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Its_me_jen
Thread Starter
Join Date: May 2004
Location: Salina, Ks
Posts: 8,547
I think I've tried it all Astro. 2 alarms, 3 alarms spread through out the room, a bed shaker ...... ok, I'm exaggerating a little but really I've tried a lot of things. I really do have to figure it out because I'll end up without a damn job.
Lily: I wanna be 10 again! I wasn't nearly as stressed out!
Lily: I wanna be 10 again! I wasn't nearly as stressed out!
Forum Leader
Join Date: Nov 2006
Location: Scottsdale, AZ, one big happy dysfunctional family!
Posts: 23,061
A few years ago when I was newly sober and also new to AD's, it was just going through the motions every morning.
Alarm goes off at 5:15.
Force myself to get up.
Force myself to shave and shower.
Force myself to get dressed.
Force myself to eat something for breakfast.
Force myself to pick up my kids and take them to school.
Force myself to work and make it through yet another effing day.
Force myself to go to an AA meeting.
Go home and do the same crap-ola all over again.
Eventually.......it got easier.
Alarm goes off at 5:15.
Force myself to get up.
Force myself to shave and shower.
Force myself to get dressed.
Force myself to eat something for breakfast.
Force myself to pick up my kids and take them to school.
Force myself to work and make it through yet another effing day.
Force myself to go to an AA meeting.
Go home and do the same crap-ola all over again.
Eventually.......it got easier.
Recovering Codependant
Join Date: Oct 2007
Location: Liverpool, Great Britain
Posts: 1,335
'ello chuck!! Always good to meet other UK'ers!
Paperdolls - ugh! i know! to be 10 again, pre life's crap, pre hormonal! things get my daughter down, she remedies it with a game of Pokemon on her Nintendo DS, eats some jelly sweets, and heh presto she's happy as larry!
Lily xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Lol!!
Its_me_jen
Thread Starter
Join Date: May 2004
Location: Salina, Ks
Posts: 8,547
true dat sistah. hugs to you!!
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Step 1 --- Acceptance
Step 2 --- Faith
Step 3 --- Surrender & Trust
Step 4 --- Honesty
Step 5 --- Courage
Step 6 --- Willingness
Step 7 --- Humility
Step 8 --- Forgiveness
Step 9 --- Freedom
Step 10 --- Perserverance
Step 11 --- Patience
Step 12 --- Charity & Love
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Step 1 --- Acceptance
Step 2 --- Faith
Step 3 --- Surrender & Trust
Step 4 --- Honesty
Step 5 --- Courage
Step 6 --- Willingness
Step 7 --- Humility
Step 8 --- Forgiveness
Step 9 --- Freedom
Step 10 --- Perserverance
Step 11 --- Patience
Step 12 --- Charity & Love
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Its_me_jen
Thread Starter
Join Date: May 2004
Location: Salina, Ks
Posts: 8,547
Patterns and Characteristics of Codependence
These patterns and characteristics are offered as a tool to aid in self-evaluation. They may be particularly helpful to newcomers.
Denial Patterns:
I have difficulty identifying what I am feeling.
I minimize, alter or deny how I truly feel.
I perceive myself as completely unselfish and dedicated to the well being of others.
Low Self Esteem Patterns:
I have difficulty making decisions.
I judge everything I think, say or do harshly, as never "good enough."
I am embarrassed to receive recognition and praise or gifts.
I do not ask others to meet my needs or desires.
I value others' approval of my thinking, feelings and behavior over my own.
I do not perceive myself as a lovable or worthwhile person.
Compliance Patterns:
I compromise my own values and integrity to avoid rejection or others' anger.
I am very sensitive to how others are feeling and feel the same.
I am extremely loyal, remaining in harmful situations too long.
I value others' opinions and feelings more than my own and am afraid to express differing opinions and feelings of my own.
I put aside my own interests and hobbies in order to do what others want.
I accept sex when I want love.
Control Patterns:
I believe most other people are incapable of taking care of themselves.
I attempt to convince others of what they "should" think and how they "truly" feel.
I become resentful when others will not let me help them.
I freely offer others advice and directions without being asked.
I lavish gifts and favors on those I care about.
I use sex to gain approval and acceptance.
I have to be "needed" in order to have a relationship with others.
These patterns and characteristics are offered as a tool to aid in self-evaluation. They may be particularly helpful to newcomers.
Denial Patterns:
I have difficulty identifying what I am feeling.
I minimize, alter or deny how I truly feel.
I perceive myself as completely unselfish and dedicated to the well being of others.
Low Self Esteem Patterns:
I have difficulty making decisions.
I judge everything I think, say or do harshly, as never "good enough."
I am embarrassed to receive recognition and praise or gifts.
I do not ask others to meet my needs or desires.
I value others' approval of my thinking, feelings and behavior over my own.
I do not perceive myself as a lovable or worthwhile person.
Compliance Patterns:
I compromise my own values and integrity to avoid rejection or others' anger.
I am very sensitive to how others are feeling and feel the same.
I am extremely loyal, remaining in harmful situations too long.
I value others' opinions and feelings more than my own and am afraid to express differing opinions and feelings of my own.
I put aside my own interests and hobbies in order to do what others want.
I accept sex when I want love.
Control Patterns:
I believe most other people are incapable of taking care of themselves.
I attempt to convince others of what they "should" think and how they "truly" feel.
I become resentful when others will not let me help them.
I freely offer others advice and directions without being asked.
I lavish gifts and favors on those I care about.
I use sex to gain approval and acceptance.
I have to be "needed" in order to have a relationship with others.
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