I didn't make it to day one, but I will
That naughty AV gets all of us. Don't listen to it. Shut it down immediately. Never give your AV a "seat at the table" so to speak, to discuss why having a drink might be a good idea. The rationalizations it can come up with are limitless. Just shut the thought off immediately and in one minute it will be gone.
Tidalwaves - I was convinced I could moderate. Just needed to use more willpower. It never worked once. Once it was in my system I never could be sure where it would take me. Dangerous.
Thoughts are thoughts and nothing more.
Thoughts of drinking without consequences is hog wash for folks who drink like I did.
In reality I personally cannot moderate nor would I want to. Sounds like torture.
All or none for me gus
None
Give up those thoughts and dreams of one day having a harmless martini on the beach while watching the sunset. Or whatever romantic vision of alcohol the AV puts in your head.
If you are like me that would turn into an empty bottle and pain and regret the next day and beyond.
You can do it but you have to want to not drink more than you want to drink
Thoughts of drinking without consequences is hog wash for folks who drink like I did.
In reality I personally cannot moderate nor would I want to. Sounds like torture.
All or none for me gus
None
Give up those thoughts and dreams of one day having a harmless martini on the beach while watching the sunset. Or whatever romantic vision of alcohol the AV puts in your head.
If you are like me that would turn into an empty bottle and pain and regret the next day and beyond.
You can do it but you have to want to not drink more than you want to drink
if you don’t commit, your AV has an opening and you *will* relapse. If you give your AV an inch, it will take a mile. Shut it down.
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I've been drinking two drinks a day. My plan is still to stop drinking, but I've just been so depressed and I know that's no excuse... so the plan is to get back to day one, and then take it from there. I welcome any tips or inspiration.
This is a good link about plans
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...ml#post5314914 (Recovery Programs & What to Expect (What We Did))
if you’re depressed, drinking is probably the worst thing you can do because in my experience drinking just makes you more depressed.
If you think this depression is a lasting problem please go and see your Doctor. It’s a far better way to go.
Not sure whether the two drinks a day is an attempt to taper or not but if it is, the idea of tapering is to keep cutting down to nothing.
my advice is to get started on a day one as soon as you feel able tidalwaves
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https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...ml#post5314914 (Recovery Programs & What to Expect (What We Did))
if you’re depressed, drinking is probably the worst thing you can do because in my experience drinking just makes you more depressed.
If you think this depression is a lasting problem please go and see your Doctor. It’s a far better way to go.
Not sure whether the two drinks a day is an attempt to taper or not but if it is, the idea of tapering is to keep cutting down to nothing.
my advice is to get started on a day one as soon as you feel able tidalwaves
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As far as inspiration, I can personally tell that quitting was one of the most important and best decisions I ever made. Yes it was hard at first but there is not a single facet of my life that is not better today than it was prior to quitting, with zero exceptions.
Hi Tidalwaves,
I am glad you are here and posting, the desire to be sober is the first and most important step!
Moderation was a theory I tested as well, I failed, and I tested it enough times to feel 100% confident in saying it doesn't work if you have a problem with alcohol.
If you are down to two drinks a day, cutting to no drinks should be something you are physically able to do. I can tell you what works for me. I have five years and seven months (Aug 1st) sober, and I can share that life has been so much better without alcohol, even the difficult days. The things that have worked for me are:
I am glad you are here and posting, the desire to be sober is the first and most important step!
Moderation was a theory I tested as well, I failed, and I tested it enough times to feel 100% confident in saying it doesn't work if you have a problem with alcohol.
If you are down to two drinks a day, cutting to no drinks should be something you are physically able to do. I can tell you what works for me. I have five years and seven months (Aug 1st) sober, and I can share that life has been so much better without alcohol, even the difficult days. The things that have worked for me are:
- Reading and posting her daily, two good groups are the Monthly Classes (join July of 2021 or August of 2021when it starts).
- Walking outdoors, the combination of exercise and nature helps me to clear my head.
- Mindfulness activities that keep me focused on the present moment really help. You cannot dwell on the past, only learn from it and make different choices. Worrying about the future only takes away from the present (this is one I still work on).
- Gratitude, this is a big one for me. I try to look at every situation with this lens. If you are sober today, that is a reason to be grateful, you can listen to your favorite song, thats a reason. Food, family, friends (in real life, or online), all great reasons to be grateful.
- Drinking is not an option, no matter what! I have remained sober through financial difficulties, the death of my mom and friends, stressful days with work, husband, kids... I did not allow myself to drink, instead I allowed myself to feel whatever emotion I was having at the time, rather than suppressing it.
Thoughts are thoughts and nothing more.
Thoughts of drinking without consequences is hog wash for folks who drink like I did.
In reality I personally cannot moderate nor would I want to. Sounds like torture.
All or none for me gus
None
Give up those thoughts and dreams of one day having a harmless martini on the beach while watching the sunset. Or whatever romantic vision of alcohol the AV puts in your head.
If you are like me that would turn into an empty bottle and pain and regret the next day and beyond.
You can do it but you have to want to not drink more than you want to drink
Thoughts of drinking without consequences is hog wash for folks who drink like I did.
In reality I personally cannot moderate nor would I want to. Sounds like torture.
All or none for me gus
None
Give up those thoughts and dreams of one day having a harmless martini on the beach while watching the sunset. Or whatever romantic vision of alcohol the AV puts in your head.
If you are like me that would turn into an empty bottle and pain and regret the next day and beyond.
You can do it but you have to want to not drink more than you want to drink
I'd moderate drinking for a month or two, then have a *really* bad night. Then moderate drinking for awhile, then have another bad night or weekend. Sure, my last few years of drinking weren't as bad as my worst days... but that's a very f'n low bar. And the voice telling me that I was "so much better than I used to be?" That was my damn AV trying to keep the addiction on life support.
You can do it, TitalWaves.
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