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Old 02-12-2020, 08:32 PM   #1 (permalink)
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Do they come back even when they say they never will?


Has anyone had an ex who is an addict come back and want a relationship/ friendship even after being very drastic/ manic and threatening to never speak again?
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Old 02-13-2020, 08:20 AM   #2 (permalink)
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Yes but mine has been in recovery for 6 years and just got that 6 year chip, and just wants to be friends. So there is no hope for a relationship. I'm just in the friend zone, which is fine. That's what I wanted. Well sort of.....it would be nice if he said he wanted back together, but then I would fear that he would just block me again like he did at the end of Dec. He started talking to me again 4 weeks after he blocked me. It was 4 weeks of hell.

Just keep working on yourself and don't worry if he's coming back or not. I started to move past him and realize that I deserve better treatment. So do you!
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Old 03-25-2020, 07:29 PM   #3 (permalink)
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What do I do if mine has blocked me for 4+ months now is it hopeless? I am hurting so badly, i thought he really loved me.
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Old 03-26-2020, 06:01 AM   #4 (permalink)
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Hey...

I get that you're hurting, and I really wish you weren't, but it's time that you cut a new deal with yourself.

When my AXGF broke up with me back in the day, she did it in the most sadistic way she could. And while this doesn't directly compare with your situation because I didn't want her back, I was certainly wounded from what had happened. So I had to go into self care mode and make sure I was doing all the things I needed to do to get through my day, and in time, it became easier.

When someone we care about leaves us, it's supposed to hurt. That's entirely normal. But allow me to suggest that while that door has closed, others have opened. You just have to belief that there is always hope for us.
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