Alternatives to AA?
Originally Posted by 3legacy
Dan:
Open up the Big Book you continue to post from and you will find out. ;-)
Open up the Big Book you continue to post from and you will find out. ;-)
Again, it's been more than a decade since I've seen a copy, but I believe there's also something in there about forcing yourself on someone who has shown disinterest. Look in "Working with Others."
Hi jmhs,
Mostly I use the program of SMART because it works best for me. I also peruse Women for Sobriety, which about empowerment vs. powerlessness. I use the fellowship of AA because that is the only face-to-face support group available in Hicksville. Many of the underlying principles work for me too but certainly not all of them.
You don't have to pick and choose one program if you don't want to. Feel free to be eclectic in creating your own recovery program.
I'm glad you are here.
Hugs,
Tracy
Mostly I use the program of SMART because it works best for me. I also peruse Women for Sobriety, which about empowerment vs. powerlessness. I use the fellowship of AA because that is the only face-to-face support group available in Hicksville. Many of the underlying principles work for me too but certainly not all of them.
You don't have to pick and choose one program if you don't want to. Feel free to be eclectic in creating your own recovery program.
I'm glad you are here.
Hugs,
Tracy
Hi jmhs,
Congratulations on wanting to give up totally. You don't need drugs in your life anymore for any reason. They're nothing but a drain. There are so many wonderful and worthy strategies for giving up drugs that to embrace one totally seems somewhat stunting to me. I feel like an octopus most of the time, with my arms reaching from all of the strategies all at one time and incorporating them into a basic step by step routine. It's not just about quitting. It's about changing our perceptions, exercise, diet, short and long-term goals. We are really fortunate to have so many opportunities and an online source to draw from. Thank goodness we can draw from all of the experience of those who have been clean for years and yet are reminded daily of where we once were when we just started our programs.
Sandy
Congratulations on wanting to give up totally. You don't need drugs in your life anymore for any reason. They're nothing but a drain. There are so many wonderful and worthy strategies for giving up drugs that to embrace one totally seems somewhat stunting to me. I feel like an octopus most of the time, with my arms reaching from all of the strategies all at one time and incorporating them into a basic step by step routine. It's not just about quitting. It's about changing our perceptions, exercise, diet, short and long-term goals. We are really fortunate to have so many opportunities and an online source to draw from. Thank goodness we can draw from all of the experience of those who have been clean for years and yet are reminded daily of where we once were when we just started our programs.
Sandy
2dayzmuse wrote:
Yes it is tiresome and troublesome, and I am glad that you said it.
And YES I feel the same way that you do...... real tired of it.
Patsy
I'm writing this with good intentions. : The your wrong I'm right arguement is getting tiresome and troublesome to me. Sorry...I just had to say it. Anyone else feel the same way?
And YES I feel the same way that you do...... real tired of it.
Patsy
Originally Posted by 2dayzmuse
I'm writing this with good intentions. The your wrong I'm right arguement is getting tiresome and troublesome to me. Sorry...I just had to say it. Anyone else feel the same way?
Tracy
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Originally Posted by Patsyd1
2dayzmuse wrote:
Yes it is tiresome and troublesome, and I am glad that you said it.
And YES I feel the same way that you do...... real tired of it.
Patsy
Yes it is tiresome and troublesome, and I am glad that you said it.
And YES I feel the same way that you do...... real tired of it.
Patsy
AA was being promoted here in a thread specifically asking about alternatives. Now that is tiresome.
Don S
Originally Posted by Don S
Well, there is an interesting thread going over in the AA forum under the title 'How Do I STAY Sober?' Questions about how to change thoughts, about beliefs and behavior--just the sort of thing behavioral approaches are great for. But I don't go over there and post about it, because that is an AA forum. I assume that the context of the questions is about how to make those changes within an AA program.
AA was being promoted here in a thread specifically asking about alternatives. Now that is tiresome.
Don S
AA was being promoted here in a thread specifically asking about alternatives. Now that is tiresome.
Don S
ALCOHOLISM.
I would suggest taking the focus OFF AA, AA members, the 12 Steps and put it on the only thing that you can do anything about..... you and your own attitude.
Perhaps its time Don to stop hunting for those AA members posts and take care of you and the derogatory remarks that are solely aimed at AA members, and what they share. Please allow people the dignity of not having to read comment after comment. People are going to do, what they are going to do, with or without your input on a constant basis directed at AA members. Now that would be nice.
This person asked about alternative programs, and they also said that they were confused about AA. So let go Don, as some have noted, its tiresome, very tiresome.
If you choose not to go to the AA thread, then thats your choice. We happen to have choices of our own to make, and we make them.
And thank you very much,
Patsy
If there is not an "either/or" assumption to begin with, there is no "You're wrong/I'm right" argument at all.
AA was being promoted here in a thread specifically asking about alternatives
Talia
Just to keep things in perspective.
The Alcoholism forum is a general forum where all issues and methods relating to alcoholism is open for discussion.
Don,Jmhs stated in his/her post that they were interested in alternatives to AA.
They also stated that they were....... "not sure about AA"........ indicating (to me anyway) that they may not be entirely opposed to AA.
It may be a little sensitive subject to try and "diagnose" another persons degree of alcoholism but I do not think 3legacys invitation to remain openminded about AA can be construed as "promoting AA" .
The Alcoholism forum is a general forum where all issues and methods relating to alcoholism is open for discussion.
Don,Jmhs stated in his/her post that they were interested in alternatives to AA.
They also stated that they were....... "not sure about AA"........ indicating (to me anyway) that they may not be entirely opposed to AA.
It may be a little sensitive subject to try and "diagnose" another persons degree of alcoholism but I do not think 3legacys invitation to remain openminded about AA can be construed as "promoting AA" .
Originally Posted by Peter
It may be a little sensitive subject to try and "diagnose" another persons degree of alcoholism but I do not think 3legacys invitation to remain openminded about AA can be construed as "promoting AA" .
I agree with you on the whole promotion thing. That tradition is about publicity (media). However, the Big Book is pretty clear about certain things. As I remember it (passages in the Big Book), when the request for alternatives was presented, AA members *should* have (according to their own Big Book) hushed up. What we saw instead was a criticism of other approaches. How was that OK, by AA standards (what was written and intended, not what is commonly practiced)?
Tracy
"I don't think it's "a little sensitive" to "diagnose" another person's degree of alcoholism in AA. As near as I can remember - it's a big, bad NO NO."
Tracy.
Perhaps it is.However I maintain the more conservative approach.
"I agree with you on the whole promotion thing. That tradition is about publicity (media). However, the Big Book is pretty clear about certain things. As I remember it (passages in the Big Book), when the request for alternatives was presented, AA members *should* have (according to their own Big Book) hushed up. What we saw instead was a criticism of other approaches. How was that OK, by AA standards (what was written and intended, not what is commonly practiced)?"
Tracy
Huh ?
Tracy.
Perhaps it is.However I maintain the more conservative approach.
"I agree with you on the whole promotion thing. That tradition is about publicity (media). However, the Big Book is pretty clear about certain things. As I remember it (passages in the Big Book), when the request for alternatives was presented, AA members *should* have (according to their own Big Book) hushed up. What we saw instead was a criticism of other approaches. How was that OK, by AA standards (what was written and intended, not what is commonly practiced)?"
Tracy
Huh ?
Originally Posted by Peter
"I agree with you on the whole promotion thing. That tradition is about publicity (media). However, the Big Book is pretty clear about certain things. As I remember it (passages in the Big Book), when the request for alternatives was presented, AA members *should* have (according to their own Big Book) hushed up. What we saw instead was a criticism of other approaches. How was that OK, by AA standards (what was written and intended, not what is commonly practiced)?"
Huh ?
Huh ?
Peter, I love your posts but I don't get what you don't get.
I would like to clarify but don't know where clarification is needed. How/Where does my response appear fuzzy to you? Consider me an idiot and please be specific (not kidding, I've no gift for subtle communication).
Tracy
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Originally Posted by Peter
Just to keep things in perspective.
The Alcoholism forum is a general forum where all issues and methods relating to alcoholism is open for discussion.
Don,Jmhs stated in his/her post that they were interested in alternatives to AA.
They also stated that they were....... "not sure about AA"........ indicating (to me anyway) that they may not be entirely opposed to AA.
It may be a little sensitive subject to try and "diagnose" another persons degree of alcoholism but I do not think 3legacys invitation to remain openminded about AA can be construed as "promoting AA" .
The Alcoholism forum is a general forum where all issues and methods relating to alcoholism is open for discussion.
Don,Jmhs stated in his/her post that they were interested in alternatives to AA.
They also stated that they were....... "not sure about AA"........ indicating (to me anyway) that they may not be entirely opposed to AA.
It may be a little sensitive subject to try and "diagnose" another persons degree of alcoholism but I do not think 3legacys invitation to remain openminded about AA can be construed as "promoting AA" .
Don
Originally Posted by Peter
"I don't think it's "a little sensitive" to "diagnose" another person's degree of alcoholism in AA. As near as I can remember - it's a big, bad NO NO."
Tracy.
Perhaps it is. However I maintain the more conservative approach.
Tracy.
Perhaps it is. However I maintain the more conservative approach.
Tracy
Hey, I just wanted to pop in and say that I really enjoy reading all of your posts but it's starting to look like some of you are LOOKING for these arguments. I really didn't see any problem with the little that AA was brought up earlier in this post. I would probably have done the same if AA was my recovery program. jmhs002 said they weren't sure how they felt about AA. A lot of other programs and helpful links were given along with some folks trying to discern what it was that jmhs was not liking about AA....I don't see a problem sorry.
I'm sorry if anyone is offended but I really hate seeing peoples threads hijacked again and again for the same argument....
I'm sorry if anyone is offended but I really hate seeing peoples threads hijacked again and again for the same argument....
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