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This might not be a helpful reply, but it’s a self perpetuating situation. I gave up alcohol a couple of years back and things somehow fell into place. I’m not Mr Charisma by any means, but my confidence grew, and I wad able to try new things and meet new people. The only trick I used to quit was to replace the time I spent drinking with another activity.
You’ve accepted you have these addiction problems, which is a good start as many don’t even make that first step. Get all the help you can, and I promise if you can quit all these addictions, life will be way better, and you’ll have a lot to offer.
You’ve accepted you have these addiction problems, which is a good start as many don’t even make that first step. Get all the help you can, and I promise if you can quit all these addictions, life will be way better, and you’ll have a lot to offer.
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Hodd makes a good point. It's a lot easier to get out of your own way once you're clean and sober. I can't claim all my problems went away and life was perfect. That's the point, life is never perfect. It's easier to deal with those problems effectively.
I hope you'll stick around here @lonelyfella. It's kind of a slow night tonite, there's usually more folks online! You will have to do the work on your own but it's amazing to have this forum as a resource! It has helped me so much, especially in those first few months where I was always pissed off and feeling sorry for myself.
I hope you'll stick around here @lonelyfella. It's kind of a slow night tonite, there's usually more folks online! You will have to do the work on your own but it's amazing to have this forum as a resource! It has helped me so much, especially in those first few months where I was always pissed off and feeling sorry for myself.
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Originally Posted by Hodd 
This might not be a helpful reply, but it’s a self perpetuating situation. I gave up alcohol a couple of years back and things somehow fell into place. I’m not Mr Charisma by any means, but my confidence grew, and I wad able to try new things and meet new people. The only trick I used to quit was to replace the time I spent drinking with another activity.
You’ve accepted you have these addiction problems, which is a good start as many don’t even make that first step. Get all the help you can, and I promise if you can quit all these addictions, life will be way better, and you’ll have a lot to offer.
You’ve accepted you have these addiction problems, which is a good start as many don’t even make that first step. Get all the help you can, and I promise if you can quit all these addictions, life will be way better, and you’ll have a lot to offer.
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Originally Posted by MythOfSisyphus
Hodd makes a good point. It's a lot easier to get out of your own way once you're clean and sober. I can't claim all my problems went away and life was perfect. That's the point, life is never perfect. It's easier to deal with those problems effectively.
I hope you'll stick around here @lonelyfella. It's kind of a slow night tonite, there's usually more folks online! You will have to do the work on your own but it's amazing to have this forum as a resource! It has helped me so much, especially in those first few months where I was always pissed off and feeling sorry for myself.
I hope you'll stick around here @lonelyfella. It's kind of a slow night tonite, there's usually more folks online! You will have to do the work on your own but it's amazing to have this forum as a resource! It has helped me so much, especially in those first few months where I was always pissed off and feeling sorry for myself.
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Being lonely is kind of a feedback loop. It's weird, but I'll get in a phase where I don't feel very social so I'll isolate, which in turn makes me even less social!
Do you have any hobbies? It might sound silly since I'm in my early 50s but I am a big table top RPG fan. Started playing D&D back in the late 70s. It's a good way to socialize but really it could be board games, a sport, a dance class, whatever. Do you have a church? I'm not religious but it's a way to meet people. AA has never been my thing but if you're having trouble feeling isolated maybe take in a meeting?
Do you have any hobbies? It might sound silly since I'm in my early 50s but I am a big table top RPG fan. Started playing D&D back in the late 70s. It's a good way to socialize but really it could be board games, a sport, a dance class, whatever. Do you have a church? I'm not religious but it's a way to meet people. AA has never been my thing but if you're having trouble feeling isolated maybe take in a meeting?
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I never got into drugs (had enough issues with alcohol), but alcohol and presumably drugs do play havoc with your mental health. Thankfully it’s perfectly normal now to be concerned or ask for help on mental health, and anyone should feel free to reach out for help.
But I’ll say again, you mightn’t realise it, but you have made the first step. I know a load of people whose life revolves around alcohol and who’d become a gibbering wreck if beer was absent for a night! These people think they’re OK, but they’re addicted big time. You’re already one step ahead.
Have you looked for any addiction help from your doctor or another agency?
But I’ll say again, you mightn’t realise it, but you have made the first step. I know a load of people whose life revolves around alcohol and who’d become a gibbering wreck if beer was absent for a night! These people think they’re OK, but they’re addicted big time. You’re already one step ahead.
Have you looked for any addiction help from your doctor or another agency?
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Originally Posted by MythOfSisyphus
Being lonely is kind of a feedback loop. It's weird, but I'll get in a phase where I don't feel very social so I'll isolate, which in turn makes me even less social! Do you have any hobbies? It might sound silly since I'm in my early 50s but I am a big table top RPG fan. Started playing D&D back in the late 70s. It's a good way to socialize but really it could be board games, a sport, a dance class, whatever. Do you have a church? I'm not religious but it's a way to meet people. AA has never been my thing but if you're having trouble feeling isolated maybe take in a meeting?
Do you have any hobbies? It might sound silly since I'm in my early 50s but I am a big table top RPG fan. Started playing D&D back in the late 70s. It's a good way to socialize but really it could be board games, a sport, a dance class, whatever. Do you have a church? I'm not religious but it's a way to meet people. AA has never been my thing but if you're having trouble feeling isolated maybe take in a meeting?oh and i am 47 years young.........hahahha
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When you first quit drinking clubs might be kind of dangerous. But there's bound to be an activity that you enjoy. You might not enjoy it much at first- everything sucks when you first quit! You have to fake it til you make it.
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Originally Posted by Hodd
I never got into drugs (had enough issues with alcohol), but alcohol and presumably drugs do play havoc with your mental health. Thankfully it’s perfectly normal now to be concerned or ask for help on mental health, and anyone should feel free to reach out for help.
But I’ll say again, you mightn’t realise it, but you have made the first step. I know a load of people whose life revolves around alcohol and who’d become a gibbering wreck if beer was absent for a night! These people think they’re OK, but they’re addicted big time. You’re already one step ahead.
Have you looked for any addiction help from your doctor or another agency?
But I’ll say again, you mightn’t realise it, but you have made the first step. I know a load of people whose life revolves around alcohol and who’d become a gibbering wreck if beer was absent for a night! These people think they’re OK, but they’re addicted big time. You’re already one step ahead.
Have you looked for any addiction help from your doctor or another agency?
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Originally Posted by MythOfSisyphus
When you first quit drinking clubs might be kind of dangerous. But there's bound to be an activity that you enjoy. You might not enjoy it much at first- everything sucks when you first quit! You have to fake it til you make it.
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Originally Posted by Hodd
A music person too! Come on, there are so many opportunities to get out there for musically-minded people! Bear in mind I’m as musical as a lamppost.
47? I turned things around at 49. Go for it.
47? I turned things around at 49. Go for it.
and thank you very much!
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One of the great things about SR is that everyone here has faced the same kinds of struggles. It's good to know that whatever you're dealing with you're not the only one. This place is kind of a voice in the wilderness, a candle in the window reminding you there's a way home to where you need to go.
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Originally Posted by MythOfSisyphus
One of the great things about SR is that everyone here has faced the same kinds of struggles. It's good to know that whatever you're dealing with you're not the only one. This place is kind of a voice in the wilderness, a candle in the window reminding you there's a way home to where you need to go.
i know its just mind over matter....if i can get through this first day....i am sure it will get easier..
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Again, much of the time it's a bit more active! It's about 3:00 am for me here in the USA but I'm a night owl. I'm on work comp so I'm just putzing around on the computer tonite! Being lonely can suck- it's like being the only man on the moon sometimes. But it will get better, just hang in there.
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yeah... i never dreamed i would ever be lonely....i have had quite a few life lessons lately, its amazing how fragile your (our) exsistance is....
it happened so fast (in my messed up head) then everything was well gone.....friends, family, partner, job, house, cars and the list goes on.........
i know its going to cause me nothing but problems....but as soon as i get money...boom.... ding ding....round 756354352 hahahah
it happened so fast (in my messed up head) then everything was well gone.....friends, family, partner, job, house, cars and the list goes on.........
i know its going to cause me nothing but problems....but as soon as i get money...boom.... ding ding....round 756354352 hahahah
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