The addicts playbook....
Getting there!!
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The addicts playbook....
I think its time to share their playbook.......THE THINGS ADDICTS SAY
If you weren't such a b!tch or nag, I wouldn't take (insert DOC).
Fast forward.....you leave them and they are still using. Now what?
If you weren't such a b!tch or nag, I wouldn't take (insert DOC).
Fast forward.....you leave them and they are still using. Now what?
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You know thus far my AH had never said it was because of me or anything I said or did or didn't do that is likely coming one day but then again I am not suppose to look in to the future hmmm I just did huh
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I do hear I have been clean 3 days wow 3 days which I know is a lie I want us too work things out and oh yes I swear I am not taking anything , funny thing I find is if he doesn't hear from me DD he starts texting where are you, who are you with smh
There is always the my back hurts you know that.
There is always the my back hurts you know that.
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Those aren't fresh tracks I hated the sight of them so I started to scratch at the scars.or
You left me I had nothing so I started using again...
Reality was I left u cause u were using..... good grief
They are masters at making us think we are the crazy ones
One more
your so determine to leave me that your making yourself believe i'm using ugh your just paranoid.
Thank God
I don't hear those anymore I almost thought I was going crazy for a moment.
Then I left and realized he was making me crazy
You left me I had nothing so I started using again...
Reality was I left u cause u were using..... good grief
They are masters at making us think we are the crazy ones
One more
your so determine to leave me that your making yourself believe i'm using ugh your just paranoid.
Thank God
I don't hear those anymore I almost thought I was going crazy for a moment.
Then I left and realized he was making me crazy
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I lied because I knew you'd react like that...
Stop being so paranoid...
You're so angry all the time, I hate being around you...
You have no compassion...
I'm sorry, I didn't mean it, I do respect you and I don't think you're a horrible person (usually sent via text message)
I'm so sorry for everything I've done, I feel so bad about what I've put you through (also via text and when he wants something to go his way)
Ah, there are more but the Cynical One is right, we have heaps of them too.
S xx
Stop being so paranoid...
You're so angry all the time, I hate being around you...
You have no compassion...
I'm sorry, I didn't mean it, I do respect you and I don't think you're a horrible person (usually sent via text message)
I'm so sorry for everything I've done, I feel so bad about what I've put you through (also via text and when he wants something to go his way)
Ah, there are more but the Cynical One is right, we have heaps of them too.
S xx
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"Honey it's just drinking. I've been drinking more then I should bit it's not drugs I swear" (As if drinking is all that much better better and since when does drinking cos 800 dollars in a month?)
They love throwing pet names or "honey, baby, sweet hearts" before they say something too.
"Do you think I'd use knowing how much it would hurt the love of my life?"
(Last time I checked the only love of your life was cocaine but nice try)
When they do finally decide to tell you..."I'm tell you this because I love you so much and I can't stand the thought of losing you. This all started because we were fighting and I felt like I was losing you and I just can't lie to you anymore, it's making me lose you even more I'm going to get the help I need to be the man you deserve me to be and a man I know" (Actually you're telling me this to try and manipulate me into staying with you and you couldn't keep up the damn lies anymore because I'm not a total idiot and seriously did this because we're fighting you did this cos you're a God damn addict not because you had a fight with your girlfriend and what man is that last time I checked you're not capable of holding down a job for more then a few months or staying out of jail for more then a year)
This was a good thread. Don't mind the fact that I just had an argument with my ABF through it ha. But seriously. I'm in a clearer state of mind right now. I can come back and read this post when I'n not.
They love throwing pet names or "honey, baby, sweet hearts" before they say something too.
"Do you think I'd use knowing how much it would hurt the love of my life?"
(Last time I checked the only love of your life was cocaine but nice try)
When they do finally decide to tell you..."I'm tell you this because I love you so much and I can't stand the thought of losing you. This all started because we were fighting and I felt like I was losing you and I just can't lie to you anymore, it's making me lose you even more I'm going to get the help I need to be the man you deserve me to be and a man I know" (Actually you're telling me this to try and manipulate me into staying with you and you couldn't keep up the damn lies anymore because I'm not a total idiot and seriously did this because we're fighting you did this cos you're a God damn addict not because you had a fight with your girlfriend and what man is that last time I checked you're not capable of holding down a job for more then a few months or staying out of jail for more then a year)
This was a good thread. Don't mind the fact that I just had an argument with my ABF through it ha. But seriously. I'm in a clearer state of mind right now. I can come back and read this post when I'n not.
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I agree that it's a good thread.
My son tries to wear us down with his finger pointing but it doesn't work. He tells us how people think we're crazy for pressing charges against him (last year), that we ruined his life by doing so (he is healthy, has been able to get work, and generally has it pretty good since), tells us how much more his friends' parents do for them, (e.g., how his one friend gets off the hook for crimes because a family member has connections) etc., etc., etc.
My son tries to wear us down with his finger pointing but it doesn't work. He tells us how people think we're crazy for pressing charges against him (last year), that we ruined his life by doing so (he is healthy, has been able to get work, and generally has it pretty good since), tells us how much more his friends' parents do for them, (e.g., how his one friend gets off the hook for crimes because a family member has connections) etc., etc., etc.
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I was in the hospital last year for a week AH picked me up and on the way home told me his cousins grandmother had died and that he grew up around her and told them he would meet them at the funeral home Really? you didn't even go to your own grandmothers funeral I went in your place so, someone from our house would be there.
Turns out she wasn't dead he "misunderstood" she was in the hospital and not expected to live a few months later she died again. I have no clue if she is alive or not now his sister said she has not heard she isn't.
Turns out she wasn't dead he "misunderstood" she was in the hospital and not expected to live a few months later she died again. I have no clue if she is alive or not now his sister said she has not heard she isn't.
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"This is my problem and doesn't concern you" (When using)
"You're not supportive and never there for me" (When trying not to use)
"You have no idea how hard this is for me"
"I can't believe you're not going to pay for (insert random payment)"
And the most hurtful to me so far.........
"Maybe we should have changed our wedding vows to take out the 'for better or worse' part"
"You're not supportive and never there for me" (When trying not to use)
"You have no idea how hard this is for me"
"I can't believe you're not going to pay for (insert random payment)"
And the most hurtful to me so far.........
"Maybe we should have changed our wedding vows to take out the 'for better or worse' part"
Getting there!!
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Lie? I never lied to you! (what???)
I lied because I knew you would make a big deal about nothing. (being married and living with an active addict is a big deal in my book).
Last but not least.....I know I have lied to you in the past but at some point you need to start trusting me again. (all while lying and using).
I lied because I knew you would make a big deal about nothing. (being married and living with an active addict is a big deal in my book).
Last but not least.....I know I have lied to you in the past but at some point you need to start trusting me again. (all while lying and using).
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My favorite most baffling line so far is....(after 2.5 months not hearing from him). He was very cocky and unapologetic via text. I was floored. I said "are you on coke right now"his reply was "actually I just got back from a run" LMAO! Oh, ok. So, let me get this straight... you are so super healthy and have missed out on our sons life for the past 3 months. You rock!
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"you told me not to give you any more bad news so I had to lie."
"you and my sister are hypocrites, your both fat, food addiction is just as bad, maybe worse than what I am doing."
"you don't care about me or appreciate all the great things I do for you."
"what kind of nurse are you, abandoning your own husband when he has an illness."
"you're kicking me when I'm down."
"you and my sister are hypocrites, your both fat, food addiction is just as bad, maybe worse than what I am doing."
"you don't care about me or appreciate all the great things I do for you."
"what kind of nurse are you, abandoning your own husband when he has an illness."
"you're kicking me when I'm down."
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"This is my last hurrah, after this weekend I'm done"
"We don't need to pay electric, we just paid it last month"
"I'm doing it so I will be in a good mood, your always happier when I'm in a good mood"
"If you let me get high I will clean the house for a week & rub ur back everyday" which of course never happened.
I feel bad....sometimes I would give him $ just to shut him up. So glad I won't have to deal with that anymore.
"We don't need to pay electric, we just paid it last month"
"I'm doing it so I will be in a good mood, your always happier when I'm in a good mood"
"If you let me get high I will clean the house for a week & rub ur back everyday" which of course never happened.
I feel bad....sometimes I would give him $ just to shut him up. So glad I won't have to deal with that anymore.
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I'll pay you back.
Get off my back.
Why do you always barrage me?
(CrazyBabie, give it enough time, when everything else runs out, you may be blamed. Took 20 years to get around to that one.)
Just need it til Friday.
I will not go back to jail!
Ill just blow my brains out.
I'm not going in a program.
You've been listening to that Naranon crap.
I did not take your ....whatever.
I promise I'll pay you back!
Baaahhhhh... Lone....eeee!
Get off my back.
Why do you always barrage me?
(CrazyBabie, give it enough time, when everything else runs out, you may be blamed. Took 20 years to get around to that one.)
Just need it til Friday.
I will not go back to jail!
Ill just blow my brains out.
I'm not going in a program.
You've been listening to that Naranon crap.
I did not take your ....whatever.
I promise I'll pay you back!
Baaahhhhh... Lone....eeee!
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I can get sober on my own.
I told mom and dad not to pay my mortgage.
I'm not using. (pupils as big as softballs and keeps "zoning out" during the conversation)
I don't need to see a counselor. What would we talk about anyway?
And unfortunately we are just starting down this road.....ugh!
I told mom and dad not to pay my mortgage.
I'm not using. (pupils as big as softballs and keeps "zoning out" during the conversation)
I don't need to see a counselor. What would we talk about anyway?
And unfortunately we are just starting down this road.....ugh!
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After 11 days on a ventilator for a heroin OD that caused cardiac arrest, where she almost lost her entire right leg due to acute compartment syndrome: "I don't know what I was thinking--that was SO stupid. It was only the second time I tried it." Six months later, I found out she had been using for two YEARS, not two TIMES.
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