Lizda, you seem a very capable woman considering all that you have coped with while he was in jail and staying at his mothers. I wonder why you're persisting with him? He's already given you every indication that your marriage is over.
He doesn't want to spend time with you.
He misses any family event that includes you.
You are bending over backwards to run after him and he is running away as fast as he can.
He is siding with him family against you.
He's texted you that you can't be together.
What else does he have to do for you to get the message? I know this is abrupt and confronting, and I apologise, but you are so much better than this! You've done amazing things with tiny resources.
It's time to start concentrating on your own life, which could be so much better. Leave him to it, and make your own story. I know it will be hard, but much easier that pouring affection on someone who doesn't reciprocate.