New here and need support. Boyfriend going to recovery is leaving me
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Join Date: Jul 2014
Location: France
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Believe me 2 years when you have your whole life ahead of you is nothing, his not using because he can't right now, have you heard of alanon meetings ? they are for friends and partners and family of addicts, it might help you to go along to a meeting to meet like minded people
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I know it's hard and it hurts, but my suggestion is to listen to what he's saying. It's not what you want to hear, but it's what he's saying. Focus on your life and taking care of yourself. If it's meant to be, it will happen.
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Join Date: Nov 2016
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Tomb, I know you are very upset and that is completely normal. Take a few deep breaths, maybe get yourself a cup of coffee or tea.
Then I would recommend coming back to this thread and reading all the replies again. It is a LOT of information to take in all at once.
Addiction isn't logical, addicted people are not necessarily logical. Being off drugs for 2 days is nothing really (in terms of healing).
Then I would recommend coming back to this thread and reading all the replies again. It is a LOT of information to take in all at once.
Addiction isn't logical, addicted people are not necessarily logical. Being off drugs for 2 days is nothing really (in terms of healing).
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Join Date: Jan 2020
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Hi Tomb, Lot's of good advice here. I encourage you to let him go and find someone who doesn't need to be fixed. There are lots of fish in the sea and you are young and obviously very compassionate. If you plan on having babies someday, heck even if you don't, maybe look for someone who would be a good father, someone stable and good at providing. Passionate love rarely lasts in my experience, kind of like driving a Ferrari, fun for awhile, but a lot of expensive maintenance and not really any good for commuting or running errands. You know, stuff you have to do every day, not vacations. I know it hurts to lose a love for any reason, but believe me there is light at the end of the tunnel, thing is, you have to keep moving to get there.
Good luck!
Good luck!
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Join Date: Dec 2015
Location: NSW - Australia
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I'm trying to work out why you would want to be around such a drop kick?
Keep coming here to get the support you need to put him behind you.
He's a user in more ways than one.
You are compassionate, and he can pick it in you. Don't let him.
Walk, is what I reckon.
Keep coming here to get the support you need to put him behind you.
He's a user in more ways than one.
You are compassionate, and he can pick it in you. Don't let him.
Walk, is what I reckon.
Let him go.
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