Trying to get sober in secret
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Hi LouLou,
Day 4, great work! I'm on day 5, and notice that I'm not experiencing cravings, as I always do. I think my doing the keto diet is lessening my pre diabetes symptoms, and so the cravings are absent. With that in mind, you can say the likely truth that you are avoiding diabetes. Just a thought.
We're with you!!
Day 4, great work! I'm on day 5, and notice that I'm not experiencing cravings, as I always do. I think my doing the keto diet is lessening my pre diabetes symptoms, and so the cravings are absent. With that in mind, you can say the likely truth that you are avoiding diabetes. Just a thought.
We're with you!!
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Originally Posted by Milliesgone 
Im doing ok but it's really weekends for me that are a problem. I'm feeling positive though and looking forward to saving a huge amount of calories and cash 
Are you in the UK?
Are you in the UK?
Yes im in the UK. And in total agreement - weekends are very hard as they are so strongly associated with letting go and doing what you want. But accomplishing my first day sober on a Saturday was very encouraging so I’m sure you must feel the same. I’m finding that reading is helping enormously to put me in the right frame of mind. I’ve just finished ‘Blackout’ and before that I read ‘the unexpected joy of being sober’. I love reading but never bothered for years as I was too drunk and would never remember anything I had read! This site has also been amazing to have personal support. I really do thank everyone who has replied to me. Keep in touch Millie - would be great to see how you are getting on as we are on a similar timeframe
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Originally Posted by RobinPeaceful
Hi LouLou,
Day 4, great work! I'm on day 5, and notice that I'm not experiencing cravings, as I always do. I think my doing the keto diet is lessening my pre diabetes symptoms, and so the cravings are absent. With that in mind, you can say the likely truth that you are avoiding diabetes. Just a thought.
We're with you!!
Day 4, great work! I'm on day 5, and notice that I'm not experiencing cravings, as I always do. I think my doing the keto diet is lessening my pre diabetes symptoms, and so the cravings are absent. With that in mind, you can say the likely truth that you are avoiding diabetes. Just a thought.
We're with you!!
As with Millie, we are on a similar timeframe so would be great to know how you are getting on. It’s so wonderful to have encouragement here from both people who have just embarked on sobriety and also those who are a far way in and can advise on the pitfalls. Thaw fact that there is so much encouragement from experienced people speaks volumes about the rewards by carrying on. Thank you all so much
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Unfortunately my first Saturday I was extremely unwell with anxiety so passed without me knowing lol.
I will be looking for those books in Audible tomorrow I think as I can listen to it at work.
I have to say this afternoon I have found myself thinking about wine, so I'm forcing myself to go to an exercise class tonight instead of sitting and watching TV.
It is great having people around that totally get it
I will be looking for those books in Audible tomorrow I think as I can listen to it at work.
I have to say this afternoon I have found myself thinking about wine, so I'm forcing myself to go to an exercise class tonight instead of sitting and watching TV.
It is great having people around that totally get it
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Originally Posted by Milliesgone
Unfortunately my first Saturday I was extremely unwell with anxiety so passed without me knowing lol.
I will be looking for those books in Audible tomorrow I think as I can listen to it at work.
I have to say this afternoon I have found myself thinking about wine, so I'm forcing myself to go to an exercise class tonight instead of sitting and watching TV.
It is great having people around that totally get it
I will be looking for those books in Audible tomorrow I think as I can listen to it at work.
I have to say this afternoon I have found myself thinking about wine, so I'm forcing myself to go to an exercise class tonight instead of sitting and watching TV.
It is great having people around that totally get it
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Originally Posted by Loulou30
Well done you!! I’ve also been thinking about it today now that I’m feeling a bit better physically. Keep wondering whether maybe I can cut down and just have the odd one. Must remember the reason I’m doing this. Husband just said to me “I’m going to the shop. Do you want a bottle of wine for tonight?” Can’t believe I said no. I know that if I even have one glass i’ll go back to the shop later to buy another and end up drinking two bottles.
I was completely powerless over my addiction to alcohol. I would swear off if it. I am never touching it again! And that evening, or the next day, sometimes I would make it to the next week(!) I would end up with a glass in my hand. Because i had no defense against that first drink. My willpower only lasted so long until I caved in. And once the first drink was in me, the phenomenon of craving kicked in and I could not stop. 1 was too many. 10 was not enough.
Im my experience I had to tell the people around me that I was quitting drinking. I had to because it was going to kill me. To be honest, the closet people to me knew I had a problem anyway and were relieved when I said it but I HAD to I could not have done it on my own. Then I had to find a defence against that first drink. There are many ways, we are all different here but I went to AA , I prayed when the cravings came, I prayed to a power greater than me to not pick up a drink. Then I contacted other alcoholics or went to an AA meeting which took the power out of the drinking thoughts. Left too long in your head it will become an obsession and you will end up picking up.
You have to do whatever it takes hon. It is the only way.
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Welldone on saying no. Maybe you could tell him you are taking a break from it. My partner has disposed of the wine I bought at the weekend. He doesn't drink at all so that's easier. I've also told my parents I'm stopping for a while. Everyone is bring really supportive so far.
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I tried a lot of times to stop in secret.
that never worked out for me.
i needed to acknowledge to everyone around me that I was choosing to live in sobriety and I needed to embrace the support of others in sobriety.
the secret attempts were miserable, demoralizing, confusing and sometimes even scary. I was all alone.
im glad I gave up secrecy.
publicly choosing sobriety for over five years has worked out a million times better.
that never worked out for me.
i needed to acknowledge to everyone around me that I was choosing to live in sobriety and I needed to embrace the support of others in sobriety.
the secret attempts were miserable, demoralizing, confusing and sometimes even scary. I was all alone.
im glad I gave up secrecy.
publicly choosing sobriety for over five years has worked out a million times better.
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Originally Posted by FreeOwl
I tried a lot of times to stop in secret.
that never worked out for me.
i needed to acknowledge to everyone around me that I was choosing to live in sobriety and I needed to embrace the support of others in sobriety.
the secret attempts were miserable, demoralizing, confusing and sometimes even scary. I was all alone.
im glad I gave up secrecy.
publicly choosing sobriety for over five years has worked out a million times better.
that never worked out for me.
i needed to acknowledge to everyone around me that I was choosing to live in sobriety and I needed to embrace the support of others in sobriety.
the secret attempts were miserable, demoralizing, confusing and sometimes even scary. I was all alone.
im glad I gave up secrecy.
publicly choosing sobriety for over five years has worked out a million times better.
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Originally Posted by Milliesgone
Loulou, how are you getting on? I hope all is well.
I have really really struggled today. Terrible mood swings and tiredness. Massive cravings but haven’t given in. We’re almost at the 1 week point!! Hooray! How are you getting on? Hope you are finding things easier
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Morning!
Yes all good here, glad you are too.
Today is the challenge for me. I have a family celebration this evening that would usually include getting very drunk. I've prewarned a few but as I'm on medication I shouldn't be drinking anyway.
Keep strong we can do this x
Yes all good here, glad you are too.
Today is the challenge for me. I have a family celebration this evening that would usually include getting very drunk. I've prewarned a few but as I'm on medication I shouldn't be drinking anyway.
Keep strong we can do this x
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Originally Posted by Milliesgone
Morning!
Yes all good here, glad you are too.
Today is the challenge for me. I have a family celebration this evening that would usually include getting very drunk. I've prewarned a few but as I'm on medication I shouldn't be drinking anyway.
Keep strong we can do this x
Yes all good here, glad you are too.
Today is the challenge for me. I have a family celebration this evening that would usually include getting very drunk. I've prewarned a few but as I'm on medication I shouldn't be drinking anyway.
Keep strong we can do this x
Keep my updated and have fun tonight. Imagine how good you’ll feel waking up without a hangover tomorrow when everyone else will be holding their heads saying “what did I do last night”!!
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