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Originally Posted by Steely 
Do your employers know you were intoxed anxiousrock?
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Hello,
As someone who deals with anxiety, I definitely understand how you feel. A few things I’ve learned about anxiety first hand:
-It lessens when you get sober, you may feel slightly more anxious in those early days, but it will substantially lesson once you’ve been sober for a bit.
-The wondering and waiting is the worst part of anxiety, and you cannot change the outcome of your calls today, so worrying about them won’t help. Try to focus on what you can control today.
Mindfulness is an important part of my recovery, it is also very helpful for anxiety. Learning to remain focused in the present moment, this is NOT easy, and I still work on it, but it really helps.
Get up and go to work tomorrow sober, make one positive choice at a time. You can do this!
As someone who deals with anxiety, I definitely understand how you feel. A few things I’ve learned about anxiety first hand:
-It lessens when you get sober, you may feel slightly more anxious in those early days, but it will substantially lesson once you’ve been sober for a bit.
-The wondering and waiting is the worst part of anxiety, and you cannot change the outcome of your calls today, so worrying about them won’t help. Try to focus on what you can control today.
Mindfulness is an important part of my recovery, it is also very helpful for anxiety. Learning to remain focused in the present moment, this is NOT easy, and I still work on it, but it really helps.
Get up and go to work tomorrow sober, make one positive choice at a time. You can do this!
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Originally Posted by Delilah1
Hello,
As someone who deals with anxiety, I definitely understand how you feel. A few things I’ve learned about anxiety first hand:
-It lessens when you get sober, you may feel slightly more anxious in those early days, but it will substantially lesson once you’ve been sober for a bit.
-The wondering and waiting is the worst part of anxiety, and you cannot change the outcome of your calls today, so worrying about them won’t help. Try to focus on what you can control today.
Mindfulness is an important part of my recovery, it is also very helpful for anxiety. Learning to remain focused in the present moment, this is NOT easy, and I still work on it, but it really helps.
Get up and go to work tomorrow sober, make one positive choice at a time. You can do this!
As someone who deals with anxiety, I definitely understand how you feel. A few things I’ve learned about anxiety first hand:
-It lessens when you get sober, you may feel slightly more anxious in those early days, but it will substantially lesson once you’ve been sober for a bit.
-The wondering and waiting is the worst part of anxiety, and you cannot change the outcome of your calls today, so worrying about them won’t help. Try to focus on what you can control today.
Mindfulness is an important part of my recovery, it is also very helpful for anxiety. Learning to remain focused in the present moment, this is NOT easy, and I still work on it, but it really helps.
Get up and go to work tomorrow sober, make one positive choice at a time. You can do this!
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Your anxiety is heightened because of the alcohol leaving your system. I am only day 6 so just a few days ago, I was up all night having anxiety attacks and trying to piece together muddled memories. I have about a 2 week gap in memory. Just little snippets that I don't really know when or if they happened. If you ride this out without drinking, you will be back to your normal self in a few days trust me!
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Originally Posted by Wastinglife
Your anxiety is heightened because of the alcohol leaving your system. I am only day 6 so just a few days ago, I was up all night having anxiety attacks and trying to piece together muddled memories. I have about a 2 week gap in memory. Just little snippets that I don't really know when or if they happened. If you ride this out without drinking, you will be back to your normal self in a few days trust me!
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Originally Posted by Dee74
Regardless of whether you screwed up or not, there's nothing you can do about last night AR.
I really think a better focus would be on making sure it never happens again?
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I really think a better focus would be on making sure it never happens again?
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Originally Posted by anxiousrock
I just did this to myself 3 weeks ago. I hate myself, guys. I hate who and what I am.
It's time to start afresh.
I'll just be echoing other people's post but the time for action is now, put down the alcohol, check out Dee's link for recovery plans and put something in place today - the clarity you'll receive after the initial hurdles is nothing short of miraculous
Sending you giod thoughts and blessings ❤️🙏
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Originally Posted by Billymacintosh
You don't deserve this hate and to quote one of my favourite rehab films, 'this is not who you are, these are just things you've done'
It's time to start afresh.
I'll just be echoing other people's post but the time for action is now, put down the alcohol, check out Dee's link for recovery plans and put something in place today - the clarity you'll receive after the initial hurdles is nothing short of miraculous
Sending you giod thoughts and blessings ❤️🙏
It's time to start afresh.
I'll just be echoing other people's post but the time for action is now, put down the alcohol, check out Dee's link for recovery plans and put something in place today - the clarity you'll receive after the initial hurdles is nothing short of miraculous
Sending you giod thoughts and blessings ❤️🙏
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Originally Posted by anxiousrock
alcohol is down for a while now. One bottle is my limit and that is what I had. Unfortunately i worked after that and my memory of it isn't good. I don't know what I did but I know that I messed up a lot.
As Dee said though, there is nothing you can do about it if you did. You may need to do some reparation in places and potentially face some music but the main focus MUST be what are you putting in place to make this the first day if your new life
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So first of all, I want to say that I am sorry that this is happening to you right now, and I know the feeling of drinking and sending weird or inappropriate texts and emails, including to a professor of mine, and just some to less important acquaintances that were complete nonsense fiction. I think many of us relate to doing things like this when drinking. In fact one of my largest sources of regret is my maladaptive social behavior while drinking.
I was very concerned reading your recent threads and read a few more...and I found posts saying that you work 7 days a week???
No wonder you were trying to work while you were black out drunk and making calls when you weren't even on shift. You worked while you were drunk, well congratulations on your tenacity, but I just want to make a gentle suggestion that maybe ...just maybe...losing this second job you have on the weekend wouldn't be such a bad idea for your overall mental health, and for your sobriety.
I was very concerned reading your recent threads and read a few more...and I found posts saying that you work 7 days a week???
No wonder you were trying to work while you were black out drunk and making calls when you weren't even on shift. You worked while you were drunk, well congratulations on your tenacity, but I just want to make a gentle suggestion that maybe ...just maybe...losing this second job you have on the weekend wouldn't be such a bad idea for your overall mental health, and for your sobriety.
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Originally Posted by BeckoningCat
So first of all, I want to say that I am sorry that this is happening to you right now, and I know the feeling of drinking and sending weird or inappropriate texts and emails, including to a professor of mine, and just some to less important acquaintances that were complete nonsense fiction. I think many of us relate to doing things like this when drinking. In fact one of my largest sources of regret is my maladaptive social behavior while drinking.
I was very concerned reading your recent threads and read a few more...and I found posts saying that you work 7 days a week???
No wonder you were trying to work while you were black out drunk and making calls when you weren't even on shift. You worked while you were drunk, well congratulations on your tenacity, but I just want to make a gentle suggestion that maybe ...just maybe...losing this second job you have on the weekend wouldn't be such a bad idea for your overall mental health, and for your sobriety.
I was very concerned reading your recent threads and read a few more...and I found posts saying that you work 7 days a week???
No wonder you were trying to work while you were black out drunk and making calls when you weren't even on shift. You worked while you were drunk, well congratulations on your tenacity, but I just want to make a gentle suggestion that maybe ...just maybe...losing this second job you have on the weekend wouldn't be such a bad idea for your overall mental health, and for your sobriety.
like I always do.
I don't deserve my jobs anyways.
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Originally Posted by anxiousrock
I know you're right. I took the job to begin with to keep me from drinking and it was working but now....with what is going on in the world I had to drink. Or I thought I did. And of course I drank all night and morning until I finished the bottle.
like I always do.
I don't deserve my jobs anyways.
like I always do.
I don't deserve my jobs anyways.
I know we are all different, and some people thrive under structure and schedules (I don't, personally) but I thought maybe it would help your recovery to be less anxious about a job that you probably are being harmed by anyway, since you don't have days off just to be you.
I know I would want to escape. But then again I know for some people work is an escape to them.
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I’m so sorry you’re deep in the **** right now. I’m not yet to 30 days but I can share that my withdrawal was horrible. I had just come off a huge bender and was paranoid, anxious AF, crying constantly, couldn’t leave the house, catastrophizing etc. I ruined some really important relationships and made potentially long-ranging life choices while on the aforementioned bender and still feel bad about it (and have an anxiety disorder or two anyway) but someone here told me that since I can’t undo it, I can at least use it to catapult myself into recovery and for whatever reason that felt really helpful to me.
It really, really sucks. And I’m sorry again. I just hate to hear folks’ narratives when they center themselves as a awful pieces of **** because it is very rarely true. If you can, give yourself some grace because you deserve it.
It really, really sucks. And I’m sorry again. I just hate to hear folks’ narratives when they center themselves as a awful pieces of **** because it is very rarely true. If you can, give yourself some grace because you deserve it.
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