Jazzman

*best impression of Joey from Friends*

How yu doin?



Sorry, couldn't help it, the set up was too perfect

prodigal

Since all of us on this thread learned up-front that you have $200K in an account, I assume your friend is aware of this fact as well. I have nothing against lending a helping hand to a person in need. I wonder if his need has required financial assistance from you ...

Thanks LaTeeDa - LOVED the hooker response!

embraced2000

i hope you haven't sent this guy any money.

the monster of addiction is bigger than anything you can imagine. you would be very wise to steer clear of it, since you do have a choice.

you cannot help him. it was hard for me to accept that about my xh. but it is the truth. it is impossible to be a friend to an addict/alcoholic......ask anyone on this forum. they do not know how to be a friend, because all they think about is themselves. they are very self-centered.

i really don't think you will believe what i have written.

i wish you well.

denny57

What does it say about me that I look to "Babe" for inspiration? LOL, LTD!

SilverLining

Haha hell no. I work way too hard.
And I had major surgery last month so Im down to like 175k. And that nest egg is for me and my future sane wonderful husband whomever he may be.
This guy has a high paying job and doesn't need handouts from me.
Plus he has enabler parents. They bought him his house and car for cash.
I'm a very savvy girlie. Even though I feel deep empathy, I do have a cool head ultimately.
Heck I even ran a full background check on him.
No DUIs, but both he and his dad have been caught speeding.
Like father, like son.
Brilliant but both drink and speed.

LaTeeDa

That you dream of excelling at something normally reserved for another species? LOL

prodigal

Just wonder why you wouldn't find someone who is truly deserving of your generosity. His parents appear to be funding his lifestyle quite nicely. There are plenty of people in your home area who are single-parent families who are having hard times, there are homeless shelters who need contributions of time and money to feed those in need. Like I said, I believe we should help our fellow man but it really sounds like this guy has $$ and a support system (even if it is enabling parents) in place.

Alcoholics need to discover they can help themselves. The less help they receive, the better chance that idea has of sinking in. Just a thought ...

SilverLining

yep but I dont brag about good works.
It should be done without fanfare.


And also people from well to do backgrounds can have the most effed up stuff going on in their families.
Just because they don't need monetary help, doesn't mean they don't need emotional support and succor.
Money doesn't buy happiness. It can actually fuel addictions worse than anything.

QU31

Hey Silver,

The fact is you most likely couldn't "help" him even if it wasn't long distance.

You sound like a catch! I agree, guard that $ and look for someone who deserves you! Good luck...