...I was nearing adulthood in many ways but still a child in many others.
I think the only way to regain trust is time, the right actions on your part (being adult and parent-like) and to recognise and accept that the process of him regaining trust in you is on his timetable.
I think talking to him adult to adult is probably a good idea - but I think he needs to speak more than you do.
For us, actions speak louder than words ever will.
D
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Join Date: Feb 2015
Location: Texas
Posts: 138
He's not a difficult young man. Homeschooled, works 30 hours a week as well as helping on our farm. I recognize that he is caught in that man/child stage. I think he DOES need to let his words out. I'm prepared to listen, with both ears open and my mouth shut. The whole family is coming for din din tonight, maybe sharing the same space for awhile will help ease is into this. I truely need to rebuild this relationship.
Sigh....
Sigh....
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Join Date: Feb 2015
Location: Texas
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We talked, I gave him the test kit, told him I would move heaven and earth to prove myself to him. He thanked me, hugged my neck, told me he loved me and went home. Baby steps. He'll be spending tomorrow with me, so we'll see how it goes. Wish me luck....
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