Mother "doesn't understand" boundary I've set

Old 05-08-2014, 03:07 PM
  # 1 (permalink)  
Thread Starter
Join Date: Jul 2013
Posts: 350
Mother "doesn't understand" boundary I've set

I just wanted some thoughts from SR members.

I currently have cut-off contact with two siblings and their wives because they mistreat my wife and refuse to sit down and resolve our issues.

My wife and I will be doing in vitro fertilization this summer and I have informed most of my family members. For each I have said/e-mailed the following:

I have informed most family members, but do not feel comfortable with sibling 1 and wife, and with sibling 2 and wife knowing.

My mother responded to this with:

"I do not understand, but it is your choice"

I have stated quite clearly several times to her exactly why I have cut-off contact from those two siblings and their wives. She even tried to argue with me about it.

So, what's going on here? Is her "I do not understand" some more baiting for a fight? What is an appropriate response?

The best I can think of is simply nothing at all (not responding) - I don't think I have to explain my reasons.

Thoughts from members?
thotful is offline  
The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to thotful For This Useful Post:
pacificsunrise (05-08-2014), readerbaby71 (05-08-2014)
Old 05-08-2014, 03:09 PM
  # 2 (permalink)  
RIP Sweet Suki
suki44883's Avatar
Join Date: Apr 2008
Location: In my sanctuary, my home
Posts: 32,381
No response necessary.
suki44883 is offline  
The Following 5 Users Say Thank You to suki44883 For This Useful Post:
BunnyNest (05-08-2014), honeypig (05-08-2014), pacificsunrise (05-08-2014), readerbaby71 (05-08-2014), Stung (05-08-2014)
Old 05-08-2014, 03:31 PM
  # 3 (permalink)  
SparkleKitty's Avatar
Join Date: Aug 2012
Location: Chicago
Posts: 5,327
Take it at face value, and accept that there may be no explanation that she is capable of understanding at this time.
SparkleKitty is online now  
The Following 6 Users Say Thank You to SparkleKitty For This Useful Post:
BunnyNest (05-08-2014), ladyscribbler (05-08-2014), owly (05-08-2014), pacificsunrise (05-08-2014), readerbaby71 (05-08-2014), Stung (05-08-2014)
Old 05-08-2014, 03:46 PM
  # 4 (permalink)  
Community Greeter
hopeful4's Avatar
Join Date: May 2010
Location: USA
Posts: 13,566
Blog Entries: 10
If you have explained yourself, there is no point in doing so again. Just tell her that you appreciate knowing she will fulfill your wishes to keep it private. Now if she tells she would feel shamed lol.

Good luck to you on your journey!! I hope it all goes well!

hopeful4 is offline  
The Following User Says Thank You to hopeful4 For This Useful Post:
readerbaby71 (05-08-2014)

Currently Active Users Viewing this Thread: 1 (0 members and 1 guests)
Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off

All times are GMT -7. The time now is 08:20 AM.