I can't post here anymore
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I can't post here anymore
Exab has had access to my emails for months (doing it remotely from his computer) and I didn't have a clue.
He is now changing passwords for online accounts and my email addresses and deleting various online accounts. He has changed the password on here at least twice.
It's creepy that he has known everything I've been up to and even more creepy that he set this up to spy on me months before we split up, possibly as much as a year ago.
I never told him that I was posting on this particular site but when they can access all your emails (I keep any for online accounts I've set up) there isn't too much you can do.
I could do with some support right now but he had taken that option away from me. I will be back once it has been sorted though
He is now changing passwords for online accounts and my email addresses and deleting various online accounts. He has changed the password on here at least twice.
It's creepy that he has known everything I've been up to and even more creepy that he set this up to spy on me months before we split up, possibly as much as a year ago.
I never told him that I was posting on this particular site but when they can access all your emails (I keep any for online accounts I've set up) there isn't too much you can do.
I could do with some support right now but he had taken that option away from me. I will be back once it has been sorted though
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Join Date: Feb 2008
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Call an IT expert and see if you can block, erase or whatever. There has to be some software/firewall product out there that would be a quick fix. Then report him to the police. How creepy and sad is that kind of behavior.
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That is frightening. I don't have any IT advice for you, wish I did. Guess this is a good way for some of us to realize what can happen and to take the steps to make sure our id's are secured the best way possible. I don't just mean our id's for this site, but for everything online.
I do have one tip that I do. When I'm making up a password, I close my eyes and let my fingers randomly peck one out. That way I don't subconsciously make one that is tied to me in any way.
Hope you get this ironed out quickly and that you can come back.
I do have one tip that I do. When I'm making up a password, I close my eyes and let my fingers randomly peck one out. That way I don't subconsciously make one that is tied to me in any way.
Hope you get this ironed out quickly and that you can come back.
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I'm a geek 
If he's controlling your PC remotely you can turn this off by changing settings on your pc...It's more likey that he has a keylogger installed on your pc/laptop which can send logs via email to him with all your keystrokes, hence giving him all your passwords etc...
Firstly make sure your remote assistance and access is turned off - instructions for XP HERE and Vista HERE
Try downloading a spyware scanner, AdAware is a good one and it's free. Delete/remove any infections and note down the names of any malware that aren't cookies.
Get your Antivirus updated and do a thorough scan, if you haven't got one AVG is free.
After doing that you should be safe. You might wanna go and change all your passwords for sites you use though also.
If he's controlling your PC remotely you can turn this off by changing settings on your pc...It's more likey that he has a keylogger installed on your pc/laptop which can send logs via email to him with all your keystrokes, hence giving him all your passwords etc...
Firstly make sure your remote assistance and access is turned off - instructions for XP HERE and Vista HERE
Try downloading a spyware scanner, AdAware is a good one and it's free. Delete/remove any infections and note down the names of any malware that aren't cookies.
Get your Antivirus updated and do a thorough scan, if you haven't got one AVG is free.
After doing that you should be safe. You might wanna go and change all your passwords for sites you use though also.
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Originally Posted by Sweetiepie1 
Exab has had access to my emails for months (doing it remotely from his computer) and I didn't have a clue.
He is now changing passwords for online accounts and my email addresses and deleting various online accounts. He has changed the password on here at least twice.
It's creepy that he has known everything I've been up to and even more creepy that he set this up to spy on me months before we split up, possibly as much as a year ago.
I never told him that I was posting on this particular site but when they can access all your emails (I keep any for online accounts I've set up) there isn't too much you can do.
I could do with some support right now but he had taken that option away from me. I will be back once it has been sorted though
He is now changing passwords for online accounts and my email addresses and deleting various online accounts. He has changed the password on here at least twice.
It's creepy that he has known everything I've been up to and even more creepy that he set this up to spy on me months before we split up, possibly as much as a year ago.
I never told him that I was posting on this particular site but when they can access all your emails (I keep any for online accounts I've set up) there isn't too much you can do.
I could do with some support right now but he had taken that option away from me. I will be back once it has been sorted though
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It will get sorted, it's just going to take some time and I'll be using my mums PC in the interim. I think it will end up costing me a bit financially and as a single mum with 2 children I could have done without that but it's a small price to pay to get him off my back.
With all that he's done/doing I am still getting the "I love you", "Give me another chance", and "Help me" text messages. He can plead as much as he likes as I won't be responding and he can go to hell in a handcart as far as I'm concerned. This isn't just about him being a drunk it runs far deeper as he must have done this months ago and must have been sober and clear headed.
I am so angry
With all that he's done/doing I am still getting the "I love you", "Give me another chance", and "Help me" text messages. He can plead as much as he likes as I won't be responding and he can go to hell in a handcart as far as I'm concerned. This isn't just about him being a drunk it runs far deeper as he must have done this months ago and must have been sober and clear headed.
I am so angry
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I don't even know the bast*rd and I want to strangle him Right. Now.
I'd be so p*ssed, I wouldn't be able to see straight.
What a control freak LIAR......
I'm glad he's already your ex......
I hope you're able to turn off remote assistance and access.from vista or whichever one you have.
It'd be nice to be a fly on the wall and watch him try to access your info. again only to be denied access.
I'd be so p*ssed, I wouldn't be able to see straight.
What a control freak LIAR......
I'm glad he's already your ex......
I hope you're able to turn off remote assistance and access.from vista or whichever one you have.
It'd be nice to be a fly on the wall and watch him try to access your info. again only to be denied access.
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That's a tad scary. Do you need to check any of your banking or anything else that you might access online? Passwords for those things, etc? Maybe even a restraining order. (((HUGS))) I hope you're able to get it all sorted out.
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He's had a call from the police tonight and was advised that they would arrest him if he made any further contact with me and guess what he sends a text just as soon as they pull away from the house, he's sober too!!!!! Bloody freak.
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It's been reported and 2 of the calls since. Will report the rest tomorrow or later tonight if there are enough
In the meantime, please be safe, watch your back, this guy is nutszo!!!
Sending prayers and good thoughts across the pond.
Love and hugs,
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Laurie,
the boys in blue have been fantastic, they have phoned me tonight to let me know the plan of action and have given me their ID numbers and let me know when they're next on call.
It's not cause I'm cute as I've a stinking cold at the moment and haven't brushed my hair in two days.
the boys in blue have been fantastic, they have phoned me tonight to let me know the plan of action and have given me their ID numbers and let me know when they're next on call.
It's not cause I'm cute as I've a stinking cold at the moment and haven't brushed my hair in two days.
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