Hello Lizda, and Welcome!
You have been through so much! Unfortunately, your story is not at all new to our members. You've found a great place for support!!
I wish I could tell you some way in which you could make this man be who you want him to be...but that's just not possible. We can't change anyone, and unless and until he decides to stop drinking and be a responsible partner and father, there is nothing anyone will be able to do. Sadly, many active addicts and those in early recovery are immature and self-absorbed. In early recovery, it is often a life-and-death struggle with the addiction. He may not ever be the partner you hope he will be...
You, however, very much deserve joy and a peaceful life for you and your child
I can recommend you introduce yourself in the Friends and Family of Alcoholics forum. You will get much-needed support and a warm welcome! https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...ly-alcoholics/