fullyloved32

The person who care the most for me just left me, unexpectedly, and I miss her so much, I was trying to stay sober but once she left all I wanted was to drink.

C0ntr0ls

Why did she leave?

Wastinglife

I know how you feel my friend. My alcoholism always seems to win out in all my relationships.

aasharon90

Thru the program of recovery I learned many who lost
just about everything eventually had those people, places
and things restored back to them over time.

Actions speak louder than word many times and seeing these
actions has made a believer of most too.

Getting into action by learning how to remain sober has
to be top priority because if not, then many of those precious
people, places and things we call gifts in life, will be long
gone and never replaced.

Grab a hold of many recovery lifelines and tools as you
can learning each day to achieve continuous sobriety and
success in many areas of your own personal life.

Anna

I'm sorry this happened. You feel lost, understandably, but you can use this moment to show yourself that you can stay sober. You will get through this, and you will thrive.

Sober45

I've been through some rough times since I stopped drinking in 2020. The way I look at it now is each event is a test. And with each test I pass, I become stronger. I'm at the point now where it doesn't come to me to drink in times of stress. Alcohol only works to extend the misery! Sure, you'll get your quick fix but it does not compare to living on solid sober ground.

My #1 rule is to NEVER EVER romanticize alcohol. EVERY relapse is proceeded by thoughts of drinking (IMO). What you are going through will pass with time and new things will come in, if you stay sober.

Keep going. You will get your wins at the end of the day. The biggest win for me came about 2 months ago but I had to punch in over a year sober to get my reward. It was so worth it.

Sending comforting vibes your way

Hevyn

I'm sorry for the painful time you're going through. I'm glad you 're here to talk things over, fullyloved.

Dee74

welcome fullyloved

I lost years drinking over something like this.
Be smarter than me.

Drinking won't make you feel better - you'll feel worse - and drinking will not bring your loved one back - it will probably drive them further away.

Pick yourself up and take care of yourself.

D

Dee74

Double post.

Thesaviour

Ok listen.....this sucks because you have (at least) a DOUBLE WHAMMY. You have to deal with a BREAKUP while you have to deal with an ADDICTION. Know the nature of the beast you are dealing with and I implore you to be empathic with yourself.

I'm writing from you not from somebody who was in your shoes a year ago (13 months) and I STILL HAVE NOT HEALED. The reason I have not healed was at my own hands:

I stayed in contact with her and
I stated floating in and out of my addictions.

I did go six months teetotal AND I WAS IN THE PROCESS OF HEALING and then I decided to dabble with the demons again AND IT SET ME RIGHT BACK TO PAIN AND HURT.

Save yourself the healing time by putting an end to your addiction. FEEL THE PAIN DON'T DENY IT. It's a process. ALCOHOL DID NOT ALLOW ME TO HEAL AND MADE MY PAIN WAY WORSE AND UNBEARABLE TO THE POINT I HAD A NOOSE AROUND MY NECK. God wouldn't let me do it.

What's my plan? Reflecting on past success I know I must go into this with the following mindset: This is an opportunity for growth and a new adventure.

I must envision a new future and do everything TODAY to bring me to that future. Letting go of the past requires sacfrifice. We have to be men and let go of the false refuge. FEEL THE PAIN AND WORK THROUGH IT.

I cannot stay in contact with the girl.
I cannot cling to alcohol or drugs.

and I know this will get me through with time.

Don't lose hope.

Believe you will get through and you will.

(by the way I realized I went into codependent tendencies with her. It's a sick state. Better to be independent. The only way is no contact and move forward)