My kid brother passed away
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Thank you all for your support, it means the world to me.
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I have thought of that. I have other big crisis going in my life and they are all tangled up with grief so that might be a good idea.
Yes, we do. I managed to do that once I got into recovery.
Much more than happy. It kept him sane, it was his "self-medication" that kept away the nightmare of ACoA emotions. I don't think he would have survived without those chemicals. That's the biggest obstacle in ACoA recovery; you have to provide some kind of healthy alternative before you can remove the un-healthy.
They're not. That's why I am posting here. Sharing makes it more real, and forces me to deal with it.
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Mike
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... I think a grief support group might be part of the answer. ....
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... As tough as it is we have to have respect for the choices people make...
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...Your Brother was probably happy with his soda and cigarettes, ....
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... those feelings really can't be swept under the carpet ....
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Mike
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I am very sorry to hear of this devastating loss. I'm glad that your brother was able to have some happiness in his life, at the same as he struggled with compulsive behaviors. It sounds like you were a concerned, dedicated and loving sibling to him.
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Mike, Bless your heart for being the sensitive, compassionate person that you are. A loss like this is especially hard on those who feel so deeply. You did everything possible to steer him right, and it wasn't meant to be. I hope your pain will lessen as the days pass. Prayers going up for you to be comforted. 
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Mike,
The phrase we each have our own path for a reason resonates very deeply within me.
"He was a very gentle soul, who always reached out to help others."
Through prayer, meditation and reiki I've come to having a new understanding and trust in our timing in this life and beyond.
Many blessings for you, for your brother, for your family.
Namaste.
The phrase we each have our own path for a reason resonates very deeply within me.
"He was a very gentle soul, who always reached out to help others."
Through prayer, meditation and reiki I've come to having a new understanding and trust in our timing in this life and beyond.
Many blessings for you, for your brother, for your family.
Namaste.
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Originally Posted by Sasha1972
... It sounds like you were a concerned, dedicated and loving sibling to him....
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Originally Posted by Hevyn
... Bless your heart for being ....
Originally Posted by Hevyn
... You did everything possible to steer him right, and it wasn't meant to be.....
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Originally Posted by Mango212
... we each have our own path for a reason ....
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Thanks again, for everybody's support.
Mike
Big hugs from me. 
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Mike, I think you were definitely "good enough" for him. You were
there for him when as kids you had to survive and you had each other.
That is huge, because in many families, siblings isolate
and don't band together. This was my experience and
I often wonder why that happened to us.
So sorry for your loss. I do think you were blessed to have each
other's support through the years- that is so sweet.
there for him when as kids you had to survive and you had each other.
That is huge, because in many families, siblings isolate
and don't band together. This was my experience and
I often wonder why that happened to us.
So sorry for your loss. I do think you were blessed to have each
other's support through the years- that is so sweet.
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I have experienced the death of a bro to addiction )booze)- plus my own near fatal journey//so your story resonates with me strongly, Mike. I emapthise and prayers for your bro and you.
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