HALT rule
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Join Date: Jan 2011
Location: Anchorage, Alaska
Posts: 4,719
H no just ate lunch
A kind of - trying not to be - angry at a colleague who left me hanging AGAIN...
L no actually have been getting along much better with the RAH and we've started spending time together again; its been really quite nice to do fun things with no fighting or resentments!
T amazingly no, even though its Monday!
I actually have felt pretty good lately...aside from the petty annoyances of living...I can't complain! Life feels good again!
Happy Monday, all!
A kind of - trying not to be - angry at a colleague who left me hanging AGAIN...
L no actually have been getting along much better with the RAH and we've started spending time together again; its been really quite nice to do fun things with no fighting or resentments!
T amazingly no, even though its Monday!
I actually have felt pretty good lately...aside from the petty annoyances of living...I can't complain! Life feels good again!
Happy Monday, all!
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Join Date: Feb 2009
Location: London, UK
Posts: 927
Hungry: I'm starving and waiting for dinner to cook
Angry: I'm as cool as a polar bear's toenails
Lonely: I'm so not. I have a lovely bf... have I said he's lovely lol.
Tired: Not as tired as I should be.
Meh... not today for me.
Tx
Angry: I'm as cool as a polar bear's toenails
Lonely: I'm so not. I have a lovely bf... have I said he's lovely lol.
Tired: Not as tired as I should be.
Meh... not today for me.
Tx
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Join Date: Dec 2010
Location: Midwest, USA
Posts: 2,899
H - Only sort-of. You can't stop a pregnant lady from eating, so I'm hungry, I guess, but eating more or less constantly. 
A - YES. I'm realizing that I am a ball of seething resentments.
L - YES. I have been ruminating on how it is that I've ended up in this situation. I got pregnant on accident about two months after realizing that my husband was a raging alcoholic. At the time I was scrambling to help him because it seemed like he wanted and needed the help, but as time goes on I realize how empty all his promises were. What's worse is that I feel so vulnerable now that I'm pregnant and seriously contemplating divorce, and thinking about how much more I deserve from my relationships. I want someone who is happy to be with me, and who sees what value I bring to a relationship (a lot, personally), who sleeps next to me instead of passing out on the couch 24/7, who is excited and ready about a new baby coming. But he's not and I feel stuck and very alone. I'm trying to take care of myself but I feel like I'm on the edge of an emotional abyss. This forum is all I've got for a support system at the moment.
T - Yes. Just yes.
A - YES. I'm realizing that I am a ball of seething resentments.
L - YES. I have been ruminating on how it is that I've ended up in this situation. I got pregnant on accident about two months after realizing that my husband was a raging alcoholic. At the time I was scrambling to help him because it seemed like he wanted and needed the help, but as time goes on I realize how empty all his promises were. What's worse is that I feel so vulnerable now that I'm pregnant and seriously contemplating divorce, and thinking about how much more I deserve from my relationships. I want someone who is happy to be with me, and who sees what value I bring to a relationship (a lot, personally), who sleeps next to me instead of passing out on the couch 24/7, who is excited and ready about a new baby coming. But he's not and I feel stuck and very alone. I'm trying to take care of myself but I feel like I'm on the edge of an emotional abyss. This forum is all I've got for a support system at the moment.
T - Yes. Just yes.
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Join Date: Nov 2009
Location: Waterford MI
Posts: 4,202
Florence,
:ghug3
I am glad you found this forum.
A seething ball of resentment, wow, that is an excellent description!
I felt like that until I got some recovery going.
You do deserve so much more from your relationships, and so does the baby.
Keep going lady.
Beth
:ghug3
I am glad you found this forum.
A seething ball of resentment, wow, that is an excellent description!
I felt like that until I got some recovery going.
You do deserve so much more from your relationships, and so does the baby.
Keep going lady.
Beth
Today is a New Day
Join Date: Dec 2010
Posts: 1,766
H - Hungry, yes. I am going to lunch with someone in 10 minutes, though.
A - Angry, no. I don't think so. I might be angry at my mother, but I think I simply feel sorry for her.
L - Lonely, no! Although I am impatient to go home today, and cuddle the kitten, and go to Al-Anon. I am less lonely when I am 100% by myself than I was with XABF, so even the "lonely" times aren't lonely.
T - Tired, absolutely yes. I am constantly yawning anymore, and it doesn't matter how much I sleep. I just don't get it.
A - Angry, no. I don't think so. I might be angry at my mother, but I think I simply feel sorry for her.
L - Lonely, no! Although I am impatient to go home today, and cuddle the kitten, and go to Al-Anon. I am less lonely when I am 100% by myself than I was with XABF, so even the "lonely" times aren't lonely.
T - Tired, absolutely yes. I am constantly yawning anymore, and it doesn't matter how much I sleep. I just don't get it.
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Join Date: Oct 2009
Location: rural west
Posts: 1,375
Thanks for the bump, TC!
I was JUST thinking today how important this is.
It seems so...simple. And obvious.
But isn't life more simple and obvious than we make it?
That is certainly true for me.
It's all about T for me.
I need more sleep (she says as she surfs SR at 10pm!).
Thanks to OP for this thread.
Sometimes attending to the simplest things brings growth.
I was JUST thinking today how important this is.
It seems so...simple. And obvious.
But isn't life more simple and obvious than we make it?
That is certainly true for me.
It's all about T for me.
I need more sleep (she says as she surfs SR at 10pm!).
Thanks to OP for this thread.
Sometimes attending to the simplest things brings growth.
Today is a New Day
Join Date: Dec 2010
Posts: 1,766
Hungry. No, not right now. I actually ate breakfast this morning. On a work day! Will wonders never cease?
Angry. No. Not angry, not today.
Lonely. No. That said, I am impatient to get home. There's kitten cuddling tonight, followed by Al-Anon, and then more kitten cuddling.
Tired. Always. Last night, I was ready to go to bed early... When the toilet backed up again. Had to call maintenance, wait for maintenance, have him fix it (again), then try to calm down enough to sleep. So I'm 2 hours short, now. Oh well, I'm just grateful I was getting to bed early, or it would have been horrible today.
Angry. No. Not angry, not today.
Lonely. No. That said, I am impatient to get home. There's kitten cuddling tonight, followed by Al-Anon, and then more kitten cuddling.
Tired. Always. Last night, I was ready to go to bed early... When the toilet backed up again. Had to call maintenance, wait for maintenance, have him fix it (again), then try to calm down enough to sleep. So I'm 2 hours short, now. Oh well, I'm just grateful I was getting to bed early, or it would have been horrible today.
A jug fills drop by drop
Thread Starter
Join Date: Nov 2008
Posts: 6,784
h yes, got the worst habits today 
a yes..
l lonely / yes on sat, on sun got slightly better
t tired / yes, couldnt sleep
man !!!!!!!!
looking forward to going to the gym later ... that always helps
a yes..
l lonely / yes on sat, on sun got slightly better
t tired / yes, couldnt sleep
man !!!!!!!!
looking forward to going to the gym later ... that always helps
I AM CANADIAN
Join Date: Jun 2010
Location: Niagara Region, Canada
Posts: 2,578
so glad this was brought up....my sponsor and i where just talking about the "meltdown" with my kids....at certain times of the day.....yep happens to my kids too
for me
H--hungry? hummm could use some chocolate (teehee)
A--angry?wasted energy today and everyday...have become so aware of this feeling
L--lonely?...gosh nope, got those kids to take care of, and yep, got a kitty too
T--tired? yep, fatigue hits me so much...i can sleep in a corner if i really needed it....
for me
H--hungry? hummm could use some chocolate (teehee)
A--angry?wasted energy today and everyday...have become so aware of this feeling
L--lonely?...gosh nope, got those kids to take care of, and yep, got a kitty too
T--tired? yep, fatigue hits me so much...i can sleep in a corner if i really needed it....
Skipper
Join Date: Sep 2010
Location: South Texas, USA
Posts: 827
Hungry?--No, taking care of nutrition
Angry?--No, not even annoyed.
Lonely?--No, got DS and the dogs here entertaining me.
Tired?--Nope, got plenty of rest last night and ready to grab a book and read for pleasure a little later.
Wow!! I've usually had one of those areas to Work On in the past, oh, 30 years or so. LOL.
Angry?--No, not even annoyed.
Lonely?--No, got DS and the dogs here entertaining me.
Tired?--Nope, got plenty of rest last night and ready to grab a book and read for pleasure a little later.
Wow!! I've usually had one of those areas to Work On in the past, oh, 30 years or so. LOL.
A jug fills drop by drop
Thread Starter
Join Date: Nov 2008
Posts: 6,784
fourmaggie, acknowledgment of anger is the first step to healing.. I hope.. lol
Wow skipper you are doing great today!!
I am getting ready for Pilates, hopefully I can grab a Subway afterwards...
Thanks for inspiring me to do better during the afternoon..
Wow skipper you are doing great today!!
I am getting ready for Pilates, hopefully I can grab a Subway afterwards...
Thanks for inspiring me to do better during the afternoon..
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Join Date: Apr 2011
Location: "Happy Rock" (Gladstone) Oregon
Posts: 1,252
wow, I was just thinking about HALT last night.
Hungry - No, I eat good foods that edify me.
Angry - Last night, definitely a YES. Didn't lash out; didn't react to it; glad I didn't. If I have anger, I want to acknowledge it, even if only to myself, so I know to keep quiet and don't make any big decisions. Today, I am not angry.
Lonely - No
Tired - No
Hungry - No, I eat good foods that edify me.
Angry - Last night, definitely a YES. Didn't lash out; didn't react to it; glad I didn't. If I have anger, I want to acknowledge it, even if only to myself, so I know to keep quiet and don't make any big decisions. Today, I am not angry.
Lonely - No
Tired - No
Today is a New Day
Join Date: Dec 2010
Posts: 1,766
Hungry? No. I have been eating chocolate. Not healthy, but oh so good for the soul.
Angry? No.
Lonely? No. I do miss my kitten, but I think that has more to do with not wanting to be at work on a gorgeous day.
Tired? Yes. I have been yawning all day.
Angry? No.
Lonely? No. I do miss my kitten, but I think that has more to do with not wanting to be at work on a gorgeous day.
Tired? Yes. I have been yawning all day.
A jug fills drop by drop
Thread Starter
Join Date: Nov 2008
Posts: 6,784
H no, just ate a DELICIOUS soup!
A angry not so much. Monday: cardio box, Tue: boxing, Wed: kickboxing (easy moves and with modifications due to knee issue) So today I am feeling GREAT.
L lonely - no, had a healing moment with my mom today
T tired - no, I slept all I needed.
YAY, I pass HALT !!!!!!
A angry not so much. Monday: cardio box, Tue: boxing, Wed: kickboxing (easy moves and with modifications due to knee issue) So today I am feeling GREAT.
L lonely - no, had a healing moment with my mom today
T tired - no, I slept all I needed.
YAY, I pass HALT !!!!!!
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Join Date: Jul 2012
Location: Central O-H-I-O
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My sticking point is always "T" - can't get past the tired stage with living the life of an almost-single parent with a 2.5 year-old and running a household (in my late 40's!)
I'm never alone - always am at work around others, or at home with wife and son. Have enough dear friends that I doubt would ever get to the "L" part.
Used to be more angry, but working on that with my HP and letting Him sort thru things.
never hungry, thank God.
I'm never alone - always am at work around others, or at home with wife and son. Have enough dear friends that I doubt would ever get to the "L" part.
Used to be more angry, but working on that with my HP and letting Him sort thru things.
never hungry, thank God.
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