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Old 09-13-2021, 09:52 AM
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Originally Posted by FormerBeerLover View Post
I've been sober for 10+ years using only online resources (SR and FB). So many different options out there these days. Find what works for you and work it!
Hiya, same for me. I have never attended an AA meeting. I joined here the day I decided I had to quit. I'll be 10 years without a drink in January. I've said before this site changed my life and saved my life. Whatever works, stick with it
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Old 10-23-2021, 05:59 AM
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If it works use it. I never did, i felt at the time it would embarrass me and my family. How the drunk mind work i suppose, its funny really when i drank people worried if i had to much. Now the question is why aren't you having a drink? Do you have a problem? How much did you drink?. I never tell them i just say it was to much for me, and makes me feel unwell. They always seem to need a number probably to compare to themselves.
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Old 11-27-2022, 01:38 AM
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Having gone to AA and then deciding it wasn't for me (I was full of judgement and thought the people were grim, the rooms were grim and I never really attempted to fully understand the steps), I went back 16 months ago. I'm really glad I did, in particular for the step 4 moral inventory which gave me an extremely thorough understanding of how I tick and how my ego negatively influences my approach to situations and wellbeing in general - being able to spot it and forgive myself for what is ultimately a default setting was / is immensely freeing. I am much better able to now spot when I am being unreasonable, obstinate, arrogant, full of self pity etc. By reflecting on it and assigning those feelings to the innate self centred fear that we all feel as humans, I can forgive myself for those impulses and work to override them - which takes the form of getting out of self and not thinking about me, me me - that might be calling another alcoholic, helping someone or just generally trying to do my best to do the next right thing. I also think it was a very constructive exercise to accept help from those who, on first appearances I would have judged / almost sneared at in my head, but who had an immense amount to teach me about myself and life. A bit of humility never went astray and I needed a hell of a lot of humility and a large dose of ego deflation.

Doing the steps is a great process and can only lead to greater happiness. It doesn't have to be full on and if someone is telling you off / telling you what to do in the fellowship, then that's probably a red flag. Most good sponsors will gently and kindly guide you. I chose a sponsor who was not a dictatorial guy in any way as I didn't need a "my way or the highway person but more of a supportive and compassionate confidant. Over 6 or 7 sessions we must have spent north of 20 hours going through my step 5 - he knows everything about me now and how I approach life - when I get off course with my thinking and I start to catastrophise he always brings me back to earth and helps me get over myself and to snap out of it. It was such a privilege being given that time by someone who not only didn't resent doing it, but was happy to do it as helping me helped keep him sober. Even if I had paid someone for those 20+ hours I would never have had the degree of engagement I got from my sponsor and for that I feel truly privileged. It was an emotional experience and I have found a friend for life. And I have also found the basis for lasting peace. I just need to maintain my emotional and spiritual condition by keeping myself in check and doing my best / being honest etc. Sometimes it is hard keeping myself in check, but if I put a genuine effort in I will always get back to peace. Hope that helps
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Old 11-28-2022, 07:48 AM
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I saw I'd posted in this thread earlier, turns out it was back in 2019 after my initial AA experience. Since then I've keep going back (hahaha that's what they say, see) now and then, first to an "agnostic" AA group in early 2020 which was interesting but I was going the other way, starting to believe in God myself after almost going full-octane Buddhist. Now I've got a more conventional group I'm comfortable with, I go every Wednesday at noon, very small meetings but really perfect for me. I'm never gonna get a sponsor or formally "work the steps" but they know that and I'm right on the big issues so they tolerate me ok hahaha. I like it and it has helped my rebuilding my atrophied social skills immensely. Also brought me closer to God, which is really the crux of the whole thing I'd say!

When I "share" (or as I tend to say, "I'm gonna talk now") in meetings, I always always always say I got sober at an online sobriety website. And inside I think, "Thank God I found SR and the great people there back in 2016!"
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Old 12-01-2022, 03:42 AM
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Thanks for your post Snazz, it was great to read.
I've quit two times, first in 1993 for 1Ĺ year and again in 2016 (I'll reach 6 years in a few days)
Both times I've used 12 steps communities to help me, in a very intense way in 1993 and almost nonexistent in 2016.
I was rather agnostic in 1993 but I am now completely atheist.
This interferes a lot with the notion of God which is found in almost all the steps.
I go to meetings from time to time to find people who are looking for sobriety like me.
I still have my sponsor from 1993 who has become my best friend over time.
He's been sober for 31 years and is an atheist like me, so we understand each other well.
My home base and therapy house has been SR for the past six years.
I am immensely grateful to everyone who has helped me over the years on SR.
Thanks friends
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Old 12-01-2022, 04:07 AM
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I began my recovery journey in a 28 rehab stay with
a six week outpatiant after care program followed by
many many AA meetings thru out the yrs., listening,
learning, absorbing and applying the knowledge of
addiction and a recovery program taught to me.

Sitting in meetings where I always felt a part of, amongst
many folks just like me, accepting me without questions,
gave me the strength, courage and willingness to stay
sober no matter what.

With changes in life I gravitated towards this place,
SR, to pass on, share my own experiences, strengths
and hopes of what my life was like before, during and
after alcohol so that those just beginning their recovery
journey know that they are not alone.

Recovery support, whether sitting in meetings or
at your computer connected online, both are important
in helping achieve and build a stronger recovery
foundation to live your life upon moving forward.

It works if you work it.
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Old 12-16-2022, 05:40 AM
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I attended AA for a few years. I went for support without working the steps. Eventually I decided AA wasn't for me and went for another recovery practice. AA works for some. Others like myself have found a secular approach to recover servers them as well

I say work a program of recovery that makes sense to you. Its working for me.
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Old 01-02-2023, 06:34 PM
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AA has been a wonderful option for my dad, and I have attended meetings with him for support, but not as a part of my personal recovery. I will never say a negative word about AA, as they have helped my dad through every relapse heís had and always welcomed him back with open arms.

There is a certain level of vulnerability that comes with AA, and I donít feel like Iím prepared for that.
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