Mother "doesn't understand" boundary I've set
 

I just wanted some thoughts from SR members.

I currently have cut-off contact with two siblings and their wives because they mistreat my wife and refuse to sit down and resolve our issues.

My wife and I will be doing in vitro fertilization this summer and I have informed most of my family members. For each I have said/e-mailed the following:

I have informed most family members, but do not feel comfortable with sibling 1 and wife, and with sibling 2 and wife knowing.

My mother responded to this with:

"I do not understand, but it is your choice"

I have stated quite clearly several times to her exactly why I have cut-off contact from those two siblings and their wives. She even tried to argue with me about it.

So, what's going on here? Is her "I do not understand" some more baiting for a fight? What is an appropriate response?

The best I can think of is simply nothing at all (not responding) - I don't think I have to explain my reasons.

Thoughts from members?

No response necessary.

Take it at face value, and accept that there may be no explanation that she is capable of understanding at this time.

If you have explained yourself, there is no point in doing so again. Just tell her that you appreciate knowing she will fulfill your wishes to keep it private. Now if she tells she would feel shamed lol.

Good luck to you on your journey!! I hope it all goes well!

XXX