Work performance meeting Tuesday
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Alaina,
I am just reading through this topic now and I see the meeting is over with and that you didn't sign anything. Hopefully you can still get union representation even if it seems unmendable, as you say.
What I want to say is about the depression and your father's death. I'm guessing that at least part of what you are going through is serious grief. It makes or worsens mental fog, mimics depression, depletes motivation, and a lot more. If you can find a free grief support group it might be helpful. I found it to be. Also there are a lot of online resources and books that can be supportive. Grief is a process, it takes time, and there are lots of adjustments everyone left behind has to make.
I lost a parent shortly after I began my sobriety. It took every ounce of everything I had to get myself to work each day and try to focus on the work. Most days I was at 60% of my usual capacity, max. Over time that improved.
You may indeed have depression that pre-existed, but anyone who has lost a parent is likely to have some level of grief reaction and unfortunately it can affect work. However it's temporary. I just think our world is a little cruel-hearted about it, assuming we take a week or two off then come back as if nothing happened. Hopefully the union will be on your side as regards this aspect.
Granted there are no doubt things you did to create the situation at work, whether that be from grief or other habits. Happened to me, too, but I'm working my way back slowly.
I am just reading through this topic now and I see the meeting is over with and that you didn't sign anything. Hopefully you can still get union representation even if it seems unmendable, as you say.
What I want to say is about the depression and your father's death. I'm guessing that at least part of what you are going through is serious grief. It makes or worsens mental fog, mimics depression, depletes motivation, and a lot more. If you can find a free grief support group it might be helpful. I found it to be. Also there are a lot of online resources and books that can be supportive. Grief is a process, it takes time, and there are lots of adjustments everyone left behind has to make.
I lost a parent shortly after I began my sobriety. It took every ounce of everything I had to get myself to work each day and try to focus on the work. Most days I was at 60% of my usual capacity, max. Over time that improved.
You may indeed have depression that pre-existed, but anyone who has lost a parent is likely to have some level of grief reaction and unfortunately it can affect work. However it's temporary. I just think our world is a little cruel-hearted about it, assuming we take a week or two off then come back as if nothing happened. Hopefully the union will be on your side as regards this aspect.
Granted there are no doubt things you did to create the situation at work, whether that be from grief or other habits. Happened to me, too, but I'm working my way back slowly.
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