Old 05-08-2014, 02:07 PM
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thotful
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Mother "doesn't understand" boundary I've set

I just wanted some thoughts from SR members.

I currently have cut-off contact with two siblings and their wives because they mistreat my wife and refuse to sit down and resolve our issues.

My wife and I will be doing in vitro fertilization this summer and I have informed most of my family members. For each I have said/e-mailed the following:

I have informed most family members, but do not feel comfortable with sibling 1 and wife, and with sibling 2 and wife knowing.

My mother responded to this with:

"I do not understand, but it is your choice"

I have stated quite clearly several times to her exactly why I have cut-off contact from those two siblings and their wives. She even tried to argue with me about it.

So, what's going on here? Is her "I do not understand" some more baiting for a fight? What is an appropriate response?

The best I can think of is simply nothing at all (not responding) - I don't think I have to explain my reasons.

Thoughts from members?
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