I'm Gonna Be Sober
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Make a plan and stick to it! 
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Join Date: Oct 2013
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So what will you do to break your cycle of drink, feel sorry for yourself, sober up, feel remorse until the next drinking cycle?
I did something similar and it can go on for decades, not just years or months.
You can quit for good, but you need a meaningful plan to stay sober, to get emotional support, and to take action every day towards recovery—even when you feel sad or hopeless.
That’s when sticking to the changes becomes most important of all to break the pattern.
You can do it, and over time everything will improve.
I did something similar and it can go on for decades, not just years or months.
You can quit for good, but you need a meaningful plan to stay sober, to get emotional support, and to take action every day towards recovery—even when you feel sad or hopeless.
That’s when sticking to the changes becomes most important of all to break the pattern.
You can do it, and over time everything will improve.
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Join Date: Aug 2015
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Glad to hear it and you know my next question is just what the others asked: what will you do this time? Many people who "do" AA realize that when they really want to be sober for good, they have to truly DO it. Others who use different paths seem to share the same.
Up to you.
Up to you.
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Join Date: Aug 2007
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That's how I felt, too. In the end, each time it was in my system I never knew what would happen. I still can't believe how it altered my personality and behavior. We're with you, ThatWas. There is no doubt you can get free.
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Join Date: Jan 2011
Location: Warwick RI
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Originally Posted by ThatWasTheOldMe 
I have no motivation.
I have to drag myself to work.
I have no desire to do anything but sleep.
I've been sober since Monday - but what does that really matter when I'm miserable all the time anyway?
I have to drag myself to work.
I have no desire to do anything but sleep.
I've been sober since Monday - but what does that really matter when I'm miserable all the time anyway?
I just went 3 weeks and felt amazing in the mornings and nights..just feeling awake, present, able to go to the store, eat food, dress better, put on makeup better, clean the house better..I felt human and normal.
And then I drank Sunday...and FELT MISERABLE...Mon, Tues and today I am finally coming back to almost feeling human again....the roles will reverse if you give not drinking more time.
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Join Date: Aug 2017
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It matters because it's an accomplishment. If you're already feeling miserable, you don't also need to feel you're repeatedly making an idiot of yourself (as you said in your OP) on top of that and have that particular brand of shame added to the mix. So you've taken one negative thing off the table.
Have you taken any steps to deal with what seems to be depression? Investigated some doctors in your area?
Have you taken any steps to deal with what seems to be depression? Investigated some doctors in your area?
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Join Date: Jul 2012
Location: Baltimore, Maryland
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unfortunately, it seems to take more than a few days or a few weeks of dry time to start feeling better.
A couple of months in, I could easily sleep away the better part of every day, I'm irritable as hell at work, and generally feel unmoored. I've decided it doesn't matter right now what the point is. Maybe the point is to live through this discomfort and then see what's on the other side of it.
Flip it, maybe. What's the point in drinking when it doesn't make anything actually get better? For me, it just stops time temporarily, then stretches out into days or months of the painful drudgery of maintenance drinking.
A couple of months in, I could easily sleep away the better part of every day, I'm irritable as hell at work, and generally feel unmoored. I've decided it doesn't matter right now what the point is. Maybe the point is to live through this discomfort and then see what's on the other side of it.
Flip it, maybe. What's the point in drinking when it doesn't make anything actually get better? For me, it just stops time temporarily, then stretches out into days or months of the painful drudgery of maintenance drinking.
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Join Date: Feb 2016
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Oh yes, Obladi, maintenance drinking to keep daily withdrawals at bay, what drudgery. I’ve come to see alcohol as an utterly inadequate attempt to turn thoughts off. It does, temporarily. But it’s akin to stopping the tape (wow that’s an old reference) and when the alcohol wears off, the paused tape begins playing again, only there’s usually more bad stuff added to it, as a consequence of drinking!
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Join Date: Oct 2013
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You know what happens when you drink
You’ve never given sobriety or extended recovery a fighting chance.
All of us are telling you it gets better but you have to keep going and not just give up.
Long term gain for short term pain. . .
You’ve never given sobriety or extended recovery a fighting chance.
All of us are telling you it gets better but you have to keep going and not just give up.
Long term gain for short term pain. . .
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Join Date: Aug 2016
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It's just stressful on me to constantly work a job that I just don't enjoy. And then I'm always out of it so my coworkers think I'm a moron. I just wish I would have never had a drink in the first place and I'd probably still have my engineering career - and I wouldn't have pushed all my friends away with the active alcoholism.
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