Things That Drive You Crazy While Living With An Addict
grateful rca
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Things That Drive You Crazy While Living With An Addict
can you remember something that made you crazy while trying to cope with addiction, as a reminder or for the newcomer but not to bash our addicts. YOUR PERSONAL LIST and ALL ADD-ONS WELCOMED
pacing back and forth to the window,waiting for my addict to home on payday
making phone calls to ers, jails, family and friends
trying to figure out all the weird stuff he was doing
trying to convince him how bad his addiction was hurting us and him
paying jail bonds and excepting all the collect calls
walking and talking on eggshells
pacing back and forth to the window,waiting for my addict to home on payday
making phone calls to ers, jails, family and friends
trying to figure out all the weird stuff he was doing
trying to convince him how bad his addiction was hurting us and him
paying jail bonds and excepting all the collect calls
walking and talking on eggshells
Last edited by teke; 03-10-2007 at 05:53 AM.
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Oh you would have too.....
Grabing the car's ant. and slicing the crap out of my
hand trying to stop her. And running down the damn
street bare footed in my jammies @ mid night.
chasing her and hope to god she dosn't kill anyone or herself.
After reading in the newspaper that some DUI
took an innocent life that sameday.
Finding her passed out in her car , @ 2 a.m. in the parking
lot. serveral times.
Breaking into my apt.
Her, having 3-ways conversation with peaple in my life.
I was missing a cell phone at the time.
Endless nights of sleep becuase of her drunkness.
I get suckered into having a conversation with her.
many, many suicide threats calls to my work.
Just showing up to my work.
And yeah the damn cigg burns...thank god it when out.
or didn't catch anything on fire. She was passed out
holding it.
I'm going stop....it's just the tip of the iceburge.
Grabing the car's ant. and slicing the crap out of my
hand trying to stop her. And running down the damn
street bare footed in my jammies @ mid night.
chasing her and hope to god she dosn't kill anyone or herself.
After reading in the newspaper that some DUI
took an innocent life that sameday.
Finding her passed out in her car , @ 2 a.m. in the parking
lot. serveral times.
Breaking into my apt.
Her, having 3-ways conversation with peaple in my life.
I was missing a cell phone at the time.
Endless nights of sleep becuase of her drunkness.
I get suckered into having a conversation with her.
many, many suicide threats calls to my work.
Just showing up to my work.
And yeah the damn cigg burns...thank god it when out.
or didn't catch anything on fire. She was passed out
holding it.
I'm going stop....it's just the tip of the iceburge.
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grateful rca
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trying to investigate any and everything that i think that my addict may/may not be doing
always feeling the need to defend what i say or do
trying to figure out whats real or not real
tring to prove to myself and him that i'm not crazy
i'll want to add more as they come to mind
always feeling the need to defend what i say or do
trying to figure out whats real or not real
tring to prove to myself and him that i'm not crazy
i'll want to add more as they come to mind
....or at least hoping I am.
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I needed this reminder today because I was missing AH who is in a 1/2way and was actually thinking I may have been wrong but then I remember....
~ checks missing from the back of the check book
~ the stench in the car after he's taken it for a night out
~ the 2 am 'talks' that he just [B]has[b] to have
~ him sleeping on the couch all day while dd and I wanted to go out and do something
~ missing antanneas
~ having him baker acted for the 3rd time
~ having drug dealers recognize your car
~ the endless "I'm sorries"
~ hiding money
~ having to get something out of hoc for the 2nd time
~ "I think I might have the flu".....for the 5th time this year!!
oh and the list goes on
~ checks missing from the back of the check book
~ the stench in the car after he's taken it for a night out
~ the 2 am 'talks' that he just [B]has[b] to have
~ him sleeping on the couch all day while dd and I wanted to go out and do something
~ missing antanneas
~ having him baker acted for the 3rd time
~ having drug dealers recognize your car
~ the endless "I'm sorries"
~ hiding money
~ having to get something out of hoc for the 2nd time
~ "I think I might have the flu".....for the 5th time this year!!
oh and the list goes on
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Finding syringes stashed all over the house.
Locking himself in the garage/bathroom for hours.
The ransacked house whenever I came home from work, I guess he may have thought he left some drugs somewhere.
I am going up to the store to buy cigarettes, and returning the next day.
The hyperactive running in and out of the house, the moment he sat down he would start nodding off. Typical for opiate abuse.
Someone stole my money, do you have $25.00?
Sleeping all day long, doing absolutely nothing while I was busting my rump day after day at work, and caring for our kids.
I lived like this for 12 years, not anymore, were divorced, what the heck was I thinking?
Locking himself in the garage/bathroom for hours.
The ransacked house whenever I came home from work, I guess he may have thought he left some drugs somewhere.
I am going up to the store to buy cigarettes, and returning the next day.
The hyperactive running in and out of the house, the moment he sat down he would start nodding off. Typical for opiate abuse.
Someone stole my money, do you have $25.00?
Sleeping all day long, doing absolutely nothing while I was busting my rump day after day at work, and caring for our kids.
I lived like this for 12 years, not anymore, were divorced, what the heck was I thinking?
I need more than Nar-Anon
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The chase........
I lived in a nightmare of chasing my addict and her chaos. I studied the cell phone bill to figure out who her contacts were; I searched her room and car; I followed her at night; and, when exhaustion set in, laid awake all night listening to every car that came up the street.
I had no life at all, all I had was an ongoing nightmare of chasing the chaos.
choosey
I had no life at all, all I had was an ongoing nightmare of chasing the chaos.
choosey
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the smell of stale beer that used to hit me when I'd wake up to find him passed out some where. the empty beer bottles in the trash. the ashtray over-filled with ciggarettes. sleeping till 2pm as if this is normal. my denial about it because I loved him. i hate addiction, period.
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Always thinking that whatever is wrong must be ME - has to be...I must not be good enough, not loving him enough, etc.
It is always about him...what he wants, does, needs and so on.
Having no sense of 'me.'
Always yielding.
Walking on eggshells - I can't stand me or him much of the time and I avoid. Not fully understanding why I feel so frustrated, lonely, empty, angry and stupid - why I lose it, have a short fuse, have no patience.
I am addicted to him and I didn't even know it, or why.
It is always about him...what he wants, does, needs and so on.
Having no sense of 'me.'
Always yielding.
Walking on eggshells - I can't stand me or him much of the time and I avoid. Not fully understanding why I feel so frustrated, lonely, empty, angry and stupid - why I lose it, have a short fuse, have no patience.
I am addicted to him and I didn't even know it, or why.
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things that drive me crazy
second guessing myself,my kids doing with out cause he had to have his pill,
all the lien,how stupid he was making himself look,the guilt,all the fightn,and all the things everyone else has said and probley more i just can't think of.i think the thing that made me crazy the most was the pills gave him something i couldn't and he picked them over his family
all the lien,how stupid he was making himself look,the guilt,all the fightn,and all the things everyone else has said and probley more i just can't think of.i think the thing that made me crazy the most was the pills gave him something i couldn't and he picked them over his family
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the way I ignored my daughter while she was going about life in a functional responsible way while my AS was in my face all the time with his problems.
His pinpoint pupils while he stood in front of me telling me he was clean. (heroin use here too) second guessing here too.. wanting to believe him.
Not my kid! Not mine.........foolish, foolish me.
His pinpoint pupils while he stood in front of me telling me he was clean. (heroin use here too) second guessing here too.. wanting to believe him.
Not my kid! Not mine.........foolish, foolish me.
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How about the ability to magnify their problems to the fullest-your problems or duties are not really that bad. The wonderful promises of the day to unfold-only to lose them to the bottle midday. My biggest one is saying they are going to do something and poof....all of the excuses in the world as to why they did not do something, get something done, meet you somewhere, etc...
grateful rca
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i don't know if i'm addicted to sr or what but it makes me crazy when i find it gone. i do know that the tech are doing all they can so i don't blame them at all, i appreciate them more than anyone know. just want to say, that i get real paranoid when the site is down. i miss yall so much
i think it would be good if we had a backup, that everyone knows about, you know, like an emergency meeting place
i think it would be good if we had a backup, that everyone knows about, you know, like an emergency meeting place
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Being told on a daily basis that it's all my fault. Everything: his addictions, his lack of money, his problems with his family/job/God, global warming, everything. All me.
Sigh.
GL
Sigh.
GL
....or at least hoping I am.
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Just thought of a few more....
~ "The guy's holding my driver's liscence until I pay him so I need some money so he doesn't come to our house" AND I BELIEVED IT!!!
~ Having to call the bank at 2:00 a.m in the morning to say my ATM card was stolen by my AH and please cancel it before he completely drained my account. Must have had at least 6 or 7 of those cards replaced
~Spending New Years Eve playing video games w dd while daddy went from the backyard to the bedroom all night. Happy New Years!
~Walking down the street in the middle of the night w/ dd in tow because he took the keys from you locked himself in the bedroom and you just knew if you didn't leave it would be a LOOOOONG night.
~"Yes so-and-so (AH boss) he's seem to have the flu again." Boy was I a dummy
~"Sweetie I know dad promised he'd go to the family picnic with us, but he just isn't feeling well, AGAIN!"
~ "The guy's holding my driver's liscence until I pay him so I need some money so he doesn't come to our house" AND I BELIEVED IT!!!
~ Having to call the bank at 2:00 a.m in the morning to say my ATM card was stolen by my AH and please cancel it before he completely drained my account. Must have had at least 6 or 7 of those cards replaced
~Spending New Years Eve playing video games w dd while daddy went from the backyard to the bedroom all night. Happy New Years!
~Walking down the street in the middle of the night w/ dd in tow because he took the keys from you locked himself in the bedroom and you just knew if you didn't leave it would be a LOOOOONG night.
~"Yes so-and-so (AH boss) he's seem to have the flu again." Boy was I a dummy
~"Sweetie I know dad promised he'd go to the family picnic with us, but he just isn't feeling well, AGAIN!"
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