My husband was in a motorcycle accident - Part 1
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Join Date: Jul 2010
Location: South Jersey
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Boxy,
Please take care of yourself. Isolating isn't good. Take some time to yourself if you need to, but dealing with all this in your own head can get you in knots. I know, I've been there. Pretty close to where you are.
And if you think he's bound to be checking out in the near future, that may not happen, either. My first husband almost died of liver and kidney failure. After a near-miraculous recovery from that, he returned to drinking. He is still alive, and still drinking, fifteen years later. I'm astounded that he is still walking around, but he is.
Nobody knows what will happen with your husband, other than God.
So take a break if you need to, but don't stay away "until it's all over." That could be a very VERY long time.
Please take care of yourself. Isolating isn't good. Take some time to yourself if you need to, but dealing with all this in your own head can get you in knots. I know, I've been there. Pretty close to where you are.
And if you think he's bound to be checking out in the near future, that may not happen, either. My first husband almost died of liver and kidney failure. After a near-miraculous recovery from that, he returned to drinking. He is still alive, and still drinking, fifteen years later. I'm astounded that he is still walking around, but he is.
Nobody knows what will happen with your husband, other than God.
So take a break if you need to, but don't stay away "until it's all over." That could be a very VERY long time.
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Join Date: Feb 2010
Location: NJ
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what Lexie said....
I'm sorry for your upset, this has been a hellacious month and one week, your stress is awful. I gather that he is drinking again?
maybe going to the attorney will give him some clarity on what he is causing.
I'm sorry for your upset, this has been a hellacious month and one week, your stress is awful. I gather that he is drinking again?
maybe going to the attorney will give him some clarity on what he is causing.
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Join Date: Feb 2011
Location: ON
Posts: 766
sending love your way.
But maybe its for the best.
The Monster is horrible.
Sit down and write out what a pleasant relaxed day looks like to you.
Set it up like you are writing a novel.
Set the sounds, the smells, everything.
Let that be your new life.
You have had so much Negative, you have to create some positive.
just write abit
But maybe its for the best.
The Monster is horrible.
Sit down and write out what a pleasant relaxed day looks like to you.
Set it up like you are writing a novel.
Set the sounds, the smells, everything.
Let that be your new life.
You have had so much Negative, you have to create some positive.
just write abit
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I've been through it too Rotz. I was in denial though - you're keeping your head & taking care of the practical end of things. (Even with a broken heart.) Sending up prayers for you to be comforted as you go through this.
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Join Date: Jan 2012
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Thinking of you - take care of yourself! No matter what happens, I know you're going to come out on the other side just fine. It's the in between time that's so painful. This misery now leads somewhere wonderful for you - I know it! We're here if and when you need us!
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Join Date: Apr 2013
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Thinking of you and sending you hugs too. the cats and I have our fingers (and paws) crossed and that is an awful lot of paws! You WILL come out the other side. Enjoy the special things in your life like your granddaughter.
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Join Date: Feb 2010
Location: NJ
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i have been thinking about you. i do hope you get some ftf support you need...whether it be from a good friend, church, your brother, so often i find that i can wrap myself up so much in other people's problems (ultimately meaning the previous men in my life), they become my identity....
your well being and health are suffering with all this ongoing trauma/drama....hubby gets the care and attention, you get the work and the stress.
take care ttyl
your well being and health are suffering with all this ongoing trauma/drama....hubby gets the care and attention, you get the work and the stress.
take care ttyl
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