allport

It's true Pixy, it gets lonely being single sometimes but it does cut down on the amount of socialising on the plus side it means you only have to deal with your own baggage.

Oh and you can watch what you like on TV and you don't have to cook or clean for someone else and you get the bed to yourself (no snoring).

In fact being single is great (I'm trying to persuade myself this is true lol).

Pixy1

lol

It's been a long time since I have been single, I'm actually looking forward to it. I expect he is aswell. It cant be easy taking on someones kids full time. Especially 4 of them!

Ananda

welll......having been single for well the last 16 years completley and only lived with someone once for 1 year at 19, I would say single has many advantages....however i'm pretty sick of it myself....

See for me how it worked was I started out isolating from men...it spread to women (never did like kids), and so...well...I was VERY happily single for 7 years (and sober) but it ended up being sorta a set up for the worst drinking of my life when problems struck and I had absolutely no emotional support. And then of course i was convinced there was No one to be bothered by my drinking and could fool myself into thinking that I wasn't hurting anyone but myself.....

Now single can be great fun! I think for me it is important to have many fufilling non-romantic relationships so that I am still connected with others and my needs for human companionship are still met.

Also I'm a hopless romantic....don't believe there is one "ment to be" relationship, but also don't think we get endless oportunities for thatt sort of love relationship in our lives...so i don't want to squander anything away...

sorry drivil day

allport

Middlesbrough 3 Hull 1 hooray football is brilliant again!

Pixy1

Nands we are going to have to accept this football stuff, allport is one of the girls and she likes it sigh....

I have done very little today but it's early evening and theres hope, is there not?

Ananda

well...i didn't do the taxes or pay the bills yet..and have deviled eggs to make

Going to my AA meeting tonight, then coffee with the group. Lately it just seems like an obligation, but I have to be careful I don't isolate. I need to get refocused on the steps and on my buddhist practice...i've said this a million times this month and have yet to do anything about it.

I'll work it out but needed to put it out there that I may not be an exactly shining example of doing what i need to do to stay sober at the moment....

OK...off i go, and yes i'll work on it

Pixy1

Nands maybe you should put everything else aside and do things in order of priority? How important is it? Thats what my mum used to say

Pixy1

Happy Easter

allport

Happy Easter to you too Pixy, don't eat too much of the kids chocolate!

I'm having a weird old day today, I was supposed to go to my sisters for a big dinner but I just don't want to go out.

She is ok with it and we have made arrangements to go out tomorrow, but it's just not like me to turn down free food.

Well I think I will go for a walk and see if my mood improves.

Ananda

Awwww Alley (hug) hope the walk helped...I overselpt and am madly boiling egs to prep for easter at moms gotta leave in about 30 minites though..

Happy Easter to all....although it's just another sunday to me and one that i can't spend as i wish.....

but i'm fairly content today (hug)

colagirl

Hi all,
Back home now, and exhausted! The trip was so fun, I can't believe it's over. Will catch up later.

Where is LB?? Does anyone know how she's doing?

Pixy1

No haven't got a clue. She bought a pony and we haven't seen her since

Ananda

glad your back CG!!!!

Morning Pixie..just missed you.

Jiggy??? Alley????? LB?????



I may not go to work today, but I'm so grateful that at least i have a choice. If I go I leave in 40minites. When I was drinking, at this point it wouldn't even be an option...today I can consider the circumstances and make a sober decision.

See you guys later ok?

allport

Im here and doing ok.

What's up Nands?

FizzyWater

Ally in Middlesborough might stay up shock !!!!!!

For what its worth, with my great knowledge gleaned straight from the telly !, I reckon Hull will go down, specially after the media fawning over them all year.

allport

They got beaten by Boro they must be crap!

Hope you are enjoying the holiday Fizzy.

Ananda

Well...some things got done today and some things did not but i remember everything i said and did...i think...

a few people irritated me, a few made me laugh, and i sorta embarrased myself a time or two.


What amazes me is that its really no big deal....life is just life and i don't have to drink to enhanse it or to cover up the oopsys...the day can just be what it is...no blurring of the edges of my expereince...

Hope you all had a good day too :ghug

colagirl

Good way to look at it nands. Since I've had far more sober time in the past year than in any year before, I've realized that sometimes I just forget stuff, and sometimes I'm clumsy, I say stupid things, it takes me a minute to "get" something... it's not only the alcohol, it's life... but when I'm not drinking I have confidence that anything that happens is at least in my control to react to and recover from. And the best part is being able to KNOW that sometimes that's how it is, rather than making alcohol an excuse for everything.

Pixy1

Morning all :ghug

Your right about the confidence thing. I have very little of it when I drink. Lol it takes me a "minute to get something" but thats nothing to do with drink, I'm just rather scatty

I had the worst night ever last night. I don't think I slept any more than half an hour. I'm trying to come off my anti depressants and they are causing awful anxiety. I am supposed to be back at work today but I'm going to see the Dr this morning. Work will just have to wait.

Pixy1

Been to the Docs, I've to come off them a little slower it's going to take a lot longer to come off them than I had hoped but I really don't wan't another night like that. Back to work tomorrow. Still no LB?