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Join Date: May 2012
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hm...you got me thinking now, with your reply...when i think of "ready", i wasn't vthinking of it in terms of preparations such as completing certain things prior to quitting.
that hadn't occurred to me in that sense.
i mean it in the sense of absolute desperation i felt to be rid of this millstone around my neck and soul.
i do understand the "i need to do a, b and c first, as i did that many times, including the setting of dates.
ultimately, i quit three weeks before yet one more date i had set.
that hadn't occurred to me in that sense.
i mean it in the sense of absolute desperation i felt to be rid of this millstone around my neck and soul.
i do understand the "i need to do a, b and c first, as i did that many times, including the setting of dates.
ultimately, i quit three weeks before yet one more date i had set.
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Join Date: Jan 2019
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You may regret not quitting today. That one last drink could be......Waiting until the new year is just another excuse. Believe me, I have said all of them. I have promised myself all of them. I will quit tomorrow or the next day or next week. It never gets easier. Stay home alone and do something positive for yourself. Choose Life. Because alcohol will poison you, it will kill you
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Originally Posted by beaver08 
Hi fini, I think you are right - I am actually not ready. I think I have a lot more preparing to do before I am ready. I want to get to that place though. I need to finish 'The Naked Mind' as my first step.
You really are not going to miss out on anything in regards to Christmas and New Years.
Its going to be the same old same old. I was in Groundhogs Day for what seemed like years until ONE day I had really had enough. We each have our moment we say "I am done. Day 1"
Keep posting and processing. We love a good "process" around here.
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Originally Posted by beaver08
Wow, thank you for those words FreeOwl. I must admit, part of me feels pretty scared to embrace sobriety. It's such a huge part of my life. I don't know where the enjoyment of alcohol stopped and it became a need.
I was scared, too.
My fear kept me from living a better life. It kept me deluded. It kept me stuck.
My fear of 'not having fun' or 'not being cool' or being without my addiction kept me from fully being me and it led me to lots of awful outcomes in my life.
Eventually, the actual pain of my life outweighed the fear and I chose to choose sobriety.
It was ten million percent worth it.
I don't miss alcohol. At all.
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there's an old proverb that fits here
honestly you can prepare yourself to quit for years - and it will still be tough to quit. It always is.
You can prepare for years - and still never really feel 'ready'.
Don't let apprehension rule.
Take the leap - today.
It will be OK - we're all testament to that
honestly you can prepare yourself to quit for years - and it will still be tough to quit. It always is.
You can prepare for years - and still never really feel 'ready'.
Don't let apprehension rule.
Take the leap - today.
It will be OK - we're all testament to that
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Join Date: Jul 2020
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Happy New Year everyone!
So I managed a couple of AF days between Christmas and New Year and been sober from the 1st Jan. I have bee feeling pretty tired and had a constant headache but nothing that was debilitating. Until tonight! My head is really hurting and I am feeling a bit sick! Is this normal? How do I ride it through?
Thank you!
So I managed a couple of AF days between Christmas and New Year and been sober from the 1st Jan. I have bee feeling pretty tired and had a constant headache but nothing that was debilitating. Until tonight! My head is really hurting and I am feeling a bit sick! Is this normal? How do I ride it through?
Thank you!
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Good job Beaver! 4-5 days is the peak of physical withdrawal usually.. you're almost through it!
Assuming you didn't quit drinking coffee or something, headaches are fairly common the first week or so.
Take an Advil maybe? If it is really severe of course check with a doctor.
Assuming you didn't quit drinking coffee or something, headaches are fairly common the first week or so.
Take an Advil maybe? If it is really severe of course check with a doctor.
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Congrats on your new year's sobriety Beaver. Headaches and feeling sick can have a wide range of causes, if you don't think it's something that will pass on it's own maybe give your doctor a call? Getting rest, eating well, drinking plenty of water and maybe getting out for some fresh air/taking a walk never hurts either.
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Originally Posted by advbike
Good job Beaver! 4-5 days is the peak of physical withdrawal usually.. you're almost through it!
Assuming you didn't quit drinking coffee or something, headaches are fairly common the first week or so.
Take an Advil maybe? If it is really severe of course check with a doctor.
Assuming you didn't quit drinking coffee or something, headaches are fairly common the first week or so.
Take an Advil maybe? If it is really severe of course check with a doctor.
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Join Date: Jul 2020
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Originally Posted by ScottFromWI
Congrats on your new year's sobriety Beaver. Headaches and feeling sick can have a wide range of causes, if you don't think it's something that will pass on it's own maybe give your doctor a call? Getting rest, eating well, drinking plenty of water and maybe getting out for some fresh air/taking a walk never hurts either.
I am hoping this will pass and don't think I am at the stay to seek medical attention yet and hopefully won't be! I doubt it will be any other bug as havent really been out and about anywhere. I have started healthy eating too since the first so maybe its a bit of junk food withdrawal too!
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Good morning from australia, beaver. 🐨 I don't know a lot about beavers, but do know they are diligent and build good dams. Hope you've built a good one between you and the grog. It's so worth it beaver.
Everyone has said most of what needs to be said. All I can say now, at 12 months sober is, "why on earth did I do that to myself?! I now know I didn't deserve the big self destruct. None of us do.
Keep building those days beaver.
Everyone has said most of what needs to be said. All I can say now, at 12 months sober is, "why on earth did I do that to myself?! I now know I didn't deserve the big self destruct. None of us do.
Keep building those days beaver.
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Originally Posted by Steely
Good morning from australia, beaver. 🐨 I don't know a lot about beavers, but do know they are diligent and build good dams. Hope you've built a good one between you and the grog. It's so worth it beaver.
Everyone has said most of what needs to be said. All I can say now, at 12 months sober is, "why on earth did I do that to myself?! I now know I didn't deserve the big self destruct. None of us do.
Keep building those days beaver.
Everyone has said most of what needs to be said. All I can say now, at 12 months sober is, "why on earth did I do that to myself?! I now know I didn't deserve the big self destruct. None of us do.
Keep building those days beaver.
Congratulations on your 12 months!
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Originally Posted by RAL
Congrats on your 5 days sober 
It's normal to feel as you feel. Another couple of days and hopefully you'; start to feel loads better, stay hydrated, rest and eat well.
It's normal to feel as you feel. Another couple of days and hopefully you'; start to feel loads better, stay hydrated, rest and eat well.
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