vivid-red

I'm doing alright at the moment I drank a shitload the Tuesday before last....

so in the last 8 days i've only had 2 small bottles of beer and 1 glass of wine.

But I just can't commit to going tee total.

I plan on having maybe 4 cans of beer this Friday and that's it till next week.


I know you lot frown on a person with alcoholic tendencies trying to moderate their drinking instead of stopping completely but I'm doing my best.

suki44883

Go ahead and try to moderate. If it works, great! The only way you'll know is if you try. Keep in mind though, that most of us tried to moderate and it didn't work long term. The thing is, most people don't have to try to moderate. They can have a couple of drinks and walk away and not want more. If a person has to go to the trouble of limiting themselves or making plans on how much to drink, then they probably have a bigger problem than they are willing to admit.

TorontoGuy28

Alcoholism is progressive. Go ahead and drink, but from my personal experience - I could not moderate at the end...

For a while I stuck to 2-3 drinks each time I was out, within 2 months I was back to 2-3 day binges...

vivid-red

True,

I don't know what it is that makes me want to get drunk,
I've had mental problems in the past (schizophrenia) which is now controlled by medication.

It could be part of my mental illness that makes me want to drink..who knows.

ReadyAndAble

Good luck! If it doesn't work out, we're here for you!

suki44883

Maybe, but it could be because you are alcoholic. And, that's another thing. I've never known a doctor to say it's okay to drink alcohol while taking medication.

ZZworldontheweb

Yeah, might as well try it. You can always fall back on the proven methods if it fails.

julez

Medication and drinking, especially medication for mood disorders, is never good. People don't realize that this makes them react to alcohol in a totally different way.
It makes me worry alot about my daughter, who is at that age when drinking becomes something they are curious about. She takes a mood stabilizer and an anti depressant, and it makes the risk of her drinking even greater.
Be careful.

thisisme

"I know you lot frown on a person with alcoholic tendencies trying to moderate their drinking instead of stopping completely but I'm doing my best."

I have been sober for 5 years. I have been involved here and on many other boards during that time. I have NEVER seen an alcoholic moderate with success.
These boards contain thousands of un successful attempts at moderation.
Knowledge is power.
For me and many others, moderation is harder than abstinence.

Best.

artsoul

I think we all understand how scary it is to think about quitting entirely. I certainly tried to moderate, too, before realizing it wasn't going to work. I finally admitted to myself that I never really wanted to have just one or two like other people - so even when I successfully controlled my drinking, I was left feeling unsatisfied.

I wish you the best and hope you'll keep us updated on how things are going!

Kjell

Hi Hendrix-

We totally get it. I never really wanted to quit. I always wanted to control it, but failed repeatedly.

Some of those failures ended in disaster.

Try to be really honest with yourself here. How long have you been trying to congtrol your drinking. How long have you failed...?

Why do you think it's going to be different this time? Just b/c you want it to be, simply won't make it so.

I simply couldn't think out of my alcoholism. If you're an alcoholic, you'll probably be unable to as well.

We'll be here if you ever decide to come back.

Kjell

joedris

Hey, you want to drink, go ahead. As to the plan to moderate? Well, let us know how that works out for you.

Change4life

If any of us could control our drinking we wouldnt be having this conversation(debate) on whether or not we can. I am presently laughing at myself cause I am trying to moderate knowing it doesnt work, but I am an addict so I dont want to let go and I continue to lie to myself. Which in the end is only hurting me more

SSIL75

I did that for a while. It didn't make me happy. I was consumed with how much I'd had.. how much I'd have next. Misery.

Dee74

hey HS

if you're on meds for a mental condition, drinking is a bad idea, period - and there's no argument there.

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gravity

Before finally quitting for good, I moderated my drinking for 11 months. I was sooo proud of myself! Yay me! lol Truth is I just wanted to get hammered...

It finally caught up with me. December 15, 2007 - Planning to go out for a couple of drinks with my buddy, 60 hours and probably 60 drinks later (not sure, blacked out for most of it), woke up in that old familiar hell.

Yeah, I'm an alcoholic.

Do what you gotta do and I hope everything works out for you.

ru12

You might be able to moderate. Lots of people do. I could do it most of the time, but the times that I couldn't scared the hell out of me. I'd do stupid stuff that I would never do sober. Also, even when I could moderate successfully I usually wanted more. In the end, it was just easier for me not to start in the first place.

Mark75

IDK... From the sound of things at home... Maybe tee total is not such a bad idea...

CarolD

No you are not doing ok.....

http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...my-mother.html

Drinking is causeing this violance...IMO